Do You Want A Yandere Girlfriend?

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Yeah, in a manner. Or why people enjoy vampire literature. It's just the liking of a particular genre, I'd say. I like vampires in literature, I wouldn't like having a vampire as a partner IRL.

I will be fairly likely to be the tall one in any relationship I have. Maybe the girls in those games represent my wishes or maybe a height range of my ideal female partner.

It's a form or escapism and it's fine. You're not going around, however, murdering people because senpai isn't noticing you.

[The Wolven League]

Sure, why not.

https://www.nationstates.net/page=dispatch/id=67941

[Internationalist Bastard]

I get the impression it's a bunch of very lonely men with terrible personal hygiene and social skills finding an escape of their miserable lives by fawning over something that represents them but female form.

Well Yandere Sim is actually just a game

[Jetan]

What, not a fan of hickeys?

Not if they will cause me an iron deficiency, nope.

Nothing a little spinach won't fix!

[Saiwania]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

[Kanaria]

Too much effort to make. Best to avoid getting into that in the first place for me.

Definitely. Glad we don't live in Fictionland, where the blood and guts are more exciting to the government than mental health.

Honestly speaking, and from the perspective of someone who does enjoy anime, I never thought the yandere trope was good. In fact, I liked watching the Higurashi series, but I didn't enjoy Rena and the Sonozaki twins going psycho. I understand this was necessary for the overall plot of the franchise, mind you. It was because of the Hinamizawa Syndrome, and all. But the ''cute girl that disembowels you'' character grows old fast, at least IMO.

I wouldn't know, honestly. I've only watched anime sparingly, and all but two lacked a cute girl that could disembowel you. They added a lot of tension to the shows.

Depends. It told me what being a yandere's object of desire would be like.
It was horrific.
I only ever knew their factbook. What happened to them? CTE or something more nefarious?
I found the dispatch:
How to deal with the population of a country full of yandere. Or go insane, whichever comes first. Glad these things outlive their writers!

Just CTE as far as I'm aware.

Ah. Time takes so many people away...I guess NS reflects reality more than I thought.

[Washington Resistance Army]

Sure, why not.

https://www.nationstates.net/page=dispatch/id=67941

Well now that sounds like fun

[Alyakia]

I get the impression it's a bunch of very lonely men with terrible personal hygiene and social skills finding an escape of their miserable lives by fawning over something that represents them but female form.

what happens is that a select few of us become females to compensate for the massive gender imbalance. it's like fish.

[The Wolven League]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

Problem is, they'd likely kill you for leaving them. They're that obsessive.

Yanderes aren't your typical obsessive girlfriend. I learned that within five minutes of being on this thread.

[Internationalist Bastard]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

This. This post has made realise I'm the not the biggest bastard on ns

[TURTLESHROOM II]

Can we get a tl;dr about what a "Yandere" is? I really don't want to read a page about anime and psychology or whatever the OP is talking about...

Obsessive girlfriend that will kill for your attention.

Both figuratively and literally.

I always get them confused with Tsundere.

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This is a very interesting topic that I'd like to analyze in pertinence to my life. Wall of text ensues.

Concerning the debate, I doubt any girl who truly is obsessed with me would need to fight or kill for my attention, unless she misinterprets my sister's female friends coming over to my house as me seeking other options.

Anyone serious about dating me and that obsessed about me would be fully aware of my relevant faults.

1. I have never had any romantic relationship.

2. I am mentally incompetent to hold a job, so I cannot provide for the woman. While I am perfectly okay with women working jobs, I cannot under any circumstances enter a relationship without me having a job and at least trying to provide for the woman.
Any would be obsessed suitor would have to understand that I would not date/marry them until I can at least pretend to provide for them, regardless of if they choose to work or not. That means I need a job and I need money.
If she truly loved me, she'd wait.

3. I cannot drive.

4. I do not have money. See part two.

Then there's my conduct towards women.

1. I will refuse any sex under any circumstances at any time unless the woman agrees to be my wife.

2. Any severing of the romantic relationship will be done in person.

3. All dating will be monogamous. Any seeing of other women on a romantic note will be discussed with the current girlfriend.

4. I will expect to be allowed to open and hold doors and provide other courtly pleasantries to the woman in question whenever I am in contact with her.

5. She is not to get naked before me unless she agrees to be my wife.

6. All physical contact (kissing, grabbing, petting hair, touching parts of the body, etc.) will be explicitly requested immediately before initiation. This is because I cannot read cues or pick up body language. It avoids complications and rejection, and keeps me from having to guess what the woman in question wants.

7. I reserve the right to sever the relationship at any time, and likewise, so does the woman in question.

8. I will dress properly, modestly, and in a manner befitting the woman, and I expect the woman to do the same. No cleavage, no exceptions. Pants, skirts, or dresses should not be less the middle fingertip. (I maintain a stricter rule for myself: collared shirt or suit on at all time, long pants on all dates. To do otherwise would make me a hypocrite.)
I would not date a woman who dresses immodestly by my standards, so this one would never come into play in a serious relationship.

9. Should wedlock succeed, I and the woman are to be considered total equals in all circumstances except accounting/finance and religious matters like church attendance. All other situations merit the woman's voice and opinion equally as, and even greater than, my own.
In a boyfriend/girlfriend situation, total equality without exception would be enforced.

Of course, in analyzing an obsessive girlfriend, we must consider what she considers a violation of the relationship. It boils down to if she truly loved me.

Would she flip if I severed the relationship? (Trick quesion: I wouldn't sever the relationship unless we have extraordinary contradictions or it turns hostile.)

Would she, knowing full well that I oppose violence against women for any reason except them directly and physically trying to attack or harm me, harm another woman? If she truly loved me, she wouldn't.

Would she consider the presence of other women not related to me by blood to be a threat? If she is obsessed with me, she would know my code of conduct between women and in romantic settings: so if she truly loved me, she wouldn't.

Would she agree to the terms of absitence of sex until wedlock? If she truly loved me, she would.

Would she insist on being controlling and dominant over me and my affrairs? If she truly loved me, she wouldn't.


Unlike many anime heroes, the Yandere woman would not have to fear me seeing someone else or leaving her. She would never have to fear being set aside or left alone. She would have an eternally faithful man who would die rather than have her harmed. She'd have a committed husband and a devoted spouse. After wedlock, she would never have to worry about me going outside the union or divorcing.

God willing, I would marry any woman who is truly obsessed with me, even if they weren't attractive, because I will take what I can get and should not get picky, because most women are not going to want to have to care for a mentally ill (autistic) husband that has expensive medications and a limited ability to support the family.
A woman obsessed with me would be a blessing because that would ensure she'd never leave me or forsake me and protect my wellbeing.

The entire answer as to whether or not I'd want a Yandere woman by my side boils down to this.

Does she truly love me, or is she just infatuated?

If she truly loves me, she knows that if she kills to get my attention (which I'd freely give to her at her leisure), I will be forced to fight back for the victims.

If she truly loves me, she would not kill or harm others.

[Alyakia]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

hmm yes yanderes are famous for being a-ok with people that get them pregnant and leave them high and dry, what could possibly go wrong

[Jetan]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

Because crossing the paranoid, over-possessive, insane mass murderer is a guarantee for a long and limbful life. *nods*

[Rio Cana]

No. Crazy girlfriends, anime characters or not, are not fun to have.

So does that mean you would not go out with Callisto.
This is Callisto -
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d4RYBr_uiRE

[Kanaria]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

They'll find and kill you eventually, mate.
This is the survival guide.

I get the impression it's a bunch of very lonely men with terrible personal hygiene and social skills finding an escape of their miserable lives by fawning over something that represents them but female form.

what happens is that a select few of us become females to compensate for the massive gender imbalance. it's like fish.

[Costa Fierro]

I get the impression it's a bunch of very lonely men with terrible personal hygiene and social skills finding an escape of their miserable lives by fawning over something that represents them but female form.

what happens is that a select few of us become females to compensate for the massive gender imbalance. it's like fish.

Nature always finds a way.

[The Serbian Empire]

I get the impression it's a bunch of very lonely men with terrible personal hygiene and social skills finding an escape of their miserable lives by fawning over something that represents them but female form.

what happens is that a select few of us become females to compensate for the massive gender imbalance. it's like fish.

Are you talking about people like me? No, that's not why I'm transitioning. I want to be a woman. Not for fat overweight otaku.

[Jetan]

Honestly speaking, and from the perspective of someone who does enjoy anime, I never thought the yandere trope was good. In fact, I liked watching the Higurashi series, but I didn't enjoy Rena and the Sonozaki twins going psycho. I understand this was necessary for the overall plot of the franchise, mind you. It was because of the Hinamizawa Syndrome, and all. But the ''cute girl that disembowels you'' character grows old fast, at least IMO.

I wouldn't know, honestly. I've only watched anime sparingly, and all but two lacked a cute girl that could disembowel you. They added a lot of tension to the shows.

Just CTE as far as I'm aware.

Ah. Time takes so many people away...I guess NS reflects reality more than I thought.

Indeed.

[Dahon]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

I find this image to be the only appropriate one:

[Saiwania]

This. This post has made realise I'm the not the biggest bastard on ns

It'd be worse if I left the children with a yandere mother. At least I want to raise them. If I'd like children but a yandere is obsessed enough with me to let me do so, this is a happy accident to take advantage of. A golden opportunity doesn't present itself that often.

[Imperializt Russia]

"Yandere" is a pretty common trope in western nerd culture, if not itself called yandere.

[Jetan]

This. This post has made realise I'm the not the biggest bastard on ns

It'd be worse if I left the children with a yandere mother. At least I want to raise them. If I'd like children but a yandere is obsessed enough with me to let me do so, this is a happy accident to take advantage of. A golden opportunity doesn't present itself that often.

Blades, however, do.

[Ximea]

what happens is that a select few of us become females to compensate for the massive gender imbalance. it's like fish.

Are you talking about people like me? No, that's not why I'm transitioning. I want to be a woman. Not for fat overweight otaku.

It didn't sound like it was anything to do with you specifically. It was just a humorous comparison of otaku to certain natural scenarios in which life, uh, finds a way.

[Internationalist Bastard]

This. This post has made realise I'm the not the biggest bastard on ns

It'd be worse if I left the children with a yandere mother. At least I want to raise them. If I'd like children but a yandere is obsessed enough with me to let me do so, this is a happy accident to take advantage of. A golden opportunity doesn't present itself that often.

To abandon a woman who's madly in love with you after having kids with her? That's a golden opurtunity?

[Islamic Republic e Jariri]

I don't think it'd be all that bad. The thing is, I think it'd be hard for a yandere to actually upset me. Chances are I'd get them upset through not doing what they say. With enough luck, I could even use their obsession to my advantage like getting them pregnant, taking the children, and then leaving them high and dry if they're simply too troublesome to keep being around.

Wow, and I thought I was a terrible person...