Galloism wrote:Probably both - which is more is questionable.
In my service where I try to counsel men who have been raped, those who have decided to approach their rapist on the subject (which frequently happens when she is a wife or girlfriend) is near universally met with incredulity.
Like he's trying to explain how he was kidnapped by aliens.
But, then again, that's the reaction often received from friends or family as well, of both genders. So it's a very serious problem cutting across both genders.
That is the worst part of rape culture of course - the feeling of alienation one has from people they know, as if they are seen as sub-human, or they are to blame for what happened to them. It is pretty much universal in rape cases, as you are saying.