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by The Parkus Empire » Sun Aug 18, 2013 8:49 am
Myveria wrote:This is so bizarre. We used to be talking about religion and now we're talking about sex and elevators. What happened?
by Breadknife » Sun Aug 18, 2013 2:58 pm
Fireye wrote:I'm never invited to the Atheist picnic.
by Verbal Pararhea » Sun Aug 18, 2013 3:46 pm
by Freelanderness » Mon Aug 19, 2013 2:39 am
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by Rubiconic Crossings V2 rev 1f » Mon Aug 19, 2013 3:28 am
The Parkus Empire wrote:Rubiconic Crossings V2 rev 1f wrote:
Well I'm not sure about a lot of problems...but yes it does show that there are some atheists who are utter fucking arseholes. However I suspect that these "people" are a vocal minority. If it turns out that a majority of male atheists are misogynistic shit heads then I really do fear the end is neigh and we may as well just pack up and return to the oceans.
I very much doubt that a majority of them are.
by Tahar Joblis » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:13 am
Summary version: Woman gives talk about women's issues in the "skeptic community", basically about the occasional hostility and sexism faced, and the kind of behavior that makes women feel unwelcome, including treating women more as sex objects than as full members of the community. It's late, she's tired, she says she's going to go to bed. This guy, realizing that what he's doing is exactly the sort of thing that she said is annoying, says "Don't take this wrong way," but would you like to come to my room for coffee. She turns him down. Later, she notes this on her blog with the simple comment that this is kind of sketchy behavior.
Stef McGraw wrote:Watson is upset that this man is sexualizing her just after she gave a talk relating to feminism, but my question is this: Since when are respecting women as equals and showing sexual interest mutually exclusive? Is it not possible to view to take interest in a woman AND see her as an intelligent person?
Someone who truly abides by feminist principles would, in my view, have to react in the same manner were the situation reversed; if a woman were to engage a man in the same way, she would probably be creeping him out and making him uncomfortable and unfairly sexualizing him, right? But of course no one ever makes that claim, which is why I see Watson’s comment as so hypocritical.
If you really want social equality for women, which is what feminism is, why not apply the same standards to men and women, and stop demonizing men for being sexual beings?
Rebecca Watson wrote:I hear a lot of misogyny from skeptics and atheists, but when ancient anti-woman rhetoric like the above is repeated verbatim by a young woman online, it validates that misogyny in a way that goes above and beyond the validation those men get from one another.
Stef McGraw wrote:Then, a day later at the conference, Watson delivered a keynote speech on the religious right’s war against women. Before she got to her main content, though, she decided to address sexism in the secular movement, which she views as a rampant problem. I shared her disgust as she showed screenshots of people online calling her demeaning names, making comments about her appearance, and, worst of all, making rape comments.
Then, switching gears, Watson made a remark to the extent that there are people in our own community who would not stand up for her in these sorts of situations; my name, organization, and a few sentences from my blog post then flashed on the screen before my eyes. She went on to explain how I didn’t understand what objectification meant and was espousing anti-woman sentiment.
by Tahar Joblis » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:27 am
The Parkus Empire wrote:Grave_n_idle wrote:
No, I'm saying that our culture is patriarchal, that our culturally religious traditions are patriarchal, and that our atheists are also part of that same cultural tradition.
The reason I think atheists might be less likely to be so deeply ingrained with the cultural misogyny is that they've rejected part of the cultural tradition (the deliberate dogmatic parts).
Ah. I think that makes a good deal of sense, and offhand I'd say feminists are probably more atheistic demographically than non-feminists or anti-feminists are.
by Tahar Joblis » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:34 am
Myveria wrote:This is so bizarre. We used to be talking about religion and now we're talking about sex and elevators. What happened?
by Trotskylvania » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:36 am
Tahar Joblis wrote:You're claiming that Watson posted, got shit on by a knee-jerk reaction from all teh menz of teh intarwub, and this created a flurry of reaction.
Tahar Joblis wrote:No. Watson posted, other people objected thoughtfully and with reason, Watson responded to her critics with attacks. Watson bears the lion's share of responsibility here; because when faced with ordinary reasoned disagreement, she resorted to name-calling, and fairly public name-calling, at that.
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by Ostroeuropa » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:38 am
Trotskylvania wrote:Tahar Joblis wrote:You're claiming that Watson posted, got shit on by a knee-jerk reaction from all teh menz of teh intarwub, and this created a flurry of reaction.
No, I did not. You take every opportunity to mischarecterize my and other's position at every opporunity in the most trollish manner possible. Stop it.
And there was a knee-jerk reaction, by both yourself and others, at the gall of some woman daring to feel uncomfortable about sexual advances. Those criticisms she faced for her discomfort were direct attacks on her right to set her own boundaries, something you have repeatedly joined in. You've again and again made it clear that you believe that a woman has no right to not like being the target of sexual advances. Hence, your continued mischaracterization of other's arguments in the most hyperbolic manner possible through the use of internetisms.Tahar Joblis wrote:No. Watson posted, other people objected thoughtfully and with reason, Watson responded to her critics with attacks. Watson bears the lion's share of responsibility here; because when faced with ordinary reasoned disagreement, she resorted to name-calling, and fairly public name-calling, at that.
Oh no, a woman called some people sexist on the internet. It's totally her fault she got rape threats.
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:48 am
Trotskylvania wrote:Tahar Joblis wrote:You're claiming that Watson posted, got shit on by a knee-jerk reaction from all teh menz of teh intarwub, and this created a flurry of reaction.
No, I did not. You take every opportunity to mischarecterize my and other's position at every opporunity in the most trollish manner possible. Stop it.
And there was a knee-jerk reaction, by both yourself and others, at the gall of some woman daring to feel uncomfortable about sexual advances. Those criticisms she faced for her discomfort were direct attacks on her right to set her own boundaries, something you have repeatedly joined in. You've again and again made it clear that you believe that a woman has no right to not like being the target of sexual advances. Hence, your continued mischaracterization of other's arguments in the most hyperbolic manner possible through the use of internetisms.Tahar Joblis wrote:No. Watson posted, other people objected thoughtfully and with reason, Watson responded to her critics with attacks. Watson bears the lion's share of responsibility here; because when faced with ordinary reasoned disagreement, she resorted to name-calling, and fairly public name-calling, at that.
Oh no, a woman called some people sexist on the internet. It's totally her fault she got rape threats.
by Grave_n_idle » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:49 am
Llamalandia wrote:Trotskylvania wrote:No, I did not. You take every opportunity to mischarecterize my and other's position at every opporunity in the most trollish manner possible. Stop it.
And there was a knee-jerk reaction, by both yourself and others, at the gall of some woman daring to feel uncomfortable about sexual advances. Those criticisms she faced for her discomfort were direct attacks on her right to set her own boundaries, something you have repeatedly joined in. You've again and again made it clear that you believe that a woman has no right to not like being the target of sexual advances. Hence, your continued mischaracterization of other's arguments in the most hyperbolic manner possible through the use of internetisms.
Oh no, a woman called some people sexist on the internet. It's totally her fault she got rape threats.
no it is her fault because she lied about people being sexist on the internet. Look point is she was mistaken and in fairness probably didn't deserve the threats against, but she could have done more to defuse the situation.
by Trotskylvania » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:50 am
Ostroeuropa wrote:Trotskylvania wrote:No, I did not. You take every opportunity to mischarecterize my and other's position at every opporunity in the most trollish manner possible. Stop it.
And there was a knee-jerk reaction, by both yourself and others, at the gall of some woman daring to feel uncomfortable about sexual advances. Those criticisms she faced for her discomfort were direct attacks on her right to set her own boundaries, something you have repeatedly joined in. You've again and again made it clear that you believe that a woman has no right to not like being the target of sexual advances. Hence, your continued mischaracterization of other's arguments in the most hyperbolic manner possible through the use of internetisms.
Oh no, a woman called some people sexist on the internet. It's totally her fault she got rape threats.
I'm wondering whether you consciously decided to ignore the rest of his post, it's invisible to you, or it just went in oneeareye out the other. Maybe you could help me out on figuring out which it is.
Your Friendly Neighborhood Ultra - The Left Wing of the Impossible
Putting the '-sadism' in PosadismKarl Marx, Wage Labour and Capital
Anton Pannekoek, World Revolution and Communist Tactics
Amadeo Bordiga, Dialogue With Stalin
Nikolai Bukharin, The ABC of Communism
Gilles Dauvé, When Insurrections Die"The hell of capitalism is the firm, not the fact that the firm has a boss."- Bordiga
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:55 am
Grave_n_idle wrote:Llamalandia wrote:
I haven't read everything on this topic and don't know absolutely everything she herself said therefor i wanted to hedge, but yeah its more like almost certainly. Im not a fan of absolutes, at least most of the time.
no it is her fault because she lied about people being sexist on the internet. Look point is she was mistaken and in fairness probably didn't deserve the threats against, but she could have done more to defuse the situation.
"Probably"?
by Ostroeuropa » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:58 am
Trotskylvania wrote:Ostroeuropa wrote:
I'm wondering whether you consciously decided to ignore the rest of his post, it's invisible to you, or it just went in oneeareye out the other. Maybe you could help me out on figuring out which it is.
Stef McGraw's entire case rests on an entirely unsupported charge of hypocrisy, that no one would see it "creepy" if the genders were reversed.
And no matter how innocuous it started, TJ is entirely baseless in his view that this somehow excuses the frank misogyny displayed, or the ridiculous assertions being thrown left and right that women, and people in general, have no right to be uncomfortable about sexual advances, particularly downright creepy ones, and to give voice to this.
TJ's outright flamebaiting behavior and mischarecterization of my post is what I chose to take issue with.
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 10:59 am
Trotskylvania wrote:Ostroeuropa wrote:
I'm wondering whether you consciously decided to ignore the rest of his post, it's invisible to you, or it just went in oneeareye out the other. Maybe you could help me out on figuring out which it is.
Stef McGraw's entire case rests on an entirely unsupported charge of hypocrisy, that no one would see it "creepy" if the genders were reversed.
And no matter how innocuous it started, TJ is entirely baseless in his view that this somehow excuses the frank misogyny displayed, or the ridiculous assertions being thrown left and right that women, and people in general, have no right to be uncomfortable about sexual advances, particularly downright creepy ones, and to give voice to this.
TJ's outright flamebaiting behavior and mischarecterization of my post is what I chose to take issue with.
by Tahar Joblis » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:06 am
Trotskylvania wrote: Those criticisms she faced for her discomfort were direct attacks on her right to set her own boundaries
You've again and again made it clear that you believe that a woman has no right to not like being the target of sexual advances
Oh no, a woman called some people sexist on the internet. It's totally her fault she got rape threats.
You're claiming that Watson posted, got shit on by a knee-jerk reaction from all teh menz of teh intarwub, and this created a flurry of reaction.
No, the scandal is entirely based on the reaction that male atheists had to the woman blogging about it.
And there was a knee-jerk reaction, by both yourself and others, at the gall of some woman daring to feel uncomfortable about sexual advances.
by Grave_n_idle » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:06 am
Llamalandia wrote:Trotskylvania wrote:Stef McGraw's entire case rests on an entirely unsupported charge of hypocrisy, that no one would see it "creepy" if the genders were reversed.
And no matter how innocuous it started, TJ is entirely baseless in his view that this somehow excuses the frank misogyny displayed, or the ridiculous assertions being thrown left and right that women, and people in general, have no right to be uncomfortable about sexual advances, particularly downright creepy ones, and to give voice to this.
TJ's outright flamebaiting behavior and mischarecterization of my post is what I chose to take issue with.
Yes but was it a creepy advance or was it an innocuous invitation to chat, you know bc maybe the guy actually saw this woman as more than a mere object and wanted to hear more of what she had to say.
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:10 am
Grave_n_idle wrote:Llamalandia wrote:
Yes but was it a creepy advance or was it an innocuous invitation to chat, you know bc maybe the guy actually saw this woman as more than a mere object and wanted to hear more of what she had to say.
Sounds like a creepy advance. And I base that judgement on the simple fact that just hearing what someone else has to say does not necessarily require them to come back to your room for 'coffee', even if the 'coffee' is just coffee.
by Tahar Joblis » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:13 am
Trotskylvania wrote:Stef McGraw's entire case rests on an entirely unsupported charge of hypocrisy, that no one would see it "creepy" if the genders were reversed.
And no matter how innocuous it started, TJ is entirely baseless in his view that this somehow excuses the frank misogyny displayed,
or the ridiculous assertions being thrown left and right that women, and people in general, have no right to be uncomfortable about sexual advances,
particularly downright creepy ones, and to give voice to this.
TJ's outright flamebaiting behavior and mischarecterization of my post is what I chose to take issue with.
by Grave_n_idle » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:18 am
Llamalandia wrote:Grave_n_idle wrote:
Sounds like a creepy advance. And I base that judgement on the simple fact that just hearing what someone else has to say does not necessarily require them to come back to your room for 'coffee', even if the 'coffee' is just coffee.
Uh, it was like 4 in the morning if I understand correctly, the point of the coffee (presumably regular and not decaf) was to help to stay awake. Had he said something like come back to my room so I can lick your face, now thats creepy. Also is creepy in and of itself or is it creepy because it was a guy asking her? I mean had it been another woman would she have felt "creeped out"? Would you ?
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:24 am
Grave_n_idle wrote:Llamalandia wrote:
Uh, it was like 4 in the morning if I understand correctly, the point of the coffee (presumably regular and not decaf) was to help to stay awake. Had he said something like come back to my room so I can lick your face, now thats creepy. Also is creepy in and of itself or is it creepy because it was a guy asking her? I mean had it been another woman would she have felt "creeped out"? Would you ?
As an Englishman in the American South, I don't have to do more than open my mouth to start being propositioned (and I know I'm not that pretty).
If someone really wants to talk to me, we really, actually talk. Sometimes that has turned into us going somewhere and doing something, or arranging to meet up later - but the genuine occasions don't start with 'hey, want to come up for coffee'.
So - and maybe this is something about me - if someone asks me if I want to 'come up for coffee' (or something similar) - then I think that's objectifying me. I don't think that person actually has any interest in what I'm actually saying.
by Grave_n_idle » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:37 am
Llamalandia wrote:Grave_n_idle wrote:
As an Englishman in the American South, I don't have to do more than open my mouth to start being propositioned (and I know I'm not that pretty).
If someone really wants to talk to me, we really, actually talk. Sometimes that has turned into us going somewhere and doing something, or arranging to meet up later - but the genuine occasions don't start with 'hey, want to come up for coffee'.
So - and maybe this is something about me - if someone asks me if I want to 'come up for coffee' (or something similar) - then I think that's objectifying me. I don't think that person actually has any interest in what I'm actually saying.
Yeah, I'm pretty sure it just you. and that said thats fine, if i ever encounter you url i won't invite you to have coffee with me (you brits are more tea fans anyway right?). This I have no problem with. The problem with what this woman did was that she presumed based on one encounter and her personal perception to go online and inform everyone how they should behave. It was just that she was expressing an opinion as you have done, it was that she offered dictates to go along with that opinion and that where I have a problem.
And presumably the guy invited her up so they talk in quiet environment rather than a bar which is where she was coming from (again if I understand the situation correctly).
Also would you have a problem if it were a woman asking instead of a man?
by Llamalandia » Mon Aug 19, 2013 11:51 am
Grave_n_idle wrote:Llamalandia wrote:
Yeah, I'm pretty sure it just you. and that said thats fine, if i ever encounter you url i won't invite you to have coffee with me (you brits are more tea fans anyway right?). This I have no problem with. The problem with what this woman did was that she presumed based on one encounter and her personal perception to go online and inform everyone how they should behave. It was just that she was expressing an opinion as you have done, it was that she offered dictates to go along with that opinion and that where I have a problem.
And presumably the guy invited her up so they talk in quiet environment rather than a bar which is where she was coming from (again if I understand the situation correctly).
Also would you have a problem if it were a woman asking instead of a man?
I don't see why you're 'presuming' that the guy wanted to talk in a quiet environment. were they that deep in conversation he couldn't bear to separate himself from it? That's not what I've seen, at all. Please, show me where I'm wrong.
As for whether this person 'offered dictates'... I don't see how that's especially problematic. People do that all the time. People very rarely offer an opinion without accompanying it with 'and you should/shouldn't do that'.
So, what's the real problem with her response - and do feel differently about that depending on whether or not she really was being creepily propositioned?
(As for your other question - since people can flirt with people of their own gender, I'm not sure what the distinction is supposed to be. I'm not trying to avoid the question - I just don't see why a woman asking a woman 'up for coffee' would be all that different).
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