Relationships

[Sumamba Buwhan]

Married three and a half years to a beautiful woman whom I have been with since Sept of '01

[Rasselas]

...In other words, I just find it REALLY hard to talk to someone if I decide that I'm falling for them...

Don't worry about it. I met my current boyfriend at work, and didn't get more than a blushing, panicked "Hello" out of him for a year. We finally got together when mutual friends decided they'd had enough, dragged us on a night out and got him drunk enough to overcome his shyness

[Fighter4u]

...In other words, I just find it REALLY hard to talk to someone if I decide that I'm falling for them...

Don't worry about it. I met my current boyfriend at work, and didn't get more than a blushing, panicked "Hello" out of him for a year. We finally got together when mutual friends decided they'd had enough, dragged us on a night out and got him drunk enough to overcome his shyness

Haha, that so sounds like me! Thanks for the laugh. I'm sure I figured it out eventually.

Those one question. Why do the guy always have to the asking out if it obvious the guy and girl like each other but his too shy to ask?

*Grumbles grumbles*

[Amor Pulchritudo]

...In other words, I just find it REALLY hard to talk to someone if I decide that I'm falling for them...

Don't worry about it. I met my current boyfriend at work, and didn't get more than a blushing, panicked "Hello" out of him for a year. We finally got together when mutual friends decided they'd had enough, dragged us on a night out and got him drunk enough to overcome his shyness

Haha, that so sounds like me! Thanks for the laugh. I'm sure I figured it out eventually.

Those one question. Why do the guy always have to the asking out if it obvious the guy and girl like each other but his too shy to ask?

*Grumbles grumbles*

They don't...

[Kobrania]

Mated with this cutie

Unfortunately, until I get some money, it is a long distance relationship.

[Delator]

Single.

Not in a hurry to change that, but you never know...

[Lackadaisical2]

I'm still on good terms with all my past lovers as far as I know. Granted, I've only ever had one "boyfriend" (my current partner) and one "girlfriend," with the others being slightly less conventional relationships. Maybe that's why it's easier to stay friends with them? I don't know. I've never had an ugly break up before.

Alot people I've met have that issue because, when a relationship is dissolving, they seem to return to an elementary/middle school mindset and start accusing the other of all sorts of real and imagined crimes, flinging insults about, instead of talking out why they need to break up.

It's easy for people to blacken the name of the other person. It is much, much harder to sit down and ask yourself and the other person what's gone wrong, and accepting that you both have screwed up in some fashion.

This seems unfathomable to me. I'm friends with both of my exs, despite very real reasons for me breaking up with them. I don't see what's so hard about talking about issues, or why people would choose to date people they otherwise would not be friends with. Even out of love with someone, you always have love for that person, in my experience. It seems odd to me that a relationship could turn from love to completely the opposite direction.

hm... maybe I can help.

My ex and I don't really tlak anymore, and I wouldn't call her a "friend" anymore. I was good friends with her throughout our relationship, and before it, however the pain of breaking up was too much for me to deal with, and honestly, I don't think she'd want to spend anytime with me anyway (no, I didn't do anything horrendous). I'll probably still love her til the end of my days, but that doesn't change the fact that we're not friends. We also live quite far away form each other now, so thats part of it.

[Rasselas]

...In other words, I just find it REALLY hard to talk to someone if I decide that I'm falling for them...

Don't worry about it. I met my current boyfriend at work, and didn't get more than a blushing, panicked "Hello" out of him for a year. We finally got together when mutual friends decided they'd had enough, dragged us on a night out and got him drunk enough to overcome his shyness

Haha, that so sounds like me! Thanks for the laugh. I'm sure I figured it out eventually.

Those one question. Why do the guy always have to the asking out if it obvious the guy and girl like each other but his too shy to ask?

*Grumbles grumbles*

Well, they don't. My problem was that I never got more than 5 seconds alone with him to ask!

[Bottle]

You know, I wonder NSG, how many of you believe that sex before marriage is all right?

Personally, I believe it's wrong to get married without having had sex beforehand. I wouldn't be willing to marry anybody who hadn't had sex with me and with at least one other person first. But that's based on my personal view of what a marriage should be, and I don't expect everyone to share that view.

[Bottle]

Here is an example you might understand.

I have a really good friend. We met when we were neighbors back at my old apartment complex. At the time, I was dating someone, and I wouldn't let anything happen between us, although it was obvious she had a thing for me. Being neighbors, we hung out a lot, often away from my girlfriend at the time, and she became a good friend and a confidante in woman matters.

About 7-8 months ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, and life went on as usual between my friend and I. One night, however, we were hanging out at a friends and drinking and just having a good time, and we ended up going home together. This repeated for several weeks, maybe three or so months.

Now, while we enjoyed the sex and it came to be habit that we would just go home together, it was always understood that we would not take it to another level, as we had come to like hanging out like friends too much to jeopardize that with a relationship. Relationships bring jealousy, commitments, constant presence, and other dynamics that neither of us thought would be good for our friendship.

In the end we always continued to hang out as friends would do, yet at the end of the night would go home for a round of drunken sex. I am not saying that way works for everyone, but I can say that right now we are both seeing different people, and while it can be awkward at times, we remain very good friends and hang out (without the sex) regularly.


As for me, I am in a long distance relationship right now, which is bad in ways and good in ways, but mostly just tries my saintly patience. I am emotionally committed to this girl, I trust her, and I enjoy the times we hang out. We can go 2-3 weeks at a time without seeing each other, however, and that really tests my physical commitment. I have been severely tempted on a couple of occasions.

Now again, to me, this is more "friend with benefit" than "fuckbuddy". I would say I currently have two people who are "fuckbuddies".

Let's see if I can break this down (note that the "I" is not necessarily me. I refuse to do some of these)

one night stand: random stranger I met at the bar. Maybe got a name, maybe not...doesn't really matter as we (or atleast I) have no intent on ever seeing or speaking to them again.
booty call: someone whom I only contact for sex. Literally, come over, take off clothes, do the deed, and leave. Minimal speaking.
fuck buddy: someone with whom I am actually willing to hang out with, though the focus of our relationship is still on sex. Maybe we can go do something casual, but in the end, we'll boink. Not someone I will tend to invite out for a night with my friends.
friend: someone whom I invite out regularly. We tend to keep our pants on around each other and, beyond maybe a one night encounter (which would be very rare), we have a purely and strictly platonic relationship
friend with benefits: We go out. We have the same circle of friends. We do everything I do with my friends. Afterwards, we boink.
full blown relationships of various types: actual commitment. Dating, boyfriend/girlfriend, fiancé, husband/wife, etc.

My partner and I were "friends with benefits" for a year before we started dating.

I don't believe in love at first sight, but we were more or less friends at first sight. We met one night during a group outing, and by dinner the next day we had people asking us if we'd gone to high school together...it was surreal how quickly we clicked. Turns out we also had a lot of sexual chemistry, and we were fucking within a couple weeks. But I was in an (open) relationship with somebody else, and he was just coming out of a 3-year relationship that ended badly, so neither of us wanted to date each other. We stopped sleeping together for a while when he got a new girlfriend, and then again later when I started seeing a new guy, because neither of us wanted to do something that would hurt the feelings of those other partners.

A lot of our friends didn't really get our relationship. We had lots of people ask why we weren't dating, and that always seemed like a weird question to me. To me, you don't start dating somebody just because you like fucking them. Dating is a different sort of commitment, and I can really like somebody and enjoy having sex with them but still not want to date them...I guess that's not terribly normal?

[East roman emperium]

in relationship 2 years

[Straughn]

There are often threads on NSG that are about sex. We may joke every now and then that "you wouldn't be on NS if you were getting laid", but obviously this is a gross generalisation. So, I was wondering, who on NSG is in a relationship? Furthermore, tell us about your relationship. Are you married? Are you "casual"? Are you in a relationship with a fellow NSer?

I did a digi-polygamy-by-proxy a while back for reasons and conditions that are probably better suited in confidentiality than declaration, and i've been steadily weeding out some people through boredom, inattentiveness, ennui, and character assassination.

[Friedman and Rothbard]

My girlfriend broke up with me last Saturday.

Yeah.

[Straughn]

Married three and a half years to a beautiful woman whom I have been with since Sept of '01

*le eek*
Sumamba!
*bows*
Don't forget your relationship with other posters here ... especially about republicans!

[Straughn]

Today is my 9th anniversary. (married)

What the hell are you doing on the internet?

Tending to her cult, i suspect.
...
That, and explaining how there's no weasel when there clearly is a weasel or two ...
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*taps feet*

[Straughn]

And yeah, it is pretty vulgar. But then, sex tends to be.

Needs more cowbell!
-erm, chocolate.
<.<
>.>
Or maybe a clown outfit or something. Not quite as vulgar if you're *both* laughing. Or sobbing. Well, as long as it's mutual, i guess. Both in clown outfits, or those get-ups in that Jesus Jones video waaaaaaaaaaay back.

[Anti-Social Darwinism]

Single. Have been for nearly 35 years. Not really an issue since I'm commitmentphobic.

[Straughn]

Single. Have been for nearly 35 years. Not really an issue since I'm commitmentphobic.

...... other than your commitment to being NSG's resident curmudgeon.

In fact, using you as a work reference, if you don't mind.

[Anti-Social Darwinism]

Single. Have been for nearly 35 years. Not really an issue since I'm commitmentphobic.

...... other than your commitment to being NSG's resident curmudgeon.

In fact, using you as a work reference, if you don't mind.

So, you don't want the job.

[Straughn]

Single. Have been for nearly 35 years. Not really an issue since I'm commitmentphobic.

...... other than your commitment to being NSG's resident curmudgeon.

In fact, using you as a work reference, if you don't mind.

So, you don't want the job.

Whatever imagination (or truth) you'd care to deliver about me is likely to help for the jobs that i would be using you as a reference for.

I suspect you'd probably just say, "Who? Never heard of him/her/it."

[Anti-Social Darwinism]

Single. Have been for nearly 35 years. Not really an issue since I'm commitmentphobic.

...... other than your commitment to being NSG's resident curmudgeon.

In fact, using you as a work reference, if you don't mind.

So, you don't want the job.

Whatever imagination (or truth) you'd care to deliver about me is likely to help for the jobs that i would be using you as a reference for.

I suspect you'd probably just say, "Who? Never heard of him/her/it."

Eh. I'd probably say something like - "nice guy, laughs at my jokes. Or maybe it's me. Anyway, he laughs, sort of."

[Uawc]

My girlfriend broke up with me last Saturday.

Yeah.

The ladies don't dig cappies. =/

[Benzei]

Lol asking for a honest opinion about relationship, sure why not

I have about 5 spanish girlfriends, 3 americans, 4 swedish and 3 asians, i usualy have a huge gangbang every day with all of them and i hop from the oldest to the youngest, all of them are below 25 and have F cups and asses who would get stuck in the elevator. They all love me and call me every day, i usualy drive them around in one of my 10 ferraris and i drop them of at their mansions that i got for them, after that i drive home on the gold paved road named after me and party with my personal house girlfriends. And then i tell them to get back to the kitchen.

[Cattidome]

Lol asking for a honest opinion about relationship, sure why not

I have about 5 spanish girlfriends, 3 americans, 4 swedish and 3 asians, i usualy have a huge gangbang every day with all of them and i hop from the oldest to the youngest, all of them are below 25 and have F cups and asses who would get stuck in the elevator. They all love me and call me every day, i usualy drive them around in one of my 10 ferraris and i drop them of at their mansions that i got for them, after that i drive home on the gold paved road named after me and party with my personal house girlfriends. And then i tell them to get back to the kitchen.

how 'bou naw mate?
Im single...I think. The guy from volitairian states has asked me a...revealing question. My only boy friend that I know We've both loved each other was a guy called stphen who was two years older. we went out for 3 years and I miss him. but he started getting depressed and took the drugs. my next one was an english guy, one year older, an he played me and my most recent was a dikk head.

[The Alma Mater]

I'm twelve.

Work the rest out for your self.

You had sex with 30 different 18+ persons in exchange for alcoholic beverages and cigarettes ?
(sadly, that is not even that uncommon...)