The Dating thread

[Bolden]

mmm "magical reappearances" don't ever go well.

(Hey, it's been a while.. )

But true that. Get this..The dude RANDOMLY stopped talking to me in the middle of a (text) conversation..then completely ignored me for a week. Then, I woke up Sad this morning..only to see a "Happy Birthday, (insert my name here)!!! I hope you have a wonderful day today!!!" text sent right on 12:00 A.M.

...some joke. My fam already knows how badly I cried like a baby when he broke up with me. Now they know about this. He's worsening his chances - even though I'd Like to work things out.

*For the record, I hardly Ever cry - EVER. So apparently, I like this guy a lot.
..Plus, I'm a Mama's Girl, so she knows everything (well not errythang..lol..Just the good and the bad.) Yes, I know I'm 20. Yes I still live with my fam (...trying to fix that eventually, lol..)

That was rather jerkassy of him, if you don't mind me saying.

Don't mind you saying that at all - in fact, I agree with you.
It's odd because we were SO close. Like this is the most involved I've ever been in a relationship, yet it's been one of my shortest ones so far.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

mmm "magical reappearances" don't ever go well.

(Hey, it's been a while.. )

But true that. Get this..The dude RANDOMLY stopped talking to me in the middle of a (text) conversation..then completely ignored me for a week. Then, I woke up Sad this morning..only to see a "Happy Birthday, (insert my name here)!!! I hope you have a wonderful day today!!!" text sent right on 12:00 A.M.

...some joke. My fam already knows how badly I cried like a baby when he broke up with me. Now they know about this. He's worsening his chances - even though I'd Like to work things out.

*For the record, I hardly Ever cry - EVER. So apparently, I like this guy a lot.
..Plus, I'm a Mama's Girl, so she knows everything. Yes, I know I'm 20. Yes I still live with my fam (...trying to fix that eventually, lol..)

(I know! I'm glad you remember me )

I don't ignore people, rather, people ignore me I've gotten used to it so I know what you mean.

I'm sorry your day has gone badly for you this birthday And yea, your family won't take on him so keenly for making you cry. My family's about the same.

And hey being a family girl at 20 and still living with your family isn't bad at all. I'm 25 and trying to enjoy my family as much as possible even though I'm trying to move out myself at this point.

[Bolden]

(I know! I'm glad you remember me )

I don't ignore people, rather, people ignore me I've gotten used to it so I know what you mean.

I'm sorry your day has gone badly for you this birthday And yea, your family won't take on him so keenly for making you cry. My family's about the same.

And hey being a family girl at 20 and still living with your family isn't bad at all. I'm 25 and trying to enjoy my family as much as possible even though I'm trying to move out myself at this point.

Well, my birthday's actually pretty good...I have a delicious chocolate cake - one of the best ever, and I got a subway sub.
.....which is a good thing, I Love subs, lol. I got some jewelery as well. Just waiting for my unstable ex to respond back - if he does.

I know living with my fam isn't exactly bad.....but I'm an Extremely independent person..so I'd like to move out soon.. :/ but probably won't until I finish college or miraculously get married.

Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it.

Breaking up just because they have a bad day is among the "lower cognitive reasons" to actually break up with someone.

Or to then reappear as if nothing happened.

Yours too. Makes me feel good to know that others understand how I feel.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

That was rather jerkassy of him, if you don't mind me saying.

Breaking up just because they have a bad day is among the "lower cognitive reasons" to actually break up with someone.

Or to then reappear as if nothing happened.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

(I know! I'm glad you remember me )

I don't ignore people, rather, people ignore me I've gotten used to it so I know what you mean.

I'm sorry your day has gone badly for you this birthday And yea, your family won't take on him so keenly for making you cry. My family's about the same.

And hey being a family girl at 20 and still living with your family isn't bad at all. I'm 25 and trying to enjoy my family as much as possible even though I'm trying to move out myself at this point.

Well, my birthday's actually pretty good...I have a delicious chocolate cake - one of the best ever, and I got a subway sub.
.....which is a good thing, I Love subs, lol. I got some jewelery as well. Just waiting for my unstable ex to respond back - if he does.

I know living with my fam isn't exactly bad.....but I'm an Extremely independent person..so I'd like to move out soon.. :/ but probably won't until I finish college or miraculously get married.

Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it.

Oh nice! I'm glad that things are going well for you on your birthday I love subs too. Yesterday I was talking with Nana about how I love Mayo and Ranch on Italian BMT subs (yes, I am a glutton )

Also, if he does or doesn't it shouldn't bother you. You already know he doesn't take you as seriously or even wants constant communication so why bother?

And well, finish college first, that's what's important. I'd only consider proposing marriage to a girl I'm dating once they are a month from graduating. College is important in my opinion. Of course, this is in general, I'm single

And no problem! Always glad to lend a shoulder

Breaking up just because they have a bad day is among the "lower cognitive reasons" to actually break up with someone.

Or to then reappear as if nothing happened.

That's on the "why" folder.

[Ethel mermania]

Am I in a relationship?

...man, I don't even know. :/

I WAS in a great one (hint - my absence..), now some unnecessary Crap just came about for no reason. We broke up (he was having a bad day and BOOM *break up* - I all of a sudden had a terrible day). I highly doubt that he cheated on me, yet it still hurt like hell. Although all that's true, we're planning to get back together. But now he just played some cruel joke on me and magically reappeared (hint) to tell me "happy birthday!!!" today.

When you've got a good thing with someone, and they just randomly, all of a suddenly Have to ruin it - I personally call it "Too Good To Be True" syndrome, or "Triple T" syndrome.

...and that's my dating life so far, as of now.

fwiw people you want to date shouldnt be playing "cruel jokes on you" i would suggest, as dan savage would say " dtmf "

[The Greater Aryan Race]

A lot. The notion that girls don't like that stuff is just culturally imprinted bullshit.

Where I come from, that's practically the reality. Not to exaggerate or anything but whenever I mention anything related to politics or current affairs, nearly every girl will either: a) Brush me off or b) Give me the "polite-but-still-gonna-think-you-came-from-the-planet-Zog" uneasy smile.

[Dyakovo]

A lot. The notion that girls don't like that stuff is just culturally imprinted bullshit.

Where I come from, that's practically the reality. Not to exaggerate or anything but whenever I mention anything related to politics or current affairs, nearly every girl will either: a) Brush me off or b) Give me the "polite-but-still-gonna-think-you-came-from-the-planet-Zog" uneasy smile.

Maybe you should consider not talking about the political situation on Zog...

[Killdash]

I had a girlfriend, until she stabbed my heart with her stilettos. *Sigh. Oh well, to business. Any assassinations needed? (You'd be surprised at how many you get on dating forums)

[Morrdh]

For anyone who wants to reply: what was the hardest thing to you about dating? For me it was always that first date. It was nerve wracking. Second and third dates with the same person weren't so bad, but that first time was always difficult for me. I'd guess it was no picnic for the other person either.

if it wasnt meeting someone and just hitting it off, the time period between deciding "hey i want to ask that girl out" and asking her. in 75% of the folks i asked out, i already had a repore with them so there wasnt any nervousness in talking to them, just finding the right time to ask and being afraid to find out what happened if they said no.

Pretty much this.^

Girl I'm currently dating I've known for the best part of a decade, so I spent a couple of months going "Do I? Don't I?" and trying to find the right moment before going "Ah, screw it" and actually asked her out on a date.

Been to the cinema couple of times now (second time she asked me if I wanted to go), been to a party together, hung out together a few times and we're meeting up on Monday.

Everything seems to be going ok, but I would've been left wondering if I hadn't asked her out.

On a related note, how long should I wait before seeing about taking things a step further and actually have a fully fledge relationship?

[Torisakia]

if it wasnt meeting someone and just hitting it off, the time period between deciding "hey i want to ask that girl out" and asking her. in 75% of the folks i asked out, i already had a repore with them so there wasnt any nervousness in talking to them, just finding the right time to ask and being afraid to find out what happened if they said no.

Pretty much this.^

Girl I'm currently dating I've known for the best part of a decade, so I spent a couple of months going "Do I? Don't I?" and trying to find the right moment before going "Ah, screw it" and actually asked her out on a date.

Been to the cinema couple of times now (second time she asked me if I wanted to go), been to a party together, hung out together a few times and we're meeting up on Monday.

Everything seems to be going ok, but I would've been left wondering if I hadn't asked her out.

On a related note, how long should I wait before seeing about taking things a step further and actually have a fully fledge relationship?

What counts as a "full-fledge relationship"?

[Morrdh]

Pretty much this.^

Girl I'm currently dating I've known for the best part of a decade, so I spent a couple of months going "Do I? Don't I?" and trying to find the right moment before going "Ah, screw it" and actually asked her out on a date.

Been to the cinema couple of times now (second time she asked me if I wanted to go), been to a party together, hung out together a few times and we're meeting up on Monday.

Everything seems to be going ok, but I would've been left wondering if I hadn't asked her out.

On a related note, how long should I wait before seeing about taking things a step further and actually have a fully fledge relationship?

What counts as a "full-fledge relationship"?

Being boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to 'just dating'.

[Dyakovo]

What counts as a "full-fledge relationship"?

Being boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to 'just dating'.

I'm not seeing a difference.

[Torisakia]

What counts as a "full-fledge relationship"?

Being boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to 'just dating'.

Aren't they the same thing?

[Morrdh]

Being boyfriend/girlfriend as opposed to 'just dating'.

Aren't they the same thing?

No, not really.

A fully fledge relationship involves alot more commitment and emotional hardship.

[Libertarian California]

I really really love this guy who lives in a completely different state but we skype every single night and Im hoping that he will be able to visit this summer!

Who??????????

[Libertarian California]

wow im in love. thats all i can really say im just like WOW. this guy is perfect! he's EXTREMELY smart, funny, handsome, sweet, and just PERFECT

Nah, you're better.

[Dyakovo]

I really really love this guy who lives in a completely different state but we skype every single night and Im hoping that he will be able to visit this summer!

Who??????????

Somebody who's not you.

[Grenartia]

Am I in a relationship?

...man, I don't even know. :/

I WAS in a great one (hint - my absence..), now some unnecessary Crap just came about for no reason. We broke up (he was having a bad day and BOOM *break up* - I all of a sudden had a terrible day). I highly doubt that he cheated on me, yet it still hurt like hell. Although all that's true, we're planning to get back together. But now he just played some cruel joke on me and magically reappeared (hint) to tell me "happy birthday!!!" today.

When you've got a good thing with someone, and they just randomly, all of a suddenly Have to ruin it - I personally call it "Too Good To Be True" syndrome, or "Triple T" syndrome.

...and that's my dating life so far, as of now.

fwiw people you want to date shouldnt be playing "cruel jokes on you" i would suggest, as dan savage would say " dtmf "

Pretty much this.

[Libertarian California]

Who??????????

Somebody who's not you.

Are you really gonna do this?

[Soldati Senza Confini]

Aren't they the same thing?

No, not really.

A fully fledge relationship involves alot more commitment and emotional hardship.

That, whether you are a boyfriend/girlfriend or "just dating" gets to be over time.

Emotional commitment and hardship is an intrinsic part of letting other people inside our lives.

[Basseemia]

Who??????????

Somebody who's not you.

Oh haha you're so funny.

[Torisakia]

Aren't they the same thing?

No, not really.

A fully fledge relationship involves alot more commitment and emotional hardship.

What's the point in commitment and "emotional hardship" in a relationship if there's a 90% chance it won't last long anyway?

[Alexanda]

Why would I want another woman?

Two are better than one.

For a dirty cheat, yes.

[Alexanda]

One wouldn't 'date' for a single reason.