The Dating thread

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Families like mine differ to some others.

That doesn't actually answer my question...

There's differences across cultures in regards of family values.

For instance, my culture demands of me to be independent of money (or, in other words, financially stable), but to be a source of support for my wife and children and be the breadwinner of the household. It may seem sexist and illogical, but such is our culture in Latin America.

I prefer for a woman to be more independent with her money, more financially stable, and to have someone who can share with me decisions of the household, who isn't scared of making them when needed, even above my own reasoning if she's sure and right about her decision.

I'm guessing it's more or less the same with her/him.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Again, doesn't answer my question. Which was why. What exactly, about money, made your parents marry?

Keeping the bloodline well-off.

Yea I can see that from British families and American upper-class families.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

To be sure that this is posted:

I do understand where Alex is coming from, now that she explained her family history in a little bit more depth (and the post doesn't exist from her deleting it a little bit afterwards).

Just a question for Alex: is it one of your marriage philosophies "You marry not only the person but also the family when you marry someone"? You don't have to answer, I just would like to know.

[Alexanda]

To be sure that this is posted:

I do understand where Alex is coming from, now that she explained her family history in a little bit more depth (and the post doesn't exist from her deleting it a little bit afterwards).

Just a question for Alex: is it one of your marriage philosophies "You marry not only the person but also the family when you marry someone"? You don't have to answer, I just would like to know.

In a way, yes.
And I also deleted the message as it went slightly too much into my family privacy.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

To be sure that this is posted:

I do understand where Alex is coming from, now that she explained her family history in a little bit more depth (and the post doesn't exist from her deleting it a little bit afterwards).

Just a question for Alex: is it one of your marriage philosophies "You marry not only the person but also the family when you marry someone"? You don't have to answer, I just would like to know.

In a way, yes.
And I also deleted the message as it went slightly too much into my family privacy.

I understand if some people do not want to share too much about their families I'm just more open because I don't care as much; I care more about someone pinpointing my location.

Also, explain what you mean by "in a way".

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

That doesn't actually answer my question...

There's differences across cultures in regards of family values.

For instance, my culture demands of me to be independent of money (or, in other words, financially stable), but to be a source of support for my wife and children and be the breadwinner of the household. It may seem sexist and illogical, but such is our culture in Latin America.

I prefer for a woman to be more independent with her money, more financially stable, and to have someone who can share with me decisions of the household, who isn't scared of making them when needed, even above my own reasoning if she's sure and right about her decision.

I'm guessing it's more or less the same with her/him.

I know what you're saying about Latin American culture is true. However, for what I've seen lately, things have changed a bit in more cosmopolitan areas. Although the culture puts a lot of emphasis on the man being head of the household, in every way, it seems this stereotype is changing. Slowly, of course, but there's been a gradual change.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

There's differences across cultures in regards of family values.

For instance, my culture demands of me to be independent of money (or, in other words, financially stable), but to be a source of support for my wife and children and be the breadwinner of the household. It may seem sexist and illogical, but such is our culture in Latin America.

I prefer for a woman to be more independent with her money, more financially stable, and to have someone who can share with me decisions of the household, who isn't scared of making them when needed, even above my own reasoning if she's sure and right about her decision.

I'm guessing it's more or less the same with her/him.

I know what you're saying about Latin American culture is true. However, for what I've seen lately, things have changed a bit in more cosmopolitan areas. Although the culture puts a lot of emphasis on the man being head of the household, in every way, it seems this stereotype is changing. Slowly, of course, but there's been a gradual change.

OH yea, University and City culture is changing to a degree where we're not bound by that stereotype anymore. For instance, I know several friends from El Salvador who want independent women and women who don't want to be tied down so much to their husbands.

They still respect a man's decisions as per the culture demands, but some of us are more and more liberal in that we let women talk back and even to the point of them being financially stable women and educated individuals first, our wives come as a first only when they are around us; and they expect for us to give them the same quality of respect; outside of the household to be exemplary men but their husbands when they are around us

[Alexanda]

In a way, yes.
And I also deleted the message as it went slightly too much into my family privacy.

I understand if some people do not want to share too much about their families I'm just more open because I don't care as much; I care more about someone pinpointing my location.

Also, explain what you mean by "in a way".

O.C.C: Please do answer the telegram.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

I understand if some people do not want to share too much about their families I'm just more open because I don't care as much; I care more about someone pinpointing my location.

Also, explain what you mean by "in a way".

O.C.C: Please do answer the telegram.

I've already answered.

[Torisakia]

That's how just about 85% of relationships start.

Like you're an expert.

I have sources ( and by sources, I mean hearing things people don't want me to hear).

[The Greater Aryan Race]

Maybe you should consider not talking about the political situation on Zog...

Which then leaves me with nothing much to talk about. Hell I can't even discuss my other interests like classical music without being inevitably castrated and shunted off to the category of "just friends".

[Libertarian California]

A lot. The notion that girls don't like that stuff is just culturally imprinted bullshit.

Where I come from, that's practically the reality. Not to exaggerate or anything but whenever I mention anything related to politics or current affairs, nearly every girl will either: a) Brush me off or b) Give me the "polite-but-still-gonna-think-you-came-from-the-planet-Zog" uneasy smile.

This reminds me of a funny story. The girl I took to prom's birthday is on March 15th, the Ides of March. I tried to explain the significance of this, as it was the day Julius Caesar was assassinated, which lead to a civil war that would eventually lead to Octavius (Augustus) forming the Roman Empire.

It went in one ear out and the other, and she proceeded to talk about the laughable sport of women's lacrosse.

*sigh*

[The Greater Aryan Race]

This reminds me of a funny story. The girl I took to prom's birthday is on March 15th, the Ides of March. I tried to explain the significance of this, as it was the day Julius Caesar was assassinated, which lead to a civil war that would eventually lead to Octavius (Augustus) forming the Roman Empire.

It went in one ear out and the other, and she proceeded to talk about the laughable sport of women's lacrosse.

*sigh*

At least she didn't ask you who Caesar was...

[Antarticaria]

This reminds me of a funny story. The girl I took to prom's birthday is on March 15th, the Ides of March. I tried to explain the significance of this, as it was the day Julius Caesar was assassinated, which lead to a civil war that would eventually lead to Octavius (Augustus) forming the Roman Empire.

It went in one ear out and the other, and she proceeded to talk about the laughable sport of women's lacrosse.

*sigh*

At least she didn't ask you who Caesar was...

*raises hand* I had one person (wont name names or gender) who asked me if Greece was next to Hawaii, and yes this person is just a year younger then I.

[Alexanda]

And some boys are just idiots who do not pay attention to anything but football.

[The Greater Aryan Race]

And some boys are just idiots who do not pay attention to anything but football.

Not us male folk. Yet surprisingly in nearly every relationship I have observed, the male idiot who does not pay any attention to anything but football seems to have a pretty decent dating life. At least one that beats my (relatively nonexistent) experiences.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

And some boys are just idiots who do not pay attention to anything but football.

Not us male folk. Yet surprisingly in nearly every relationship I have observed, the male idiot who does not pay any attention to anything but football seems to have a pretty decent dating life. At least one that beats my (relatively nonexistent) experiences.

I don't watch football as much (I watch both American Football and Football though; but only the World Cup on Football and Thanksgiving and the SuperBowl matches for American Football).

I find keeping track of current events is more important.

[The UK in Exile]

This reminds me of a funny story. The girl I took to prom's birthday is on March 15th, the Ides of March. I tried to explain the significance of this, as it was the day Julius Caesar was assassinated, which lead to a civil war that would eventually lead to Octavius (Augustus) forming the Roman Empire.

It went in one ear out and the other, and she proceeded to talk about the laughable sport of women's lacrosse.

*sigh*

At least she didn't ask you who Caesar was...

He was the salad dressing dude.

[Torisakia]

And some boys are just idiots who do not pay attention to anything but football.

I'm a boy and an Idiot but I don't pay attention to football.

I don't pay attention to anything but anime/manga.

But apparently that doesn't sell like it used to.

[Alexanda]

The fact that many people act as if girls are stupid is derogatory and sexist.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

The fact that many people act as if girls are stupid is derogatory and sexist.

It is derogatory indeed.

I generally do not treat people like idiots just because, there has to be a reason behind it.

It is equally derogatory though when women treat men like idiots who watch nothing but football though.

In short I think the most useful advice I've gotten from my father has been: treat others as you'd like to be treated.

[Alexanda]

The fact that many people act as if girls are stupid is derogatory and sexist.

It is derogatory indeed.

I generally do not treat people like idiots just because, there has to be a reason behind it.

It is equally derogatory though when women treat men like idiots who watch nothing but football though.

Exactly.
One would judge a person on few things, but sex is not one of them.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

It is derogatory indeed.

I generally do not treat people like idiots just because, there has to be a reason behind it.

It is equally derogatory though when women treat men like idiots who watch nothing but football though.

Exactly.
One would judge a person on few things, but sex is not one of them.

Sex is one of those things that, although there's some biological differences, in the end it becomes irrelevant in judging a person's character.

[Dyakovo]

The fact that many people act as if girls are stupid is derogatory and sexist.

Indeed it is. And when it's based on "she has different interests than me" you can add "childish" as well.

[Antarticaria]

The fact that many people act as if girls are stupid is derogatory and sexist.

If you are referring to what I said I never stated the gender of the said person.