Yeah. Open top combined with chunky heels is horribly unbalanced. Boots are best.
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by Linux and the X » Tue Apr 05, 2016 10:15 pm
by The Grey Wolf » Tue Apr 05, 2016 10:22 pm
by Linux and the X » Tue Apr 05, 2016 10:24 pm
by USS Monitor » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:06 pm
by The Grey Wolf » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:12 pm
by Aphryss » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:13 pm
USS Monitor wrote:Aphryss wrote:Oh man, I'm conflicted about heels. I'm not sure if I like them or not. I guess I like some of them? Plus I know they're painful and hard to walk in.
You might have to shop around more if you want to look pretty and feminine without wearing heels, but it can be done. There are some really nice flat-soled women's boots out there.
by Nature-Spirits » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:32 pm
Torsiedelle wrote:Hi.
Just, well, popping in. I don't really have much to discuss. Still feel kind of weird, I guess? I don't give this much thought nowadays, though I guess I do find myself kind of casually/offhandedly thinking like a woman more than a man, of that makes sense? I dunno, I'm weird. Anyways, hi again.
by USS Monitor » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:34 pm
Aphryss wrote:USS Monitor wrote:
You might have to shop around more if you want to look pretty and feminine without wearing heels, but it can be done. There are some really nice flat-soled women's boots out there.
I think if I were to define it down, I like some heels (not too high) but I don't like stilettos. Flatter is generally more practical, but there's no reason to go completely flat ... and no reason to be completely practical 100% of the time.
by Linux and the X » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:50 pm
Nature-Spirits wrote:Join a roller derby club.
by Vassenor » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:55 pm
by The Alexanderians » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:56 pm
Linux and the X wrote:Nature-Spirits wrote:Join a roller derby club.
The WFTDA rules for trans people are pretty decent. HRT is required for tournaments, but not for non-tournament play. They don't require that teams accept trans women (which would be difficult to enforce at best), but they do encourage it.
Galloism wrote:Or we can go with feminism doesn't exist. We all imagined it. Collectively.
by Vassenor » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:56 pm
by The Alexanderians » Tue Apr 05, 2016 11:57 pm
Vassenor wrote:And the less said about the crap rules from that League of Legends tournament the better.
Galloism wrote:Or we can go with feminism doesn't exist. We all imagined it. Collectively.
by Czardas » Wed Apr 06, 2016 12:33 am
Aphryss wrote:W/R/T the number of trans men (I can't be bothered quoting, it's a PITA to edit quotes for the relevant bits on my iPad), my theory is that a woman who assumes masculine roles is seen by society as reaching upwards. So masculine women or butch lesbians stand out less than effeminate men, who are seen as reaching downwards. If that makes sense. Pronouns and things in that paragraph are a mess, but you get what I mean.
by USS Monitor » Wed Apr 06, 2016 12:37 am
Czardas wrote:Aphryss wrote:W/R/T the number of trans men (I can't be bothered quoting, it's a PITA to edit quotes for the relevant bits on my iPad), my theory is that a woman who assumes masculine roles is seen by society as reaching upwards. So masculine women or butch lesbians stand out less than effeminate men, who are seen as reaching downwards. If that makes sense. Pronouns and things in that paragraph are a mess, but you get what I mean.
I don't think this is really true, or at least hasn't been in my experience. Women who are genuinely gender-nonconforming (i.e. as opposed to the "thin, white, conventionally attractive but maybe has short hair or something" images that are the conventional and nonthreatening presentation of female gender-nonconformity) have a very difficult time of it, and are rarely if ever perceived as "masculine", but rather as something like monstrous—and those who are seen as masculine are treated almost as usurpers, and often subject to violence or harassment intended to force them back within a feminine/submissive role. (even if this is only by creating a constant fear of men in order to limit their participation in the public sphere)
I think trans men transition earlier for precisely the opposite reason—it's much more difficult to live as a "masculine" woman than as a man, even a "feminine" one. But what appears to be a higher prevalence of sex dysphoria among trans men also may play a role. Dysphorics rarely ever survive past about twenty without either transitioning or reacclimatising to their bodies some other way. (Often both, in whichever order.)
by Neutraligon » Wed Apr 06, 2016 1:54 am
by Torsiedelle » Wed Apr 06, 2016 2:02 am
by Vassenor » Wed Apr 06, 2016 2:12 am
by Aphryss » Wed Apr 06, 2016 2:14 am
Torsiedelle wrote:Thanks for the support and whatnot.
I guess I really haven't been thinking too much about gender dysphoria and stuff because of other issues that have been going on, like fucking depression and stress. I was seriously about to just freak out and start jumping down someone's throat a few minutes ago because they gave me the wrong tine to do something. I really just want to punch people a lot now. I don't think about my identity too much, because I'm either completely miserable or angry as hell.
by Grenartia » Wed Apr 06, 2016 8:32 am
by Grenartia » Wed Apr 06, 2016 8:36 am
Torsiedelle wrote:Thanks for the support and whatnot.
I guess I really haven't been thinking too much about gender dysphoria and stuff because of other issues that have been going on, like fucking depression and stress. I was seriously about to just freak out and start jumping down someone's throat a few minutes ago because they gave me the wrong tine to do something. I really just want to punch people a lot now. I don't think about my identity too much, because I'm either completely miserable or angry as hell.
by Linux and the X » Wed Apr 06, 2016 12:58 pm
by Vassenor » Wed Apr 06, 2016 1:06 pm
by Linux and the X » Wed Apr 06, 2016 1:13 pm
by Yootxtlalkaan » Wed Apr 06, 2016 1:58 pm
Nature-Spirits wrote:Aphryss wrote:W/R/T the Culture, one of the explicitly stated assumptions underlying the Culture universe is that the Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis is not only true but strongly true; language shapes psyche. The Culture's language, Marain, is a constructed language explicitly designed to promote egalitarian thinking. In The Player of Games, the protagonist travels to the explicitly hierarchical and sexist Azad Empire, immerses himself in their culture, starts to think in their language, and his thinking actually changes to be more like theirs.
Huh. That's... actually an odd extension of the Sapir-Whorf Hypothesis. Personally, I give the concept some credit, since I think it's definitely conceivable that language shapes the way we think. After all, in translation between languages, there is often a good deal of ambiguity and impreciseness -- Spanish has separate words for the inside and outside of a corner, for instance, whereas English uses the same word for both. Colours are a good example of the hypothesis at work, I think: while russophones would consider light blue and dark blue fundamentally different colours, pre-War japanophones would consider all shades of blue, along with green, a single colour; speakers of Telugu, meanwhile, would conflate green and yellow! This is doubly so for culturally-specific concepts: most anglophones would have difficulty gaining a full understanding of the Japanese concept of kami (神). At the same time, there are alternate explanations for many examples, and I don't think that it can be extended so far as that series would propose.
tl;dr: I'm a nerd who plans to be a linguist.
I do know of several good webcomics starring trans characters, if you're into those. Rain is one of my favourites, and I also enjoy Validation. For something more focused on quirky skits rather than a cohesive story, I like Chaos Life.
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