Does the friend-zone exist?

[Rocopurr]

You really make friendship out to be an awful thing. Yeah, it sucks to get rejected, but you'll most likely get over it and then just be happy friends. Even if you don't, wouldn't you rather be friends than enemies or nothing at all?

1) Waaaat. I make friendship look awful?

2) Of course it does. Friendzone is just the slower form. I would rather be told straight-forward.

3) I would rather be friends. But friendzone is a different thing.

1. You sound like you're whining about being friends.

2. How is it slower?

3. How so? Getting 'friendzoned' is just being told they only want to be friends. I don't see the difference.

[Dutch Afrika]

1) Waaaat. I make friendship look awful?

2) Of course it does. Friendzone is just the slower form. I would rather be told straight-forward.

3) I would rather be friends. But friendzone is a different thing.

1. You sound like you're whining about being friends.

2. How is it slower?

3. How so? Getting 'friendzoned' is just being told they only want to be friends. I don't see the difference.

1) Oh, well, guess I do. But I am not. I am just whining about the whole friendzone thing. Will explain later.

3) Oh, friendzone is the state where said female knows you like her, but instead of rejecting you in the preferable straight way, tells you you want to be friends. When you don't want that in the first place.

2) Basically, it leaves you a small window of hope open. And when you are friendzoned for the first few times, you can't really get it. My experience and perception.

[Dyakovo]

He is saying that he is owed a relationship because he's not an obvious douche. Whether or not he is actually a douche is immaterial. On a number of occasions I've been interested in a girl that wasn't interested in me, I have never been "friend-zoned" though because I've never felt I was owed a relationship.

They never said anyone owed them anything.

How did you reach that conclusion?

Because if they didn't expect the object of their desire to be obligated to have a relationship with them they'd just move on rather than complaining about how it's totally unfair that the person they're interested in doesn't feel the same way about them (i.e. friend-zoned).

[TheSwayingForrest]

Yea it exists. Love your faces, peace, and sargasms.
#swayingforrest

[Rocopurr]

1. You sound like you're whining about being friends.

2. How is it slower?

3. How so? Getting 'friendzoned' is just being told they only want to be friends. I don't see the difference.

1) Oh, well, guess I do. But I am not. I am just whining about the whole friendzone thing. Will explain later.

3) Oh, friendzone is the state where said female knows you like her, but instead of rejecting you in the preferable straight way, tells you you want to be friends. When you don't want that in the first place.

2) Basically, it leaves you a small window of hope open. And when you are friendzoned for the first few times, you can't really get it. My experience and perception.

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

[Condunum]

Yeah, no. Unrequited love is unrequited love.

Good thing that's not all I said. Quote, "The status of unrequited love from someone who wishes to be friends with you is a real status. Hence, friend zone."

The friend zone is a term that implies being confined to a specific type of relationship, regardless of feelings. It's an attempt to make the lack of a relationship the fault of the person who doesn't want the relationship, and not just how it is.

Bollocks. Instead of projecting what you want it to be, how about you actually pay attention to how people use it? More people than not use the term simple to mean "friends with someone you want to date", without any intention of acuusing the other party of having done something wrong.

The friend-zone is just a recent concept to explain away the inability to get with a single individual, instead of maturing and moving on.

"Maturing and moving on". As if it's that simple. And people say I'm dismissive of emotions.

I've already made repeated explanations of my operating definition of friend zone. The key modifier int he term is the use of the word zone.

I am not dismissive of emotions, but go ahead and just to whatever assumptions you want off of a single post.

[Dyakovo]

You really make friendship out to be an awful thing. Yeah, it sucks to get rejected, but you'll most likely get over it and then just be happy friends. Even if you don't, wouldn't you rather be friends than enemies or nothing at all?

1) Waaaat. I make friendship look awful?.

Everyone who complains about "the friend-zone" is making friendship out to be an awful thing.

[Dutch Afrika]

1) Oh, well, guess I do. But I am not. I am just whining about the whole friendzone thing. Will explain later.

3) Oh, friendzone is the state where said female knows you like her, but instead of rejecting you in the preferable straight way, tells you you want to be friends. When you don't want that in the first place.

2) Basically, it leaves you a small window of hope open. And when you are friendzoned for the first few times, you can't really get it. My experience and perception.

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

2) It's the WAY! I know it might sound stupid, but that's it. Friendzone happens after some time, when you haven't been rejected, yet. And it's not straightforward. It's more like "I like you as a friend" rather than "I just want to be friends".

[Dutch Afrika]

1) Waaaat. I make friendship look awful?.

Everyone who complains about "the friend-zone" is making friendship out to be an awful thing.

Nooo?

[Dyakovo]

1) Oh, well, guess I do. But I am not. I am just whining about the whole friendzone thing. Will explain later.

3) Oh, friendzone is the state where said female knows you like her, but instead of rejecting you in the preferable straight way, tells you you want to be friends. When you don't want that in the first place.

2) Basically, it leaves you a small window of hope open. And when you are friendzoned for the first few times, you can't really get it. My experience and perception.

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

Because he's owed a relationship.
*nods*

[Dutch Afrika]

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

Because he's owed a relationship.
*nods*

I never said that.......

[Republic of Ignus]

well it sucks if you wanna Fuck

[Rocopurr]

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

2) It's the WAY! I know it might sound stupid, but that's it. Friendzone happens after some time, when you haven't been rejected, yet. And it's not straightforward. It's more like "I like you as a friend" rather than "I just want to be friends".

I don't see what you're saying. I like you as a friend and I just want to be friends mean the same thing: They want to be friends, not partners. It's straightforward.

[Dyakovo]

Because he's owed a relationship.
*nods*

I never said that.......

Not in those specific words, but yeah you really have.

[Rocopurr]

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

Because he's owed a relationship.
*nods*

I paid my five hundred Kindess Coins. Where is the sex??

[Dutch Afrika]

I never said that.......

Not in those specific words, but yeah you really have.

No. I said that the in the state of the friendzone, lets say "Boy 1" isn't much interested in being friends with "Girl 2" but doesn't want to break the nice relations they have. Or at least, I tried to.

[Hathradic States]

The Friend Zone exists for men, women, non-genders, all genders, and bigenders, and straight and gay.

I have been on both ends of the Friend Zone, too, and the social stigma that goes with it is completely stupid.

[Duvniask]

They never said anyone owed them anything.

How did you reach that conclusion?

Because if they didn't expect the object of their desire to be obligated to have a relationship with them they'd just move on rather than complaining about how it's totally unfair that the person they're interested in doesn't feel the same way about them (i.e. friend-zoned).

I fail to see how they "complained about it being totally unfair".

They only said this, nothing more. It's merely recognizing that they were experiencing unrequited love.

[Hathradic States]

2. That is rejection in a straight way. "I just want to be friends." You were their friend first, made a move, they say they want to be just friends. I don't see what's wrong with that.

There is nothing wrong with it, though it can hurt. Right now, I am clarifying that I do not think anybody is entitled to a relationship. Going on, though.

Sometimes, you legitimately love someobody and they don't feel that way towards you and it sucks, but they still enjoy your company, thus creating the zone where they wish to maintain friendship, AKA, the "Friend Zone". This place can and will hurt if it is with someone you thought you loved/actually loved.

[Hathradic States]

They never said anyone owed them anything.

How did you reach that conclusion?

Because if they didn't expect the object of their desire to be obligated to have a relationship with them they'd just move on rather than complaining about how it's totally unfair that the person they're interested in doesn't feel the same way about them (i.e. friend-zoned).

So it is bad not to be happy about feeling for someone and not having that feeling returned?

[The Merchant Republics]

Because if they didn't expect the object of their desire to be obligated to have a relationship with them they'd just move on rather than complaining about how it's totally unfair that the person they're interested in doesn't feel the same way about them (i.e. friend-zoned).

So it is bad not to be happy about feeling for someone and not having that feeling returned?

It's bad at the very least to obsess over it.

[Hathradic States]

So it is bad not to be happy about feeling for someone and not having that feeling returned?

It's bad at the very least to obsess over it.

Yes, but the occasional "God damn this sucks" isn't bad.

[Zottistan]

Of course the friend zone exists, although it's irritating as fuck when people use it as an excuse to whine about being alone.

[Anollasia]

It exists.

[The Democratic States of Khazakia]

The "friend zone" is a Femalian term for "the place where a perfectly fine guy is nicely rejected into after asking a girl to be his girlfriend"
The "friend zone" is an Male term for a mythical hangout in SoCal.