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Pedophiles get a bad rap

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:32 pm
by Oonai
I think it's wrong this minority of people is punished simply because some of them can't control their urges and resort to crime to fulfill them. People always talk about the danger to society their criminal members pose but seem uncomfortable with the idea that there are pedos out there who don't molest kids, who try to be good people and who wish they were born different.

I think many of the calls for understanding when it comes to say, homosexuality, would be ignored when it comes to this touchy subject. It seems arbitrary that homosexuality is acceptable but pedophilia is immoral.

I'm not saying it should be acceptable to have your way with kids. Maybe in the future the Japanese will build robots for those people stricken with taboo urges. Then more of them will come out of the little kids closet and we can be more understanding of one another. As it stands, pedophiles are reviled, even when they haven't done anything. Why should they continue to silently suffer?

Thank you for reading.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:34 pm
by Unified Western States
Well...it is still a crime. Crime gets punished. And they are sick, whether they can control their urges or not. Sex with children, especially non-consensual, is just plain wrong. I have no pity for pedophiles.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:35 pm
by Illithar
Becaue the fullfulment of their urge hurts children.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:36 pm
by Lackadaisical2
Partly because theres not a quick way of saying "people who fuck children"...

The rest is because its wrong to like something which the majority has deemed immoral (even if you don't act on it).

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:36 pm
by Ashaven
Unified Western States wrote:Well...it is still a crime. Crime gets punished. And they are sick, whether they can control their urges or not. Sex with children, especially non-consensual, is just plain wrong. I have no pity for pedophiles.


I don't like their tendencies, and I guess you could change yourself with extensive therapy and/or medication, but that's like asking homosexuals to take pills to make them straight again, they do have a right to. So long as they don't break any laws, I will respect them as best I can, despite their....unprefferable tendencies.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:36 pm
by Bunyippie
gee, raping a kid isn't REALLY that bad. :palm:

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:36 pm
by NERVUN
Unified Western States wrote:Well...it is still a crime. Crime gets punished. And they are sick, whether they can control their urges or not. Sex with children, especially non-consensual, is just plain wrong. I have no pity for pedophiles.

Pedophilia isn't a crime, molesting children is, which is I think the point he's trying to make.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:37 pm
by Czardas
I can't see this thread ending well. Tread carefully, NSG.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:37 pm
by Lackadaisical2
Bunyippie wrote:gee, raping a kid isn't REALLY that bad. :palm:


:palm:

reread the OP and try again.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:38 pm
by The Separatist Systems
You know what, I understand that some people can't resist certain urges, but I soon as a innocent child or women is victimized for no sane reason, that's it. The man gets the book thrown at him.
That is hardly punishment enough for the victim's pain.

Dostoevsky
Marinetus/The Separatist Systems

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:38 pm
by Unified Western States
I was talking about the molesting part, but I guess I didn't make that clear. I don't care if people think about sex with children, as long as it stays in their head. And whether it is right or not, pedophiles will probably never be accepted.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:39 pm
by Ashaven
The Separatist Systems wrote:You know what, I understand that some people can't resist certain urges, but I soon as a innocent child or women is victimized for no sane reason, that's it. The man gets the book thrown at him.
That is hardly punishment enough for the victim's pain.

Dostoevsky
Marinetus/The Separatist States


Agreed. As a libertarian, though, I must defend these people's right to their mentality, however detestable it is.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:40 pm
by Nadkor
The Separatist Systems wrote:You know what, I understand that some people can't resist certain urges, but I soon as a innocent child or women is victimized for no sane reason, that's it. The man gets the book thrown at him.
That is hardly punishment enough for the victim's pain.


Of course, only men can be paedophiles or rapists.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:40 pm
by Lunatic Goofballs
Unified Western States wrote:I was talking about the molesting part, but I guess I didn't make that clear. I don't care if people think about sex with children, as long as it stays in their head. And whether it is right or not, pedophiles will probably never be accepted.


Sure they will, they just have to be moved to a new parish. ;)

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:41 pm
by Illithar
Ashaven wrote:
The Separatist Systems wrote:You know what, I understand that some people can't resist certain urges, but I soon as a innocent child or women is victimized for no sane reason, that's it. The man gets the book thrown at him.
That is hardly punishment enough for the victim's pain.

Dostoevsky
Marinetus/The Separatist States


Agreed. As a libertarian, though, I must defend these people's right to their mentality, however detestable it is.


Hey, libertarianism has limits though.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:42 pm
by The Separatist Systems
Nadkor wrote:[...]
Of course, only men can be paedophiles or rapists.

Rapists, yes. Pedophiles, probably.
Who knows? Either way, my stance remains the same.

Dostoevsky
Marinetus/The Separatist States

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:44 pm
by Ashaven
Illithar wrote:
Ashaven wrote:
The Separatist Systems wrote:You know what, I understand that some people can't resist certain urges, but I soon as a innocent child or women is victimized for no sane reason, that's it. The man gets the book thrown at him.
That is hardly punishment enough for the victim's pain.

Dostoevsky
Marinetus/The Separatist States


Agreed. As a libertarian, though, I must defend these people's right to their mentality, however detestable it is.


Hey, libertarianism has limits though.


It's not like I'm diehard, anarchist libertarian. I just think that if it stays in there head, and don't make moves on any children (let alone commit the horrible deed), they shouldn't be officially punished. Now, I also won't grant them safety from others remarks, as they have the right to speak their minds and opinions.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:45 pm
by Lord-General Drache
NERVUN wrote:
Unified Western States wrote:Well...it is still a crime. Crime gets punished. And they are sick, whether they can control their urges or not. Sex with children, especially non-consensual, is just plain wrong. I have no pity for pedophiles.

Pedophilia isn't a crime, molesting children is, which is I think the point he's trying to make.


Indeed. It's an important distinction. It's hard for them to come forward to seek psychological help, because even in the psychological community, if one hears "I am a pedophile," instantly this is taken to mean "I molest children" instead of "I am sexually attracted to children but want help to avoid ever doing this."

One thing that's always bothered me is lumping children in with teenagers when it comes to sex crimes. I can think of multiple instances in which a teenager girl took sexually provocative pictures of herself, disseminated them, was caught, and then charged for possession, distribution and creation of child pornography. Further, they even had to register as sex offenders, despite the act involving consent and their own body.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:45 pm
by Nadkor
The Separatist Systems wrote:
Nadkor wrote:[...]
Of course, only men can be paedophiles or rapists.

Rapists, yes. Pedophiles, probably.
Who knows? Either way, my stance remains the same.


Women can rape (unless you're talking in a strictly legal sense, and even then some countries legally recognise rape as an offence that can be committed by women), and women can certainly be paedophiles.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:46 pm
by Thoricia
Because its sick to even dream fantasize about having sex with someone that is incapable of giving any kind of consent and when some one "just" fantasizes about it they eventually act upon these urges which leads to, you guessed it, child molestation.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:48 pm
by Lord-General Drache
Nadkor wrote:
The Separatist Systems wrote:
Nadkor wrote:[...]
Of course, only men can be paedophiles or rapists.

Rapists, yes. Pedophiles, probably.
Who knows? Either way, my stance remains the same.


Women can rape (unless you're talking in a strictly legal sense, and even then some countries legally recognise rape as an offence that can be committed by women), and women can certainly be paedophiles.



Beat me to it.

Men can retain a full erection when not wanting to, when afraid or angry. There have been a few cases of a woman raping a man, and because he was erect, it was perceived as consent and desire. Keep in mind that sodomy and forced penetration of an orifice is also counted as rape/molestation, too. However, female rapists are incredibly rare, compared to male rapists.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:49 pm
by NERVUN
Thoricia wrote:Because its sick to even dream fantasize about having sex with someone that is incapable of giving any kind of consent and when some one "just" fantasizes about it they eventually act upon these urges which leads to, you guessed it, child molestation.

:eyebrow: So... every guy and gal who has ever had a rape fantasy has become a rapist?

Interesting logic you have there.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:49 pm
by Lord-General Drache
Thoricia wrote:Because its sick to even dream fantasize about having sex with someone that is incapable of giving any kind of consent and when some one "just" fantasizes about it they eventually act upon these urges which leads to, you guessed it, child molestation.


Not true that fantasies always lead to realization. Many people have fantasies that will never come true, or they will never act on.

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:49 pm
by Nova Magna Germania
Thoricia wrote:Because its sick to even dream fantasize about having sex with someone that is incapable of giving any kind of consent and when some one "just" fantasizes about it they eventually act upon these urges which leads to, you guessed it, child molestation.


Well, rape is pretty disgusting too but:

"A recent analysis of 20 studies over the last 30 years indicates that between 31% and 57% of women have rape fantasies, and these fantasies are frequent or preferred in 9% to 17% of women."
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/bra ... -fantasies

DISCLAMER: THAT DOESNT MEAN THEY WANNA GET RAPED IN REAL

Other examples include, well, watching tv...Murder is pretty discusting but all of us watch it on tv, movies, etc or play computer games where we kill...

PostPosted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 9:52 pm
by Thoricia
NERVUN wrote:
Thoricia wrote:Because its sick to even dream fantasize about having sex with someone that is incapable of giving any kind of consent and when some one "just" fantasizes about it they eventually act upon these urges which leads to, you guessed it, child molestation.

:eyebrow: So... every guy and gal who has ever had a rape fantasy has become a rapist?

Interesting logic you have there.

So your telling me EVERY rapist hadn't thought about it beforehand stimulating themselves thinking about taking advantage of another person without there consent