Relationship and getting one thread

[Great Kauthar]

how to make her stop saying great friend

Be a shitty friend.

you're not wrong but not the direction I want to go.

Tbh, people asking how to get a girl on the Internet are probably only gonna hit some fat nerd bird

tbh I'm not going to ask people I know for advice

[Valaran]

That's the spirit

With people like them it is amazing the things we can accomplish.

I had typed a reply in this same spirit, but it wasn't very kosher, so better not.

Instead, take a well earned kek.

[Great Feng]

Here's some advice: Most girls like guys who aren't too uptight. So don't act uptight, act calm, relaxed, accepting, etc.

[Gauliscia]

Be a shitty friend.

you're not wrong but not the direction I want to go.

Tbh, people asking how to get a girl on the Internet are probably only gonna hit some fat nerd bird

tbh I'm not going to ask people I know for advice

Why not?

[Cannot think of a name]

Be a shitty friend.

you're not wrong but not the direction I want to go.

Alright, this is a shit metaphor but bear with me...haha...that's funny, just wait...

If you've ever been fishing you know that there is this magic moment when the fish takes the bait when you pull and set the hook. From then on it's just reeling it in. If you yank too soon you pull the hook away from the fish, too late and the fish has nibbled the bait off the hook and left you with just a pointless string in the water.

If, and that's a biiiiiiiiiig if, if there was ever a chance between the two of you, you did one of those things. You waited too long or not long enough and now it's over. It's just a fish and a hook occupying the same water trying to make the best of it. It's over. Fish other fish, this one has seen your bait and made its decision. Maybe, just maybe they'll come around for another shot in the future, but that's not enough to count on.


However, the much more likely scenario and one you need to come to terms with in order to interact with humans is this: It was never going to happen. There was never a right time to pull that line because she was never that into your bait. But congratulations! She doesn't hate you, she just doesn't feel that intangible spark between the two of you. It's not a death sentence. It's a default setting. I don't fall deeply in love with every hot chick I see, nor do I start picking out wedding china to every girl who is nice to me in public. Think of all the chicks you've met and you've barely wanted anything to do with but like a fraction of them. It's our default setting. It's not an affront, it's just you didn't overcome this time. Accept your loss and move on. You're going to face more rejection than success. Try not to take it personally.

[Ethel mermania]

That's genuinely one of the most hilarious things I've read in a while. Muchos kudos, and wow, this thread served a glorious purpose after all.

No problem. Bottle, a former poster, linked to this blog and we've been hooked on it at home. It's hilarious.

Where is your sense of adventure.... or humour.

Should I bring the pop corn?

And bourbon.

[Ethel mermania]

Tbh, people asking how to get a girl on the Internet are probably only gonna hit some fat nerd bird

You're a sweet talker, Betty Crocker.

Hey, Betty could cook.

And you know what they say, the way to a man's heart is straight through the rib cage.

[The Joseon Dynasty]

Well, I'm going to be a graduate student living at poverty line for the next 5 years or so, then a post-doc living below the poverty line. I should have tenure and a standard middle class salary by the time I'm 40, though.

How are you struggling for pussy as a student?

Don't remind me... I was taking the piss earlier about being a repulsive human being (at least by my own assessment), but it's still true that I haven't had much luck as a student. I'm an alright-looking guy, so I've been approached by girls in the past, but I routinely cock it up by being awkward and panicky. Plus, I'm in econometrics and statistics, so the gender ratio doesn't work in my favour.

[Ethel mermania]

How are you struggling for pussy as a student?

Don't remind me... I was taking the piss earlier about being a repulsive human being (at least by my own assessment), but it's still true that I haven't had much luck as a student. I'm an alright-looking guy, so I've been approached by girls in the past, but I routinely cock it up by being awkward and panicky. Plus, I'm in econometrics and statistics, so the gender ratio doesn't work in my favour.

Hang out with the theater majors, more than half the guys are gay.

[Gauliscia]

How are you struggling for pussy as a student?

Don't remind me... I was taking the piss earlier about being a repulsive human being (at least by my own assessment), but it's still true that I haven't had much luck as a student. I'm an alright-looking guy, so I've been approached by girls in the past, but I routinely cock it up by being awkward and panicky. Plus, I'm in econometrics and statistics, so the gender ratio doesn't work in my favour.

What's the rush. Bros before hos

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Just talk to them and don't be a prick, I guess?

If she likes you she likes you, if she doesn't she doesn't.

[Ifreann]

So far as diamond rings go, I can't see myself ever getting one. Every buying instinct I have just screams that it is a bad investment. These are not rare gemstones. It stands to reason that carbon is almost everywhere and for that reason, so too will diamonds. The DeBeers company just wants people to believe that "a diamond is forever" when it loses its value like any other item.

To me, a diamond is just a shiny rock. A cubic zirconium looks just as good in my view but if you want a real diamond, you can technically have it made in a laboratory for cheaper with fewer imperfections than the natural equivalent; and not relying on inhumane labor practices overseas to mine it.

This is like saying scaremongering over the supply of uranium for nuclear power is dumb because uranium is in seawater. And topsoil.

yeah
but in absurdly tiny quantities.

If you want to make a diamond ring feel special, have a family member's ashes turned into a diamond. It's a thing.

"This ring is beautiful"
"It's my dead mother"

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How do I get a woman if I'm socially inept, emotionally stunted, sexually depraved and physically repulsive? Thanks in advance for the input.

Sham citizenship marriage.

Oh, but you'll probably want a better citizenship than British. No one wants to be British any more.

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How does one "be confident"?

Down a bottle of potato vodka

Finnish courage. Like Dutch courage, but you end up fighting Russians.

[Great Feng]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

[Salus Maior]

Here's some advice: Most girls like guys who aren't too uptight. So don't act uptight, act calm, relaxed, accepting, etc.

That's a bit hard to do for me. Because I get waaay stressed when it comes to girls and I find it hard to stay totally calm and I then become conflicted about what I should be doing. Which of course I realize I shouldn't do, and then get stressed from that. Vicious cycle and all that.

I'm actually going through a bit of that at the moment, actually.

[Freefall11111]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

There's more to relationships than love. You may be in a relationship with someone you love less because of an endless list of possible circumstances.

[Salus Maior]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

Probably. Women and relationships are weird.

No offense intended to any ladies in this thread.

[Great Feng]

Here's some advice: Most girls like guys who aren't too uptight. So don't act uptight, act calm, relaxed, accepting, etc.

That's a bit hard to do for me. Because I get waaay stressed when it comes to girls and I find it hard to stay totally calm and I become conflicted about what I should be doing. Which of course I realize I shouldn't do, and then get stressed from that. Vicious cycle and all that.

I'm actually going through a bit of that at the moment, actually.

Same. I know I have trouble with it too. Doesn't mean I can't give advice not to do it.

[Salus Maior]

That's a bit hard to do for me. Because I get waaay stressed when it comes to girls and I find it hard to stay totally calm and I become conflicted about what I should be doing. Which of course I realize I shouldn't do, and then get stressed from that. Vicious cycle and all that.

I'm actually going through a bit of that at the moment, actually.

Same. I know I have trouble with it too. Doesn't mean I can't give advice not to do it.

*stress intensifies*

[Great Feng]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

Probably. Women and relationships are weird.

No offense intended to any ladies in this thread.

This person is sexually/physically female but identifies as a guy and wants to become a guy physically. The breakup I had with him/her was over that, but I'm finally going to bend my religious views and try to ignore that I am straight for this person that I love so much.
Then he/she has a relationship.
Oh well. I'll just wait. It's nothing new to me anyway.

[Cannot think of a name]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

You love who you love in the time that you love them.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

This might be a stupid Question: So let's say that your ex is in a relationship. I always assume the deciding factor of who they choose is who they "love more". Is that necessarily the case most of the time(I know it's definitely not always, so I'm saying most of the time) or most of the time is it more than that and a person can love the person they rejected more but chose the other person for some other reason?

Who cares? If they choose someone, that's who they chose for whatever reason.

Love can only get relationships so far.

[New haven america]

how make woman talk

What's a "Woman"?

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Probably. Women and relationships are weird.

No offense intended to any ladies in this thread.

This person is sexually/physically female but identifies as a guy and wants to become a guy physically. The breakup I had with him/her was over that, but I'm finally going to bend my religious views and try to ignore that I am straight for this person that I love so much.
Then he/she has a relationship.
Oh well. I'll just wait. It's nothing new to me anyway.

If that's how you roll that's how you roll.

[Great Feng]

This person is sexually/physically female but identifies as a guy and wants to become a guy physically. The breakup I had with him/her was over that, but I'm finally going to bend my religious views and try to ignore that I am straight for this person that I love so much.
Then he/she has a relationship.
Oh well. I'll just wait. It's nothing new to me anyway.

If that's how you roll that's how you roll.

You know this thread might actually help me.
I can just post info or ask for help here instead of TET, and thus be less annoying, imo.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

If that's how you roll that's how you roll.

You know this thread might actually help me.
I can just post info or ask for help here instead of TET, and thus be less annoying, imo.

I know, I'm just being like this to get a point across.

It's not that this thread is useless, no, but that being in a relationship doesn't require hyper-strategic analysis of every situation you are ever faced on. Sometimes you will fuck up, and you have to learn how to laugh at your failures. You also have to learn how to go with the flow and not think about things too much. A girl will like you if you talk to her. If she is your friend, nothing lost, you just made a good friend. If they like you, more power to you.

Having a relationship is not the be-all end-all of interactions with the opposite sex.