Relationship and getting one thread

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

You know this thread might actually help me.
I can just post info or ask for help here instead of TET, and thus be less annoying, imo.

I know, I'm just being like this to get a point across.

It's not that this thread is useless, no, but that being in a relationship doesn't require hyper-strategic analysis of every situation you are ever faced on. Sometimes you will fuck up, and you have to learn how to laugh at your failures. You also have to learn how to go with the flow and not think about things too much. A girl will like you if you talk to her. If she is your friend, nothing lost, you just made a good friend. If they like you, more power to you.

Having a relationship is not the be-all end-all of interactions with the opposite sex.

This right here is why NSG needs a Like button. Thank you!

[Soldati Senza Confini]

I know, I'm just being like this to get a point across.

It's not that this thread is useless, no, but that being in a relationship doesn't require hyper-strategic analysis of every situation you are ever faced on. Sometimes you will fuck up, and you have to learn how to laugh at your failures. You also have to learn how to go with the flow and not think about things too much. A girl will like you if you talk to her. If she is your friend, nothing lost, you just made a good friend. If they like you, more power to you.

Having a relationship is not the be-all end-all of interactions with the opposite sex.

This right here is why NSG needs a Like button. Thank you!

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.

But thank you. You, Galla, Alyx and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you all, even when I fuck up.

[The Alexanderians]

You say this as if getting in a pot sticker fight isn't awesome.

Ketchup squirt-bottles. *nod*

I keep mine loaded with Tabasco.

And here I thought you kept blood in your ketchup bottles

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

This right here is why NSG needs a Like button. Thank you!

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.

But thank you. You and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you both, even when I fuck up.

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

[The Joseon Dynasty]

How do I get a woman if I'm socially inept, emotionally stunted, sexually depraved and physically repulsive? Thanks in advance for the input.

Sham citizenship marriage.

Oh, but you'll probably want a better citizenship than British. No one wants to be British any more.

The only other citizenship I'm eligible for is Irish, but I don't think things in the UK have gotten that bad yet.

[Appalatchia]

Don't remind me... I was taking the piss earlier about being a repulsive human being (at least by my own assessment), but it's still true that I haven't had much luck as a student. I'm an alright-looking guy, so I've been approached by girls in the past, but I routinely cock it up by being awkward and panicky. Plus, I'm in econometrics and statistics, so the gender ratio doesn't work in my favour.

Hang out with the theater majors, more than half the guys are gay.

I resent that. I'm a theatre graduate and I'm only half gay.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Hang out with the theater majors, more than half the guys are gay.

I resent that. I'm a theatre graduate and I'm only half gay.

Is your other half strawberry flavored?

[Gauliscia]

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.

But thank you. You and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you both, even when I fuck up.

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

I'd say a trusted friend is better. But my relationship with my parents was strained..

[Salus Maior]

Alright, so, I'm going to explain the situation I'm in because I'm hoping it'll relieve some of the stress I'm having over it.

So, a few days ago I met this girl and we hit it off. We're alike in a lot of ways and I think there's something there. We were communicating fairly regularly for the first couple days and exchanged numbers. But there's been some issue with my phone and so we haven't been communicating very well as of the day before yesterday and now. So, I sent her a message online letting her know about the issue but we still haven't talked since our first couple conversations. I'm considering sending her another message but I don't want to appear clingy or desperate or anything like that. Because I'm not that way in any other relationships I have, I'm really pretty introverted and do well on my own.

Writing this out now, I know it seems like it's not really a big deal, and it's probably isn't at all. But I think I really like her, and that's a very rare thing for me because I'm really not a trusting person and I don't usually find people (well, at least women) that I find a lot in common with. I'm not sure how she feels about me right now, and I don't want to scare her off by seeming desperate for a relationship or whatever. Basically, I'm stressed by the situation and I'm stressed by being stressed at the situation, vicious cycle ahoy let's blow things out of proportion says my mind.

So, any thoughts?

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.

But thank you. You and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you both, even when I fuck up.

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

Oh indeed. That's something I learned quite fast. Don't share with everyone what's between you and your partner. It's very wise advice.

Also, the thing about parents is true, for the most part. I listen to my dad, but I know that he and I view things differently in regards of dating, so I listen, but I only take the parts which I feel are relevant to my situation.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Alright, so, I'm going to explain the situation I'm in because I'm hoping it'll relieve some of the stress I'm having over it.

So, a few days ago I met this girl and we hit it off. We're alike in a lot of ways and I think there's something there. We were communicating fairly regularly for the first couple days and exchanged numbers. But there's been some issue with my phone and so we haven't been communicating very well as of the day before yesterday and now. So, I sent her a message online letting her know about the issue but we still haven't talked since our first couple conversations. I'm considering sending her another message but I don't want to appear clingy or desperate or anything like that. Because I'm not that way in any other relationships I have, I'm really pretty introverted and do well on my own.

Writing this out now, I know it seems like it's not really a big deal, and it's probably isn't at all. But I think I really like her, and that's a very rare thing for me because I'm really not a trusting person and I don't usually find people (well, at least women) that I find a lot in common with. I'm not sure how she feels about me right now, and I don't want to scare her off by seeming desperate for a relationship or whatever. Basically, I'm stressed by the situation and I'm stressed by being stressed at the situation, vicious cycle ahoy let's blow things out of proportion says my mind.

So, any thoughts?

First of all, let me say that if you scare a woman by telling her you like her, then perhaps she probably didn't like you to begin with, and you shouldn't be spending more time than you already are.

I like a lot of women, and have told a lot of women I liked them. Some laughed at me, some have told me I am crazy, some have told me to go fuck myself, some took it in stride and have told me they like me as friends and we're good friends to this day, and some have dated me. You never know, so the most logical thing, for me, is tell them in a way that's respectful to them and at the same time that's not overbearing.

If they like you, they'll tell you it, if they don't and they tell you to fuck off, hey, it was going to happen sooner or later anyways.

[Ashmoria]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

it doesn't matter. s/he's not your sweetheart any more and nothing s/he does or feels is any of your business.

[Ethel mermania]

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.



But thank you. You and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you both, even when I fuck up.

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

because we got married and have stayed married for longer than the kid has been alive, we may know something.

which is in a way is true, boy #2 is starting to ask for relationship advice.


edit: put in wrong place

[Valaran]

tbh, I'm still delving through all of the cosmocking Nana linked. That shit is gold.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

you like because we got married and have stayed married for longer than the kid has been alive, we may know something.

which is in a way is true, boy #2 is starting to ask for relationship advice.

I hope I never have kids because of this whole relationship advice thing...

They'll think I am a jackass.

[Ethel mermania]

you like because we got married and have stayed married for longer than the kid has been alive, we may know something.

which is in a way is true, boy #2 is starting to ask for relationship advice.

I hope I never have kids because of this whole relationship advice thing...

They'll think I am a jackass.

heh you quote edited better than i did thanks

i got some bad news for you, they think you are a jackass regardless of the fact you did the same stupid shit they did 25 years earlier

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

because we got married and have stayed married for longer than the kid has been alive, we may know something.

which is in a way is true, boy #2 is starting to ask for relationship advice.


edit: put in wrong place

It's ok, grandpa. You left your glasses at home and the font is tinyyyyy.

More often than not, honestly, you pappas and mammas do know your stuff and we kiddies should listen. But when we're tweens and think we know it all, we just ignore your advice. It's only after some years of knocking our hard heads against the wall that we realize that you, mammas and pappas, were so so so much on point.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

because we got married and have stayed married for longer than the kid has been alive, we may know something.

which is in a way is true, boy #2 is starting to ask for relationship advice.


edit: put in wrong place

It's ok, grandpa. You left your glasses at home and the font is tinyyyyy.

More often than not, honestly, you pappas and mammas do know your stuff and we kiddies should listen. But when we're tweens and think we know it all, we just ignore your advice. It's only after some years of knocking our hard heads against the wall that we realize that you, mammas and pappas, were so so so much on point.

Can't say I haven't had that feeling with my dad.

Of course, this was after 10 years of he and I basically knocking heads against each other. Nowadays though I listen to him a lot more than before, and he listens to me as well. We learn from each other, really. Of course, he and I think we're the brightest ones of the family, so that contributed to the head-butting.

[Salus Maior]

More often than not, honestly, you pappas and mammas do know your stuff and we kiddies should listen. But when we're tweens and think we know it all, we just ignore your advice. It's only after some years of knocking our hard heads against the wall that we realize that you, mammas and pappas, were so so so much on point.

Yeah, unfortunately I don't really have that. My Dad and Mom separated when I was just becoming a teenager, and he moved to North Carolina so he wasn't exactly present in my life when I was thinking seriously about relationships (and still isn't now or in the foreseeable future). So, I've never been able to get such input on relationships from him (and considering his relationship to my mom, I doubt he would have been much help anyway), and my Mom and I, while being on great terms, don't communicate very well on the subject. I assume that it's because my Mom, while she loves me very much, doesn't have the best understanding of me.

[Ifreann]

Sham citizenship marriage.

Oh, but you'll probably want a better citizenship than British. No one wants to be British any more.

The only other citizenship I'm eligible for is Irish, but I don't think things in the UK have gotten that bad yet.

That and there's no forms for claiming Irish passports left in the UK.

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tbh, I'm still delving through all of the cosmocking Nana linked. That shit is gold.

Say goodbye to the rest of your day.

[Valaran]

tbh, I'm still delving through all of the cosmocking Nana linked. That shit is gold.

Say goodbye to the rest of your day.

Christ, the day's only just begun as well.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Say goodbye to the rest of your day.

Christ, the day's only just begun as well.

Protip: get diapers for peeing from laughter. You'll need them.

[MERIZoC]

This should be fun.

[United Marxist Nations]

This should be fun.

No, it should be heartbreaking.

[The East Marches]

Being honest, it's very liberating to not be under so much scrutiny nowadays from my siblings that I can now laugh at my fuck ups, something I hadn't been able to do in years because I always had to be a perfectionist with them around because they were busting my balls and mocking me relentlessly for not having any overt interest in women, among other things.

It took a while even after what happened at home for me to get used to being comfortable doing that. I still have interpersonal issues, but they're not as accentuated as they were several years ago. Putting emotional and physical distance between them has helped me a lot recently, as well.

But thank you. You and Carrie are great friends, and I admire and respect you both, even when I fuck up.

I'll be honest with you and this is probably the only serious thing I'll say in this thread because, frankly, relationship advice threads on NSG are hilarious. But if there is something I've learned, during the past 10 years, is that your relationship is something private, it should be kept private and the quieter you do things in it, the more discreet you are, the better things are probably going to turn out. If you are having issues, don't discuss them on NSG. Talk about them with your partner.

And if you don't know what to do, ask close friends and your parents. If your parents act contentious about your relationship, as much chagrin as that may cause, listen to them and ponder. They have years on you and very often, very very often, they tend to be on point regarding their misgivings.

Truer words were never spoken on NSG.

I can verify that the above statement is true. I wish I had listened to my father sooner. Mistakes were made.