The Dating thread

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Then why did he marry her?

Both sets of my grandparents thought it was a good idea, and, of course, there was money.
Money was the main factor.

Oh, yea.

I've never let my parents decide for me who to go out with, not even my dad has had that kind of relationship with my grandmother.

[Grenartia]

Then why did he marry her?

Both sets of my grandparents thought it was a good idea, and, of course, there was money.
Money was the main factor.

Why does what your grandparents thought have any weight? And why was money a factor? It seems like you were damn lucky your parents got along at all, if those where the primary factors.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Both sets of my grandparents thought it was a good idea, and, of course, there was money.
Money was the main factor.

Why does what your grandparents thought have any weight? And why was money a factor? It seems like you were damn lucky your parents got along at all, if those where the primary factors.

See, back when the 1930s was still a thing many parents still had a say in a child's dating (or thought they had).

I lived with a grandmother who thought that way and my dad went at odds with her, always, for it. She wanted him to marry a submissive campesina from El Salvador. He ended up dating women from all over the place; and married 3 Mexican women, much to my grandmother's chagrin.

[Grenartia]

Why does what your grandparents thought have any weight? And why was money a factor? It seems like you were damn lucky your parents got along at all, if those where the primary factors.

See, back when the 1930s was still a thing many parents still had a say in a child's dating (or thought they had).

I lived with a grandmother who thought that way and my dad went at odds with her, always, for it.

I know. It just seems plain stupid to me. You're not your parents' personal playthings. Your parents should have no say in your love life, unless there are valid concerns about things like abuse. Other than that, they should butt out and let you be.

[Alexanda]

Both sets of my grandparents thought it was a good idea, and, of course, there was money.
Money was the main factor.

Oh, yea.

I've never let my parents decide for me who to go out with, not even my dad has had that kind of relationship with my grandmother.

My grandparents did not make the decision, but they supported it.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Oh, yea.

I've never let my parents decide for me who to go out with, not even my dad has had that kind of relationship with my grandmother.

My grandparents did not make the decision, but they supported it.

That's what it sounded like, my bad.

But, still, money isn't the main factor for me, never has been. I guess because of my culture and the fact money never played a part in my family other than pay the bills and support the children.

I don't see why was money a factor, either. I mean, financial stability is important, yes, but I don't see why was that a main factor.

[Alexanda]

My grandparents did not make the decision, but they supported it.

That's what it sounded like, my bad.

But, still, money isn't the main factor for me, never has been. I guess because of my culture and the fact money never played a part in my family other than pay the bills and support the children.

May I ask your culture?

[Soldati Senza Confini]

See, back when the 1930s was still a thing many parents still had a say in a child's dating (or thought they had).

I lived with a grandmother who thought that way and my dad went at odds with her, always, for it.

I know. It just seems plain stupid to me. You're not your parents' personal playthings. Your parents should have no say in your love life, unless there are valid concerns about things like abuse. Other than that, they should butt out and let you be.

My dad's approach has been that with me, at least.

He only expects me to be happy, no matter who I marry. He knows I can survive out there so he doesn't instill into my head that money is important. His philosophy is "why go chasing money for marriage if 10 years later you will divorce said woman because she's impossible to live with?"

[Alexanda]

My grandparents did not make the decision, but they supported it.

That's what it sounded like, my bad.

But, still, money isn't the main factor for me, never has been. I guess because of my culture and the fact money never played a part in my family other than pay the bills and support the children.

I don't see why was money a factor, either. I mean, financial stability is important, yes, but I don't see why was that a main factor.

And before you say Western, so am I.

[Grenartia]

I know. It just seems plain stupid to me. You're not your parents' personal playthings. Your parents should have no say in your love life, unless there are valid concerns about things like abuse. Other than that, they should butt out and let you be.

My dad's approach has been that with me, at least.

He only expects me to be happy, no matter who I marry. He knows I can survive out there so he doesn't instill into my head that money is important. His philosophy is "why go chasing money for marriage if 10 years later you will divorce said woman because she's impossible to live with?"

Exactly.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

That's what it sounded like, my bad.

But, still, money isn't the main factor for me, never has been. I guess because of my culture and the fact money never played a part in my family other than pay the bills and support the children.

May I ask your culture?

I'm Latino. I'm a U.S. Citizen, and live in Texas, but I am originary from El Salvador.

My dad's from El Salvador and my mom's from Mexico. My dad's family is a family of middle-class to upper-middle class entrepreneurs and my mom's family is a family of upper-middle class musicians.

[Alexanda]

May I ask your culture?

I'm Latino. I'm a U.S. Citizen, and live in Texas, but I am originary from El Salvador.

My dad's from El Salvador and my mom's from Mexico. My dad's family is a family of middle-class to upper-middle class entrepreneurs and my mom's family is a family of upper-middle class musicians.

And I suppose you think I am eastern?

[Soldati Senza Confini]

That's what it sounded like, my bad.

But, still, money isn't the main factor for me, never has been. I guess because of my culture and the fact money never played a part in my family other than pay the bills and support the children.

I don't see why was money a factor, either. I mean, financial stability is important, yes, but I don't see why was that a main factor.

And before you say Western, so am I.

Oh I wouldn't say that

I'm as specific as possible.

[Alexanda]

It was nothing like an arranged marriage: Just a supported one.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

I'm Latino. I'm a U.S. Citizen, and live in Texas, but I am originary from El Salvador.

My dad's from El Salvador and my mom's from Mexico. My dad's family is a family of middle-class to upper-middle class entrepreneurs and my mom's family is a family of upper-middle class musicians.

And I suppose you think I am eastern?

When did I ever said that?!

I would put you more as North American, more along the lines of an upper-class family.

[Alexanda]

And I suppose you think I am eastern?

When did I ever said that?!

I would put you more as North American, more along the lines of an upper-class family.

British, actually.

[Grenartia]

It was nothing like an arranged marriage: Just a supported one.

Fine. We get that. But how/why was money the primary factor? And you're still lucky your parents got along.

[Alexanda]

It was nothing like an arranged marriage: Just a supported one.

Fine. We get that. But how/why was money the primary factor? And you're still lucky your parents got along.

Families like mine differ to some others.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

It was nothing like an arranged marriage: Just a supported one.

I got that just from your correction.

TO be fair, I don't have anyone to support or disapprove of my dating patterns in my life since I'm on my own pretty much. My parents and family have split apart due to some incidents within the family, so after these two next years go by my dad will be going away to another country and I'll stay here to make my own decisions.

[Grenartia]

Fine. We get that. But how/why was money the primary factor? And you're still lucky your parents got along.

Families like mine differ to some others.

That doesn't actually answer my question...

[Alexanda]

Families like mine differ to some others.

That doesn't actually answer my question...

With have different values.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

When did I ever said that?!

I would put you more as North American, more along the lines of an upper-class family.

British, actually.

British ancestry or immigrant British?

[Alexanda]

British, actually.

British ancestry or immigrant British?

British ancestry.

[Grenartia]

That doesn't actually answer my question...

With have different values.

Again, doesn't answer my question. Which was why. What exactly, about money, made your parents marry?

[Alexanda]

With have different values.

Again, doesn't answer my question. Which was why. What exactly, about money, made your parents marry?

Keeping the bloodline well-off.