Auzkhia wrote:Grenartia wrote:
Look, here's the thing. Most cis people have a very different idea of what it means to be non-binary than what trans people have. Cis people tend to think it means you simply reject gender roles (this leads to shit like Cathy Fucking Brennan of all people calling herself NB), because of course, cis people can barely comprehend binary trans existence. But I absolutely do not think this can be brushed off as NB itself becoming "I'm different look at me!", and I'm kind of insulted at the very thought of it.
Fuck that nonsense. Sure, there's a non-zero amount, but its nowhere near the pervasive problem the anti-trans community wants us to believe it is.
Honest fucking question, but how do you KNOW the people you know are just "doing it for attention"?
Speaking as someone who *HAS* to present "entirely heteronormatively" due to terrible family members, I have to speak up here, and ask how you can be so fucking sure there aren't other factors at play? How do you know for sure that your conclusions about them are correct?
You and Tars are acting like you're both fucking omnipotent mindreaders, when you're only just being gatekeepers.
Fucking thank you.
This, this fucking right here, is why the "transtrender" narrative and gatekeeping are so fucking harmful. Shame on people who unironically parrot that shit.
Funny, considering you yourself have been one of the most vehement anti-gatekeepers on this forum that I've seen. Oh, how the mighty have fallen.
You're welcome friendo!
Although your point on Cathy Brennan reminded me of an acquaintance I knew, she said that she used to identify as non-binary for "political reasons", in a post that was about gender essentialism and saying that trans people aren't really their gender, you know, standard TERF business. She's a radical cultural feminist and reasonable on most issues accept for transgender topics.
And there probably are cases of people questioning their gender, wondering if they might be trans, but who actually realize they are still cis, but at least they know for sure. I still think it's healthy to question everything especially your gender and sexuality. Maybe those are "trenders" we here so much about, but I don't really notice them or feel like they stole anything from me. To restate my point, the transtrender thing is totally overblown and does not pose a real threat to the trans community. Bigots, TERFs, gender essentialists, and division do.Khasinkonia wrote:I realise I may not have clearly worded my thoughts throughout. I more mean it in the way that the term sort of seems to me to have been appropriated by some celebrities for attention rather than understanding the meaning of nonbinary. I can’t read minds, so I don’t entirely know, and media coverage is certainly flawed, but I just get some funky vibes from a few of the celebrity claims.
I think we should take coming out statements seriously and not doubt them. To do otherwise will set a bad precedent.
That certainly makes sense. I suppose there are just some things I’m personally a bit suspicious of, but this is one of the rare occasions where I’ve voiced it because hey, I don’t know for sure, and to claim I did would be stupid.