Natapoc wrote:Hirota wrote:Your bias continues to show. Why just men? Lesbians apparently have a one in three chance of being sexually assaulted by another woman.
And why should all men be made to "taught" that rape is bad, when the fact is that (aside from a tiny, tiny, tiny minority of individuals) men already know that? This "rape culture" kool-aid orthodoxy you've been drinking is a lie.
From what people are saying in this thread I believe that the confusion stems from the larger lack of understanding the social context which gave birth to this phrase (Either that or you are all intentionally ignoring all context)
"Teach men not to rape" does not exist in a vacuum.
It was created to counter the victim blaming culture which put the responsibility on women to avoid getting raped rather on the rapist.
Let me put the idea of "rape culture" in its correct historical context.
From the 19th century forward, rape was viewed as one of the worst crimes possible, especially when performed by a black man against a white woman. This taboo was so strong that even an unfounded allegation of an attempt at rape of a white woman by a black man was enough to lead to lynchings.
Some people noticed that, in a certain narrow set of circumstances, primarily when referring to men in prison being raped by other men in prison, society condoned rape. After noting the key (and most universal) example of approval of male-on-male rape in prison, sexological researchers found that under particular circumstances, a number of men and women would say that a victim "deserved" to be raped, the common theme being that if you engaged in some sort of wrongdoing, you would deserve to be raped.
Feminists also noticed that the things they wanted to call "rape" were not called rape by everyone, particularly and especially (for ones like Mary Koss) in the case of drunk women having regrettable sex, but also including (say) rape within marriage. Mind you, at this point in time, rape was still viewed as the most serious crime short of murder... overall... it's just that people felt like if you were a criminal (or even just seriously violating social norms they wanted you to abide by), you deserved to have all kinds of bad shit happen to you, including rape, and that not everybody agreed with the feminist definitions of rape.
I know the social context that leads to "rape culture." I also know that the most appropriate applications of the word are to the cases where men are victims; women are perpetrators; and the large intersection between the two. Rape of men by men in prison is widely condoned, and rape of men by women is widely denied and ignored.
Rape of women by men? For the entire time that feminism has existed, rape of women by men has been viewed as a terrible crime by most people in most circumstances. Even in cultures that actually treat women like shit, rape is still viewed as a very serious crime. (A crime against the woman's family, mind you, but still a serious crime.)
If things had been different...
If it was really common to find people giving little boys advice on how to avoid being raped by women (With advice ranging to avoid participation in sports, don't wear tight fitting clothing, and don't go outside alone or after dark) EVERY single time a boy was raped...
Then it would be very reasonable to start a "Teach women not to rape" movement. But that is not what is happening in the real world
Remember we live in a world where newscasters, police officers, judges, school teachers, religions leaders, and anyone else who thinks they know what they are talking about feels free to give advice to women on how to avoid being raped. This simply is not the case for men. I have never heard of a politician giving boys advice on how not to get raped. I've never heard of a police officer giving a press conference on how boys should dress differently to avoid female predators. I have never read anyone tell men that they should expect that going to a bar will increase their chances of being raped...
The meaning of the quote is: All this "education" given to girls on how to avoid being raped is ineffective, insulting, and victim blaming... So instead of teaching girls to avoid being raped, let's teach men not to be rapists.
Now if you still have a problem with that then I'm not interested in a discussion with you because you are engaging in dishonest discussion.
That entire section is disconnected from reality. Your premise is that men aren't taught to avoid becoming victims.
- Growing up, I received countless warnings from adults, books aimed at children, etc, about the danger of going places with strangers.
- I was also taught to always lock doors on cars and houses when I left them.
- I was taught to look both ways before I crossed the street.
- I was given a list of steps to take to avoid being physically assaulted.
- I was told to avoid all kinds of risky behaviors to avoid getting tetanus, STDs, etc.
- I remember "this is your brain on drugs."
- I was taught to carry my wallet in a front pocket so it wouldn't get stolen.
- I was warned about razor blades in apples at Halloween.
If adults had thought I was at risk of being raped by anybody other than a pedophile (and I was taught to try to prevent that by not taking candy from strangers), I would have received a long litany of advice about how to avoid being raped, too. But I was taught to take steps to avoid becoming the victim of criminal or even accidental violence, and I was far from alone.
It is only with the case of rape that crime prevention efforts (and that includes a frenzy of paranoia about the extremely rare case of child kidnappings) are viewed as blaming victims. The reason that boys aren't taught to avoid being raped by women is because many people are refusing to recognize that it's a problem. Which is an actual "rape culture" problem.