Reploid Productions wrote:Sjovenia wrote:Your first mistake is using People as a viable source of information for things such as that....I'm glad this thread can give you a "heres why you should talk to women wearing headphones". Let me just put in my two pence..... JUST DO IT. If you see a girl you like you go talk to her. Maybe in at the gym, or at Uni, at work etc etc. You see this girl and you keep telling yourself you are going to talk to this girl. What are you waiting for? JUST DO IT! Yesterday you said tomorrow. Don't let girls get away from you (not to be taken literally in a creepy kidnapping way)...JUST DO IT. The worst she can say is no and some people wont even stop there. So just do it...make your dreams come true. She may say yes. She may so no. You wont know until you JUST DO IT!
That's enough of that now.
Yeah, fine, go for it, take the shot.... so long as you also take "No" for an answer. She might say yes, but if she says no, let it go.Therein lies the problem, way back at the start when the discussion was about a stupid "advice" article by some sleazy pickup artist on how to badger women who are wearing headphones into talking to you. I cannot count the number of times I have had a conversations that are basically variations on this:
Me> *wearing headphones while out in public*
Random Joe> *taps shoulder*
Me> *removes headphones* Yes?
Random Joe> *flirty pickup line*
Me> No thanks, not interested, you're not my type, please leave me alone.
Random Joe> *indignant protest that I don't even know him and haven't talked to him, so how could I possibly know he's not my type?!*
Me> Are you taking no for an answer?
Random Joe> *smug reply, bonus points for vaguely creepy stalkery leer/line*
Me> Then you're not my type. My type has manners and listens when a woman says no. Please leave me alone. *headphones back on*
OPTIONAL BONUS ROUND!
Random Joe> *taps shoulder again, insistence that he's a Nice GuyTM and I owe him a chance*
Me> *does not take headphones off* I said I'm busy, leave me alone.
Random Joe> *more forcefully demands I listen to him*
(If conversation is in something like a coffee shop or other private property:) Me> *tone that is IRL equivalent of the red mod warning text* You either leave me alone, or I complain to the staff here that you are harassing me, and I continue complaining until either you leave me alone or you are thrown out of the premises.
(If conversation is out in a public space:) Me> *tone that is IRL equivalent of the red mod warning text* You either leave me alone, or you can keep harassing me until I feel it is necessary to defend myself and/or call the police.
USUALLY by that point even the most obnoxious of pickup assholes will get the hint. Haven't had one go to the point of actually breaking out the tazer, though there've been a few that came close, and I've ended up getting a few ejected from stores. I have a base line of politeness I start out with toward anyone; how they behave changes that level considerably. Try to talk to me, get rebuffed politely, and take the hint to drop it; then no harm, no foul. Try to talk to me, get rebuffed politely, and then continue demanding my time and attention when I have made it unambiguously clear that I have no interest and would like to be left alone on the other hand, then "politely" quickly goes away.
I'm guessing there are a lot of jackasses where you live, Rep. Perhaps Boston?
Only kidding.
