Unfortunately they are a very, very vocal minorityGeanna wrote:
Feminism makes a lot of sense, and I fully support it. Radical Feminism is a disgrace to the movement and gives it a bad rep - luckily they're a minority.
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by Hirota » Sun May 03, 2015 8:39 am
Unfortunately they are a very, very vocal minorityGeanna wrote:
Feminism makes a lot of sense, and I fully support it. Radical Feminism is a disgrace to the movement and gives it a bad rep - luckily they're a minority.

by Geanna » Sun May 03, 2015 8:42 am

by Susurruses » Sun May 03, 2015 10:03 am
New Edom wrote:The conversational technique you suggested is something that I actually did try and which did not work. So my example of where this kind of thing has typically come up for me is in this context:
Over the last several years, conversations have been held publicly about the atmosphere surrounding consent, including but not limited to objectification, street harassment, yes means yes no means no, affirmative/enthusiastic consent, modesty debates, entitlement, etc. In such conversations it almost inevitably tends to run to this general trend: we need to accept women's right to consent and not consent and encourage women to be confident and feel safe; we need to teach men not to rape and not to support rape culture.
I think it is reasonable that I object to this narrative. However I've generally found that it rarely matters HOW I go about objecting or introducing other ways of talking about it--many people accept that narrative and act as though they believe that any disagreement with it means that you don't care about women's rights.
What I would like for instance to have is public discussion about consent that accepts that women have agency. This doesn't have to mean 'she was asking for it'. What it does mean is that women are quite capable of assuming all men want sex all the time and therefore it is less necessary to establish consent with them.
I'm less concerned about extreme fringe groups than I am about mainstream people who go with currently held assumptions that are unhelpful for me and others who don't fit the common mainstream narrative. I'm tired of hearing blanket platitude statements like "we need to teach men/boys not to rape"; "we need to stop teaching our girls modesty", "we need to ban bossy". While these people may not represent the mainstream, it cannot be denied that they are highly influential people who guide policy.

by Susurruses » Sun May 03, 2015 10:09 am
Lumeau wrote:Geanna wrote:
Clicky Clicky
Thus my misgivings with Rads - sadly people can hijack a movement and take it too far.
I was actually going to point out that Chessmistress is a radfem but you beat me to it.
I'm pro-equality, pro-LGBT, and pro-not-being-a-dick. Against bigoted agendas disguised as "progressive."
Also, that's one of my favorite comics.

by Susurruses » Sun May 03, 2015 10:11 am

by Dumb Ideologies » Sun May 03, 2015 10:13 am

by The Lone Alliance » Sun May 03, 2015 11:37 am
Nope, I just pointed out multiple alternatives, you only picked one.Chessmistress wrote:So, that's the real answer?
See the point below.Chessmistress wrote:"Men going their own way"?
I'm not against celibacy for males! I couldn't care less!
But we both know they will.Chessmistress wrote:As long as they do not insult and harass women online...
Give respect get respect, if CM won't give respect then why bother giving it back?Susurruses wrote:Maybe engaging in transphobia (see: deliberate misgendering) is a bad idea, and mimicking Chess's ludicrous unacceptable bullshit is not reflecting very well on yourself.

by New Edom » Sun May 03, 2015 12:05 pm
Susurruses wrote:New Edom wrote:The conversational technique you suggested is something that I actually did try and which did not work. So my example of where this kind of thing has typically come up for me is in this context:
Over the last several years, conversations have been held publicly about the atmosphere surrounding consent, including but not limited to objectification, street harassment, yes means yes no means no, affirmative/enthusiastic consent, modesty debates, entitlement, etc. In such conversations it almost inevitably tends to run to this general trend: we need to accept women's right to consent and not consent and encourage women to be confident and feel safe; we need to teach men not to rape and not to support rape culture.
I think it is reasonable that I object to this narrative. However I've generally found that it rarely matters HOW I go about objecting or introducing other ways of talking about it--many people accept that narrative and act as though they believe that any disagreement with it means that you don't care about women's rights.
What I would like for instance to have is public discussion about consent that accepts that women have agency. This doesn't have to mean 'she was asking for it'. What it does mean is that women are quite capable of assuming all men want sex all the time and therefore it is less necessary to establish consent with them.
I'm less concerned about extreme fringe groups than I am about mainstream people who go with currently held assumptions that are unhelpful for me and others who don't fit the common mainstream narrative. I'm tired of hearing blanket platitude statements like "we need to teach men/boys not to rape"; "we need to stop teaching our girls modesty", "we need to ban bossy". While these people may not represent the mainstream, it cannot be denied that they are highly influential people who guide policy.
The instant I read "women's", I actually responded with "everyone's".
At least within my own social circle, that specific/exclusionary language is considered counterproductive.
Human rights are human rights; for all people.
I absolutely agree that that narrative is painfully flawed.
Like, teach everyone the importance of consent, teach everyone what behaviour constitutes abuse & why it is wrongful, help everyone feel safe/comfortable/confident.
Breaking down things like rape culture is supposed to benefit everyone (.. except rapists, I guess), so starting from a point of exclusivity with any aspect of that is a Very Bad Idea.
Unfortunately I have encountered people like that. .. in a myriad of contexts actually.
I think it's a very bad habit some humans have of clinging to a certain narrative to the exclusion (& active denial) of all and any contradiction (particularly from 'outsiders', but I've seen people turn on those that are supposed to be on the same side).
.. not really sure how to address that type of thing. My experience is such people are a lost cause.
Some people will listen, some people will doubt and then maybe consider it, & some people are just going to double-down and refuse to budge on literally anything they've decided is true.
I guess my problem with the 'women have agency' vs 'men deserve the freedom to choose/deny' concept is it's still operating within that flawed narrative.
Consent is (criminally?) undervalued in general.
Kids need to be taught to be considerate, to communicate, & to obtain/establish consent for interactions.
... many adults need to be taught the same.
Those three things are essential to establishing & sustaining trust, and to developing healthy mutually-beneficial relationships.
They're also conveniently agnostic to any specific aspect of an individual, because they don't specify a sex or a gender or a race or anything else; they're just important for every positive relationship.
So honestly, I'd replace the (seemingly dominant?) narrative pretty much entirely instead of merely tweaking it.
This is a human right we're talking about after all.
(Within the circle of people I know, this is definitely something that is shared.
It's not even necessarily about including men specifically but about not excluding everyone that is not a woman; about recognising that supposed rights should not be limited to a select few based on arbitrary markers.)
The problem that can occur with raising this issue with some people (especially the 'radical' sorts) is they can see it as threatening progress or potential progress or.. idk, some other bullshit.
On top of that you've got past traumas complicating things to where some people just have a really visceral reaction to (the perception of) men trying to tell them what to do, or similar issues.
People like that tend to believe that women are not necessarily the sole sufferers but are the majority and/or that women are less likely to engage in whatever sort of abusive behaviour is under discussion.
... whether they're right or not is irrelevant, because again this is a human rights matter; just because a specific group within (a hypothetical) society commits 1% of violent crimes vs another group committing 99% of violent crimes doesn't mean the former group should in any way get away with things, nor that those targeted by them should be neglected or downplayed.
The law is (supposed to be) neutral and fair.
(It isn't, but that's again more than a gender issue.)
I agree that there are individuals and groups that put forward narratives that are exclusionary and that these people can do more harm than good in the process.
... I am however not sure how one would begin to address that other than engaging people on a personal level to ascertain their own thoughts on the matter and address any flaws in their knowledge or reasoning.
Progress can be slow, and in the meantime the lobbyist types can force through potentially harmful change.
Is there a solution to that?

by Hirota » Sun May 03, 2015 3:18 pm

by Destiny Island » Sun May 03, 2015 3:25 pm
Hirota wrote:Getting back to the main subject....
http://techraptor.net/content/gamergate ... omb-threat
http://www.breitbart.com/london/2015/05 ... mb-threat/
Anywhere between 200 to 300 people met up in DC over the weekend, all of whom are part of gamergate. Some of the aGGros got a bit salty over it, and tried to prevent the event from happening.
First of all, kudos to Polygon for improved reporting - with Ben Kuchera slightly out of the picture, hopefully they'll sort themselves out. Meanwhile Gawker continues to fail miserably. A number of videos are on youtube and photos on twitter showing a fairly diverse bunch on the streets of DC whilst the police check the building.

by Phocidaea » Sun May 03, 2015 3:31 pm

by Hirota » Sun May 03, 2015 3:44 pm
I'm sure the bomb threats against Gamergate and companies which stand up against SJW's were committed by third party trolls. After all, aGGros were more than keen to acknowledge that threats against Sarkessian were probably made by third party trolls weren't they? Oh wait...Destiny Island wrote:But remember, GamerGate is the terrorist organization. *nods*

by New Edom » Sun May 03, 2015 3:48 pm
Hirota wrote:Getting back to the main subject....
http://techraptor.net/content/gamergate ... omb-threat
http://www.breitbart.com/london/2015/05 ... mb-threat/
Anywhere between 200 to 300 people met up in DC over the weekend, all of whom are part of gamergate. Some of the aGGros got a bit salty over it, and tried to prevent the event from happening.
First of all, kudos to Polygon for improved reporting - with Ben Kuchera slightly out of the picture, hopefully they'll sort themselves out. Meanwhile Gawker continues to fail miserably. A number of videos are on youtube and photos on twitter showing a fairly diverse bunch on the streets of DC whilst the police check the building.
Is anyone else noticing a trend with how SJW's don't want benign individuals to gather?

by The Lone Alliance » Sun May 03, 2015 5:31 pm
New Edom wrote:A counter to that would be probably rather unpleasant. It would involve things like men talking about say their abuse as a child by women. It would involve people pointing out that violence towards men in movies is far more acceptable to people than violence towards women in movies is. it would involve pointing out that human suffering is just human suffering.
It's the same chain of logic that birthers, truthers, and other conspiracy theorists use, anything that doesn't stand up to their confirmation bias is automatically part of the conspiracy.New Edom wrote:Hirota wrote:Getting back to the main subject....
http://techraptor.net/content/gamergate ... omb-threat
http://www.breitbart.com/london/2015/05 ... mb-threat/
Anywhere between 200 to 300 people met up in DC over the weekend, all of whom are part of gamergate. Some of the aGGros got a bit salty over it, and tried to prevent the event from happening.
First of all, kudos to Polygon for improved reporting - with Ben Kuchera slightly out of the picture, hopefully they'll sort themselves out. Meanwhile Gawker continues to fail miserably. A number of videos are on youtube and photos on twitter showing a fairly diverse bunch on the streets of DC whilst the police check the building.
Is anyone else noticing a trend with how SJW's don't want benign individuals to gather?
What I said above is relevant to this. SJWs tend to believe that their analysis of social issues is fact, therefore responses are justified based on that. There is no gap of understanding to bridge, no difference of opinion; there is simply what they believe is absolute truth about social evils that must be fought tooth and nail. New information that doesn't fit within the paradigm is just deceit.

by New Edom » Sun May 03, 2015 6:27 pm

by The Lone Alliance » Sun May 03, 2015 6:37 pm
Well that's what happens when you allow opinions to pass as knowledge and you allow ideologue educators to rubber stamp peer review.New Edom wrote:And not only are they supposed to be educated, they are often the educators. So this is why for instance we get a blogger saying "the reason I am shy is because of Patriarchy" rather than "I need to learn to become more confident."

by Susurruses » Mon May 04, 2015 10:18 am
New Edom wrote:I think you made a number of very good points and generally a good analysis of the problem. it probably doesn't help that at major discussions of the subject things either get polarized between self identified progressives and traditionalists or end up generally nitpicking what is already agreed with.
I observed a number of feminist events discussing rape culture, and noticed that the following kinds of men who were considered either feminists or allies to feminists were speaking.
1. Former patriarchs. Former sports heroes, coaches, actors, people at the top of the game recognizing what women suffer, their contributions to it, and urging men to change.
2. Marginalized men. Men who don't fit what is called the gender binary one way or another, who felt excluded and ashamed in general society.
3. Men who express a former ignorance before Gender Studies/attending a slutwalk/having talks and encounters with women enlightened them as to the freedom feminism offered.
I think that these men sharing their experience, while fair enough, doesn't really help people form a clear picture and just reinforces the narrative.
A counter to that would be probably rather unpleasant. It would involve things like men talking about say their abuse as a child by women. It would involve people pointing out that violence towards men in movies is far more acceptable to people than violence towards women in movies is. it would involve pointing out that human suffering is just human suffering.

by Susurruses » Mon May 04, 2015 10:26 am
New Edom wrote:And not only are they supposed to be educated, they are often the educators. So this is why for instance we get a blogger saying "the reason I am shy is because of Patriarchy" rather than "I need to learn to become more confident."

by Susurruses » Mon May 04, 2015 10:28 am
The Lone Alliance wrote:Well that's what happens when you allow opinions to pass as knowledge and you allow ideologue educators to rubber stamp peer review.New Edom wrote:And not only are they supposed to be educated, they are often the educators. So this is why for instance we get a blogger saying "the reason I am shy is because of Patriarchy" rather than "I need to learn to become more confident."
If someone would drag all them into the sun and forced them to explain their logic to people other than each other then their entire foundation would be destroyed.

by Susurruses » Mon May 04, 2015 10:33 am
The Lone Alliance wrote:It would require rejecting identity politics and realizing that we are all just humans.
Identity politics is too addictive for these people though, have to divide humans up so you'll have an OTHER to blame for all your ills. It's been done since the dawn of humanity.
Tribalism at it's core.It's the same chain of logic that birthers, truthers, and other conspiracy theorists use, anything that doesn't stand up to their confirmation bias is automatically part of the conspiracy.New Edom wrote:
What I said above is relevant to this. SJWs tend to believe that their analysis of social issues is fact, therefore responses are justified based on that. There is no gap of understanding to bridge, no difference of opinion; there is simply what they believe is absolute truth about social evils that must be fought tooth and nail. New information that doesn't fit within the paradigm is just deceit.
Yet many of these people are supposed to be educated.

by Susurruses » Mon May 04, 2015 10:40 am
Hirota wrote:I'm sure the bomb threats against Gamergate and companies which stand up against SJW's were committed by third party trolls. After all, aGGros were more than keen to acknowledge that threats against Sarkessian were probably made by third party trolls weren't they? Oh wait...Destiny Island wrote:But remember, GamerGate is the terrorist organization. *nods*
This SJW narrative continues to fall apart.

by Geanna » Mon May 04, 2015 10:41 am
Susurruses wrote:Hirota wrote:I'm sure the bomb threats against Gamergate and companies which stand up against SJW's were committed by third party trolls. After all, aGGros were more than keen to acknowledge that threats against Sarkessian were probably made by third party trolls weren't they? Oh wait...
This SJW narrative continues to fall apart.
I feel like there may be a false equivalence somewhere..
Regardless of that, does anyone on any side realistically agree with the sort of asshole that would make a bomb threat?
Really?
Are we going to consider those people representative?
Meanwhile, "companies that stand up against SJWs" ?? What?
Oh yeah, those people demanding social change are super scary, man.
Takes such strength to ignore a relative minority when doing so doesn't impact the company's profitability. *rolls eyes*
I feel like you've gotten a little overly invested in this 'anti-SJW' narrative perhaps.

by Hirota » Mon May 04, 2015 12:54 pm
As a counter for the false narrative peddled by people on here and in the press? Abso-flippin-lutely. I'm not interested in a narrative, I am interested in the truth.Susurruses wrote:I feel like you've gotten a little overly invested in this 'anti-SJW' narrative perhaps.

by Gauthier » Mon May 04, 2015 2:16 pm
Susurruses wrote:Hirota wrote:I'm sure the bomb threats against Gamergate and companies which stand up against SJW's were committed by third party trolls. After all, aGGros were more than keen to acknowledge that threats against Sarkessian were probably made by third party trolls weren't they? Oh wait...
This SJW narrative continues to fall apart.
I feel like there may be a false equivalence somewhere..
Regardless of that, does anyone on any side realistically agree with the sort of asshole that would make a bomb threat?
Really?
Are we going to consider those people representative?
Meanwhile, "companies that stand up against SJWs" ?? What?
Oh yeah, those people demanding social change are super scary, man.
Takes such strength to ignore a relative minority when doing so doesn't impact the company's profitability. *rolls eyes*
I feel like you've gotten a little overly invested in this 'anti-SJW' narrative perhaps.

by Russels Orbiting Teapot » Mon May 04, 2015 2:18 pm
Gauthier wrote:Because you know, asking that females in games not be depicted as tit trophies or testicle-chopping feminazis marked for death is SJW bulllying. *nod*
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