What are the limits of "Slut shaming?"

[Cannot think of a name]

There is a reason why people are shamed for their actions,

People have a weird fucking obsession with the sex lives of others, or are projecting their own outdated puritanical shame at having watched the porn in the first place, or they're so absorbed with their own self-righteousness and platitudes that stopped having meaning for most functional adults past the second grade that they are incapable of understanding their own culpability in creating a toxic environment?

[Sefard]

"Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me"

Really, if you cannot discount words than you need to work on yourself at a personal level.

Pretty much everybody knows that that saying is bullshit.

I don't think you are posting sincerely.

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

[Cannot think of a name]

I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Like being purposefully caustic and obtuse?

[Conglomerate of Iron]

Pretty much everybody knows that that saying is bullshit.

I don't think you are posting sincerely.

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Agreed so much...

+9001

[Sefard]

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Agreed so much...

+9001

Thank you. When sit back and look at the full picture, you come to two conclusions . . .

1) These people are dishonest
2) These people really act this way and need to be separated from society as not to be harmed by their inability to operate functionally.

[The Batorys]

Agreed so much...

+9001

Thank you. When sit back and look at the full picture, you come to two conclusions . . .

1) These people are dishonest
2) These people really act this way and need to be separated from society as not to be harmed by their inability to operate functionally.

That is really messed up.

You are advocating forced relocation on the basis of people feeling hurt when people say hurtful things.

Wow.

[Grenartia]

Pretty much everybody knows that that saying is bullshit.

I don't think you are posting sincerely.

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Implying its that fucking simple. Which it ain't. You have no clue how any of this works.

[The Republic of Merrimont]

Things are pretty heated up here

[Stagnant Axon Terminal]

Pretty much everybody knows that that saying is bullshit.

I don't think you are posting sincerely.

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Some stranger calling you a dickhead isn't quite the same as your mother spitting the word "slut" in your face and declaring you worthless because you had consensual sex.

[Sefard]

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Some stranger calling you a dickhead isn't quite the same as your mother spitting the word "slut" in your face and declaring you worthless because you had consensual sex.

Words, words . . .

[Stagnant Axon Terminal]

Some stranger calling you a dickhead isn't quite the same as your mother spitting the word "slut" in your face and declaring you worthless because you had consensual sex.

Words, words . . .

Depending on who they're from, the words that come out of their mouth are more than sounds. They're the loss or gaining of respect; unconditional love, or the breaking of what you thought was unconditional; the sign of new friendship growing, or the screams of an old friend getting rid of you.

[Sefard]

I am continuously amazed by how so many people can be bothered by harmless things such as words. I don't think people speak or act sincerely. I believe they over react and many times do what they do for attention.

Someone calls you a dickhead walking down the street.

Option 1: "Oh no! I'm melting, the privilege of that person, they need to check it, the misanthropy, insult culture, #YesAllDickheads"

Option 2: Keep walking. Get sandwich and coffee. Go home. Enjoy life.

Literally, meditate some, practice self control. You'll be fine.

Implying its that fucking simple. Which it ain't. You have no clue how any of this works.

It is very simple. We all have been insulted or bullied, myself included. Receive words, send some words back if you wish, carry on with life. It is a moment in but a day in but a week in but a month in a but year in but a lifetime. Hearing it from some people, especially those whom you love, may hurt. But, you have to talk about it and come to compromise or at the very least agreement of boundaries. However, everyday people . . . looking at the big picture- it is very much irrelevant.

[Grenartia]

Implying its that fucking simple. Which it ain't. You have no clue how any of this works.

It is very simple. We all have been insulted or bullied, myself included. Receive words, send some words back if you wish, carry on with life. It is a moment in but a day in but a week in but a month in a but year in but a lifetime. Hearing it from some people, especially those whom you love, may hurt. But, you have to talk about it and come to compromise or at the very least agreement of boundaries. However, everyday people . . . looking at the big picture- it is very much irrelevant.

Yeah, you've just proved you know nothing about this subject.

Words aren't meaningless sounds. They have meaning. They can indeed cut sharper than any knife, burn hotter than any flame, pierce farther than any arrow, whether the person on the receiving end wants them to or not (which you seem to be failing to understand). If you think that you can choose to not be affected by words, and that choice means you won't, then you've been lucky in that nobody's ever insulted you so harshly that they proved you wrong.

[Sefard]

It is very simple. We all have been insulted or bullied, myself included. Receive words, send some words back if you wish, carry on with life. It is a moment in but a day in but a week in but a month in a but year in but a lifetime. Hearing it from some people, especially those whom you love, may hurt. But, you have to talk about it and come to compromise or at the very least agreement of boundaries. However, everyday people . . . looking at the big picture- it is very much irrelevant.

Yeah, you've just proved you know nothing about this subject.

Words aren't meaningless sounds. They have meaning. They can indeed cut sharper than any knife, burn hotter than any flame, pierce farther than any arrow, whether the person on the receiving end wants them to or not (which you seem to be failing to understand). If you think that you can choose to not be affected by words, and that choice means you won't, then you've been lucky in that nobody's ever insulted you so harshly that they proved you wrong.

When I am cut by a word, burned by a word, pierced by a word, whether or not I want to receive these words, thinking that I can choose to not be affected by these words, meaning I won't, and can document it all with empirical evidence that can be repeated over again in an independent experiment . . . I will believe you that words can do harm, even if people choose for them not to and negate the effects with their self control and good demeanor.

[Jumalariik]

All the above reasoning is unexceptionable.

That is undoubtedly the most horrendous and despicable "reasoning" I have ever laid eyes upon.


So by your logic most devout Christians I know or hear from are b igotted, hateful homophobes, therefore most to all christians are the same. Tell me, is this now true?

If you think you can overgeneralize and label an entire group of people based solely on your narrow personal expierience you are the most ignorant and arrogant being to ever walk the earth.

Here, ill leave this for you
http://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faulty_generalization

No, that is not equivalent.

Most devout Christians i encounter are bigoted homophobes, thus it is reasonable to say that a good amount of devout Christians are homophobes.

[Conglomerate of Iron]

It is very simple. We all have been insulted or bullied, myself included. Receive words, send some words back if you wish, carry on with life. It is a moment in but a day in but a week in but a month in a but year in but a lifetime. Hearing it from some people, especially those whom you love, may hurt. But, you have to talk about it and come to compromise or at the very least agreement of boundaries. However, everyday people . . . looking at the big picture- it is very much irrelevant.

Yeah, you've just proved you know nothing about this subject.

Words aren't meaningless sounds. They have meaning. They can indeed cut sharper than any knife, burn hotter than any flame, pierce farther than any arrow, whether the person on the receiving end wants them to or not (which you seem to be failing to understand). If you think that you can choose to not be affected by words, and that choice means you won't, then you've been lucky in that nobody's ever insulted you so harshly that they proved you wrong.

Just stop caring what others think of you.

Why should you let other, close minded, hypocritical, people bug you? Stop caring about what they have to say, about anything that they feel towards you. In the end, if someone is to say harsh things over a personal choice, just drop them. They aren't worth your time anyway.

Done it plenty of times in my life.

[Grave_n_idle]

Yeah, you've just proved you know nothing about this subject.

Words aren't meaningless sounds. They have meaning. They can indeed cut sharper than any knife, burn hotter than any flame, pierce farther than any arrow, whether the person on the receiving end wants them to or not (which you seem to be failing to understand). If you think that you can choose to not be affected by words, and that choice means you won't, then you've been lucky in that nobody's ever insulted you so harshly that they proved you wrong.

Just stop caring what others think of you.

Why should you let other, close minded, hypocritical, people bug you? Stop caring about what they have to say, about anything that they feel towards you. In the end, if someone is to say harsh things over a personal choice, just drop them. They aren't worth your time anyway.

Done it plenty of times in my life.

Plenty?

What are you doing that people keep saying these things to you?

[Grave_n_idle]

Implying its that fucking simple. Which it ain't. You have no clue how any of this works.

It is very simple. We all have been insulted or bullied, myself included. Receive words, send some words back if you wish, carry on with life. It is a moment in but a day in but a week in but a month in a but year in but a lifetime. Hearing it from some people, especially those whom you love, may hurt. But, you have to talk about it and come to compromise or at the very least agreement of boundaries.

...which clearly didn't happen in the narrative in the OP. Instead, people seem to have been willing to ignore trying to agree to any kind of boundaries, and just continually inflicted psychological damage on someone until that person actually felt no other recourse than to kill herself.

You're dealing with a false version of reality where people aren't responding to other people's words, and all people are rational actors. In reality, words - even just words - can have real psychological effects, and people don't agree on parameters that they aren't going to transgress.

[Conglomerate of Iron]

Just stop caring what others think of you.

Why should you let other, close minded, hypocritical, people bug you? Stop caring about what they have to say, about anything that they feel towards you. In the end, if someone is to say harsh things over a personal choice, just drop them. They aren't worth your time anyway.

Done it plenty of times in my life.

Plenty?

What are you doing that people keep saying these things to you?

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

[Grave_n_idle]

Plenty?

What are you doing that people keep saying these things to you?

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

If you have somehow managed to convince yourself that absolutely everyone but you is inferior, maybe they are not being unreasonable when they say mean things to you? It sounds like they might have a legitimate point.

[Vettrera]

Plenty?

What are you doing that people keep saying these things to you?

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

Close-minded people are usually the only kinds that use the word "inferior"....

[Conglomerate of Iron]

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

Close-minded people are usually the only kinds that use the word "inferior"....

Lol, you don't consider them weak for being close minded?

They believe that their way is the only way, and that others should be forced to give up their rights because they have a different lifestyle.

I will neither enslave others, nor allow them to enslave me.

[The Alma Mater]

Plenty?

What are you doing that people keep saying these things to you?

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

What when they start telling lies about you behind your back which cost you your job, your relationship and your public image ?

[Conglomerate of Iron]

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

If you have somehow managed to convince yourself that absolutely everyone but you is inferior, maybe they are not being unreasonable when they say mean things to you? It sounds like they might have a legitimate point.

I never said everyone was inferior. Don't misconstrue my words. Those people who feel so insecure about themselves that they seek others out to put them down are inferior. They have self esteem issues thst go deep. They are not worth my time, and I encourage anyone who is harrassed by someone like that to simply ignore them.

[Conglomerate of Iron]

I am talking about close minded people. I am called plenty of names by liberals and conservatives for my anti establishment views. A few people have called me "gay" for dating a transgendered woman. I don't care.

They are inferior, why should I care about what they have to say?

What when they start telling lies about you behind your back which cost you your job, your relationship and your public image ?

Their lies are false. Therefore I deny them. If anyone believes such lies, then they do not deserve to associate with me. Besides, I don't keep many friends. Not many people who would talk, and even then, I know how to smoke out a rat.

Words are meaningless, and forgettable.