Relationship and getting one thread

[United Marxist Nations]

My point is that people for whom the people meeting those categories is a lot more narrow, would have a much more difficult time dating.

For example, I disapprove of all non-marital sex, which disqualifies the vast majority of people just on the "similar moral outlook" one. Then, you have to further narrow it down. You end up with the potential pool being only a very, very tiny fraction of the population (most likely, well under one-percent), and even have the possibility of going much of your life never actually having a chance to meet a person who is part of that pool.

Oh ego search. I missed this response.


It's adorable that you think this is a unique situation and that everyone else is wandering around going, "Fuck it, they've got the junk I'm looking for, it'll do."

Buuuuut, that's not the case. The default setting for just about everybody, even that jerkwad that keeps elbowing you and telling you he'd have a go at that chick (trans-atlantic slang mashing!) is 'they don't want to fuck'. The percentage of women on this Earth who want to fuck me is so ridiculously small that it might as well be zero and yet...it's still happened. And the number of women I want to fuck...actually want to fuck and not just "Sweet jesus she has a nice body and a pleasant enough personality that it doesn't detract from that..." is effectively zero and yet I've met more than the number who also wanted to fuck me.

It's not that I lack standards or don't have some sort of list of my own that isn't as strict, it's that I live in the world that's chocked full of fucking people and you eventually meet all manner of motherfuckers out there.

I don't know if you're going to find 'the one'. I don't care much either way, but it could happen. It happens to a lot of people and their puzzle pieces whether you believe it or not are just as weird as yours if a different shape. You don't have to even look for it. I never have, I've just gotten on with my life and occasionally noticed that there was someone running parallel with me. If you refuse to accept the possibility then yes, you won't find anyone. But it's not because you have standards. That's silly.

Literally about 85% of people in my potential dating pool have had sex, so, yeah, I consider that statistically significant, as it rules out about 85% of women.

So, of the remaining 15%, we would have to apply whatever the percentage points of ones that there is mutual attraction with, then the percentage of those that like to talk about history, theology, philosophy (and other things of that sort) pretty much all the time, and then the percentage points of those who would be likely to make the first move (as I have mentioned, I have crippling anxiety to the point of panic attacks in public even when women do approach me), and then the percentage that are fine with the fairly high chance that any children we will have will inherit my mental illnesses.

But yeah, totally not statistically significant.

Also, as for just meeting people: I just went ten months without meeting even a friend at my university. So, no, I have no faith in people just falling into my lap, my life isn't an anime where I'm the main character.

[Costa Fierro]

This is unscientific.

And yet, you expect me to take your anecdotal evidence at face value?

And a weird leap. Like a super weird leap. I don't get this logic at all. In fact, the more I examine it and try to make sense of it, the odder it gets. I can't even come up with jokey explanations of how this is supposed to work.

You went on about how I didn't want to consider your friends success as being legitimate because it could have been me. I said it's not me, because if that was the case, I'd have already had a girlfriend.

You've taken it personal.

Because you people made it about me.

Not really sure why this is being brought up, though.

You said I had made this about me when it was people like you who did it. You brought it up, not me.

[Cannot think of a name]

Oh ego search. I missed this response.


It's adorable that you think this is a unique situation and that everyone else is wandering around going, "Fuck it, they've got the junk I'm looking for, it'll do."

Buuuuut, that's not the case. The default setting for just about everybody, even that jerkwad that keeps elbowing you and telling you he'd have a go at that chick (trans-atlantic slang mashing!) is 'they don't want to fuck'. The percentage of women on this Earth who want to fuck me is so ridiculously small that it might as well be zero and yet...it's still happened. And the number of women I want to fuck...actually want to fuck and not just "Sweet jesus she has a nice body and a pleasant enough personality that it doesn't detract from that..." is effectively zero and yet I've met more than the number who also wanted to fuck me.

It's not that I lack standards or don't have some sort of list of my own that isn't as strict, it's that I live in the world that's chocked full of fucking people and you eventually meet all manner of motherfuckers out there.

I don't know if you're going to find 'the one'. I don't care much either way, but it could happen. It happens to a lot of people and their puzzle pieces whether you believe it or not are just as weird as yours if a different shape. You don't have to even look for it. I never have, I've just gotten on with my life and occasionally noticed that there was someone running parallel with me. If you refuse to accept the possibility then yes, you won't find anyone. But it's not because you have standards. That's silly.

Literally about 85% of people in my potential dating pool have had sex, so, yeah, I consider that statistically significant, as it rules out about 85% of women.

So, of the remaining 15%, we would have to apply whatever the percentage points of ones that there is mutual attraction with, then the percentage of those that like to talk about history, theology, philosophy (and other things of that sort) pretty much all the time, and then the percentage points of those who would be likely to make the first move (as I have mentioned, I have crippling anxiety to the point of panic attacks in public even when women do approach me), and then the percentage that are fine with the fairly high chance that any children we will have will inherit my mental illnesses.

But yeah, totally not statistically significant.

Also, as for just meeting people: I just went ten months without meeting even a friend at my university. So, no, I have no faith in people just falling into my lap, my life isn't an anime where I'm the main character.

I mean, you know those numbers you just pulled out of your ass are actually better than mine, right?

[United Marxist Nations]

Literally about 85% of people in my potential dating pool have had sex, so, yeah, I consider that statistically significant, as it rules out about 85% of women.

So, of the remaining 15%, we would have to apply whatever the percentage points of ones that there is mutual attraction with, then the percentage of those that like to talk about history, theology, philosophy (and other things of that sort) pretty much all the time, and then the percentage points of those who would be likely to make the first move (as I have mentioned, I have crippling anxiety to the point of panic attacks in public even when women do approach me), and then the percentage that are fine with the fairly high chance that any children we will have will inherit my mental illnesses.

But yeah, totally not statistically significant.

Also, as for just meeting people: I just went ten months without meeting even a friend at my university. So, no, I have no faith in people just falling into my lap, my life isn't an anime where I'm the main character.

I mean, you know those numbers you just pulled out of your ass are actually better than mine, right?

I didn't pull them out of my ass: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf

[Cannot think of a name]

This is unscientific.

And yet, you expect me to take your anecdotal evidence at face value?

Again, I don't expect shit out of you except to bang the same drum over and over again no matter how ridiculous it sounds. Thought I was clear on that.

And a weird leap. Like a super weird leap. I don't get this logic at all. In fact, the more I examine it and try to make sense of it, the odder it gets. I can't even come up with jokey explanations of how this is supposed to work.

You went on about how I didn't want to consider your friends success as being legitimate because it could have been me. I said it's not me, because if that was the case, I'd have already had a girlfriend.

You know you just said the exact same thing without actually explaining anything, right?

You've taken it personal.

Because you people made it about me.

We're talking about you and your philosophy and your failure to get a relationship. Do you want us to dress up a doll and call it CF and pretend that's who we're talking about?

Not really sure why this is being brought up, though.

You said I had made this about me when it was people like you who did it. You brought it up, not me.

"Where ever there's a bavarian who is only kind of hungry, you'll be there..."



That's a pretty esoteric reference but fuck it. What I'm responding to only makes a marginal amount of sense anyway and I'm guessing to fill in a whole lot of blanks, I can make a stretch.

[Kubra]

I mean, you know those numbers you just pulled out of your ass are actually better than mine, right?

I didn't pull them out of my ass: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf

wouldn't your dating pool be your local orthodox church tho
likes meet where likes gather

[Cannot think of a name]

I mean, you know those numbers you just pulled out of your ass are actually better than mine, right?

I didn't pull them out of my ass: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf

Great. They're still better. Go out there and get 'em champ.

[United Marxist Nations]

I didn't pull them out of my ass: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf

wouldn't your dating pool be your local orthodox church tho
likes meet where likes gather

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

[Cannot think of a name]

wouldn't your dating pool be your local orthodox church tho
likes meet where likes gather

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

Ooooo...preacher's daughter...




fuck it, that's too easy...moving on...

[Pandeeria]

wouldn't your dating pool be your local orthodox church tho
likes meet where likes gather

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

Are you not willing to date someone who is at least just Catholic?

[United Marxist Nations]

I didn't pull them out of my ass: http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhsr/nhsr036.pdf

Great. They're still better. Go out there and get 'em champ.

Even with all the other qualifiers I mentioned? Like I mentioned before, women generally don't jump for mentally ill, socially awkward, and socially anxious men. I actually mentioned earlier in the thread that the only noticing women did of me in my first year was start a horrible rumor about me because of my reclusiveness.

[Kubra]

wouldn't your dating pool be your local orthodox church tho
likes meet where likes gather

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

try sunday service at a dif church on the grounds of ecumenism.
They might not be orthodox, but they'll at least be down with the whole sex-after-marriage thing and be some sort of christian
no prots tho

[Costa Fierro]

We're talking about you and your philosophy and your failure to get a relationship. Do you want us to dress up a doll and call it CF and pretend that's who we're talking about?

So why bring it up that I've made the thread about myself then?

[United Marxist Nations]

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

Are you not willing to date someone who is at least just Catholic?

I would be, which is why I said I wouldn't limit it, but, for marriage (which is what I am ultimately looking for) to be on the table, they would have to convert.

[Draymond]

First, there will always be somebody in the world who is just as attractive as you are, so never feel that you don't have the looks to find a partner.

Secondly, from a male-to-female perspective, looks don't matter all that much anyway. Guys care more about appearance than girls do. Girls aren't nearly as primal. A sense of humor and a personality can get you very far out of your league.

Thirdly, hygiene is important. Always take showers. Always brush your teeth. Always wash and comb your hair. Pay attention to the little details, because someone else might too. Clean/cut your nails. Clean your ears out every now and then.

Fourth, fashion. Not really that important. Keep your clothes clean and in good condition. Never wear dirty or torn clothing. If you really want to look nice, look up some ideas for outfits on the internet or tips on current style trends. But never take up a clothing style that your personality can't back up.

Fifth, watch your words and actions. People look at that shit. People want to know you'll be a secure partner. Try to stay calm during arguments. Don't belittle their interests or ideas. Don't say and do shit that will make them think you can't provide what you're supposed to, because psychologically, that's a real detriment. Think about what a primitive human being would want" safety, protection, strength, all that. Then think of ways you can subliminally show your partner you're the one who can provide it.

And finally, be authentic to yourself, because that's the ultimate decider.

[United Marxist Nations]

I generally define my dating pool to be women age 19 (my own age) to 24 (I don't really want to date younger than myself).

If I were to limit it to the local Orthodox Church, then the dating pool would be nonexistent, because the only girl there my age is the priest's daughter, who, while I like her, is already in a committed relationship.

try sunday service at a dif church on the grounds of ecumenism.
They might not be orthodox, but they'll at least be down with the whole sex-after-marriage thing and be some sort of christian
no prots tho

I tolerate ecumenism in that I think all non-Orthodox churches should seek unity with the Orthodox Church.

[Cannot think of a name]

Great. They're still better. Go out there and get 'em champ.

Even with all the other qualifiers I mentioned? Like I mentioned before, women generally don't jump for mentally ill, socially awkward, and socially anxious men. I actually mentioned earlier in the thread that the only noticing women did of me in my first year was start a horrible rumor about me because of my reclusiveness.

Yes, you special little snowflake you, yes. Your hang ups are your hang ups and everyone else has a big ol' list of their own. It's uniquely human maybe...maybe, I can't help but think there's a rabbit out there who thinks he's the only selective rabbit in the world...but it is not unique to you. It is a grotesquely small number for everyone, but the good news is we meet a fuckton of people in our lives.

You're 19. You've barely even started.

[Cannot think of a name]

We're talking about you and your philosophy and your failure to get a relationship. Do you want us to dress up a doll and call it CF and pretend that's who we're talking about?

So why bring it up that I've made the thread about myself then?

'Cause you have. You know you have, there's no real need to do this play within a play, we can move on.

[Draymond]

Great. They're still better. Go out there and get 'em champ.

Even with all the other qualifiers I mentioned? Like I mentioned before, women generally don't jump for mentally ill, socially awkward, and socially anxious men. I actually mentioned earlier in the thread that the only noticing women did of me in my first year was start a horrible rumor about me because of my reclusiveness.

I meet a lot of people like you: people who feel that nobody would ever go for somebody who's x, x, and x. But that's not true! Plenty of potential partners have x, x, and x. And plenty of potential partners are willing to overlook x, x, and x. Charles Manson once had a girlfriend. If people can overlook leading a cult to commit numerous homicides, anything else is surely possible.

[Kubra]

try sunday service at a dif church on the grounds of ecumenism.
They might not be orthodox, but they'll at least be down with the whole sex-after-marriage thing and be some sort of christian
no prots tho

I tolerate ecumenism in that I think all non-Orthodox churches should seek unity with the Orthodox Church.

oy, your only option is to move to eastern europe then
well, in all seriousness, that's not a bad idea. Native english speakers get a good deal wherever they go, it's our perfidious anglo privilege, and you won't have to worry about girls not being orthodox.

[Draymond]

So why bring it up that I've made the thread about myself then?

'Cause you have. You know you have, there's no real need to do this play within a play, we can move on.

Nothing wrong with a good frame story.

[United Marxist Nations]

I tolerate ecumenism in that I think all non-Orthodox churches should seek unity with the Orthodox Church.

oy, your only option is to move to eastern europe then
well, in all seriousness, that's not a bad idea. Native english speakers get a good deal wherever they go, and you won't have to worry about girls not being orthodox.

I have strongly considered it. Mainly considering Belarus because, if I picked Russia, I feel like I would be confined to Moscow, and because Ukraine is an eternal shithole. The main problem is that it would be another three or more years before I could even hope to get there, and I don't know how good their mental health programs are.

[New Benian Republic]

Don't do it, they'll be your fiancée and then cheat on you a few days before marriage with your best mate.

[Norstal]

Olive Garden?

You better get a penicillin shot, ASAP. That or women from Washington are nuts. The women of California have nothing but disdain for the foul establishment known as Olive Garden.

Nah, I'm talking Florida girls.

That's an extremely low standard there.

[Kubra]

oy, your only option is to move to eastern europe then
well, in all seriousness, that's not a bad idea. Native english speakers get a good deal wherever they go, and you won't have to worry about girls not being orthodox.

I have strongly considered it. Mainly considering Belarus because, if I picked Russia, I feel like I would be confined to Moscow, and because Ukraine is an eternal shithole. The main problem is that it would be another three or more years before I could even hope to get there, and I don't know how good their mental health programs are.

what's wrong with Moscow tho
you're in a shining world capital, what more could you want? Affordable rent?
They're probably bad, but whatever meds you're getting now are gonna be 10x cheaper. Lotta cheap meds in Russia.