Cannot think of a name wrote:United Marxist Nations wrote:My point is that people for whom the people meeting those categories is a lot more narrow, would have a much more difficult time dating.
For example, I disapprove of all non-marital sex, which disqualifies the vast majority of people just on the "similar moral outlook" one. Then, you have to further narrow it down. You end up with the potential pool being only a very, very tiny fraction of the population (most likely, well under one-percent), and even have the possibility of going much of your life never actually having a chance to meet a person who is part of that pool.
Oh ego search. I missed this response.
It's adorable that you think this is a unique situation and that everyone else is wandering around going, "Fuck it, they've got the junk I'm looking for, it'll do."
Buuuuut, that's not the case. The default setting for just about everybody, even that jerkwad that keeps elbowing you and telling you he'd have a go at that chick (trans-atlantic slang mashing!) is 'they don't want to fuck'. The percentage of women on this Earth who want to fuck me is so ridiculously small that it might as well be zero and yet...it's still happened. And the number of women I want to fuck...actually want to fuck and not just "Sweet jesus she has a nice body and a pleasant enough personality that it doesn't detract from that..." is effectively zero and yet I've met more than the number who also wanted to fuck me.
It's not that I lack standards or don't have some sort of list of my own that isn't as strict, it's that I live in the world that's chocked full of fucking people and you eventually meet all manner of motherfuckers out there.
I don't know if you're going to find 'the one'. I don't care much either way, but it could happen. It happens to a lot of people and their puzzle pieces whether you believe it or not are just as weird as yours if a different shape. You don't have to even look for it. I never have, I've just gotten on with my life and occasionally noticed that there was someone running parallel with me. If you refuse to accept the possibility then yes, you won't find anyone. But it's not because you have standards. That's silly.
Literally about 85% of people in my potential dating pool have had sex, so, yeah, I consider that statistically significant, as it rules out about 85% of women.
So, of the remaining 15%, we would have to apply whatever the percentage points of ones that there is mutual attraction with, then the percentage of those that like to talk about history, theology, philosophy (and other things of that sort) pretty much all the time, and then the percentage points of those who would be likely to make the first move (as I have mentioned, I have crippling anxiety to the point of panic attacks in public even when women do approach me), and then the percentage that are fine with the fairly high chance that any children we will have will inherit my mental illnesses.
But yeah, totally not statistically significant.
Also, as for just meeting people: I just went ten months without meeting even a friend at my university. So, no, I have no faith in people just falling into my lap, my life isn't an anime where I'm the main character.