Do looks matter?

[Zeppy]

It does to me.
To me if they 'keep up' their looks it may also shows they have a 'tidy' personality too.

That suggests to me OCD.

[Dyakovo]

Well, do they? I have a few questions.

Maybe it's a good thing to not judge people by looks in everyday life. After all, color of skin, clothes, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah. But, clothes can say quite a bit about a person, as could their hairstyle or makeup, so would it be safe to judge?

And what about dating? Should looks matter then? I think looks are pretty important. It's shallow to date a person solely on their looks (*lusts after Taylor Lautner anyway*) but looks do start things for me, at least. What about you?

Inspired by the Sexiest Female NSer thread.

Short answer is yes.

He has experience in look based threads.

Although with my making it to the top ten sexiest males there's solid proof that looks aren't everything...

[Zeppy]

Well, do they? I have a few questions.

Maybe it's a good thing to not judge people by looks in everyday life. After all, color of skin, clothes, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah. But, clothes can say quite a bit about a person, as could their hairstyle or makeup, so would it be safe to judge?

And what about dating? Should looks matter then? I think looks are pretty important. It's shallow to date a person solely on their looks (*lusts after Taylor Lautner anyway*) but looks do start things for me, at least. What about you?

Inspired by the Sexiest Female NSer thread.

Short answer is yes.

He has experience in look based threads.

Although with my making it to the top ten sexiest males there's solid proof that looks aren't everything...

Kinda proves that threads post about "Sexy isn't just looks, but deeper like personality and humor".

[Consaria]

A little

[Dyakovo]

Well, do they? I have a few questions.

Maybe it's a good thing to not judge people by looks in everyday life. After all, color of skin, clothes, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah. But, clothes can say quite a bit about a person, as could their hairstyle or makeup, so would it be safe to judge?

And what about dating? Should looks matter then? I think looks are pretty important. It's shallow to date a person solely on their looks (*lusts after Taylor Lautner anyway*) but looks do start things for me, at least. What about you?

Inspired by the Sexiest Female NSer thread.

Short answer is yes.

He has experience in look based threads.

Although with my making it to the top ten sexiest males there's solid proof that looks aren't everything...

Kinda proves that threads post about "Sexy isn't just looks, but deeper like personality and humor".

Wow...
You think I have personality and a sense of humor...

[Chrobalta]

Do you want the short answer or long answer first?

Ill go with the short answer: Yes

Now for the long answer:

Of course they do!!!

[Dyakovo]

Do you want the short answer or long answer first?

Ill go with the short answer: Yes

Now for the long answer:

Of course they do!!!

[Sharpadurka]

The outside gives the inside a chance

[West Floradia]

The outside gives the inside a chance

Indeed it does.

[Zeppy]

Wow...
You think I have personality and a sense of humor...

No, you just scare me.

[Buffett and Colbert]

If the person is ugly because of something he or she deliberately did, then yes, it does matter.

[Taeshan]

Oh no. Although it helps. Actually i would have to saythat looks are what first draws me to a women. That said the only reason i stay around is the person themselves so to a point yes, but in the end they are just part of the equation as a whole.

[Zeppy]

If the person is ugly because of something he or she deliberately did, then yes, it does matter.

I say deeply disturbed then "ugly."

[Regiria]

Well, do they? I have a few questions.

Maybe it's a good thing to not judge people by looks in everyday life. After all, color of skin, clothes, etc. etc. etc. blah blah blah. But, clothes can say quite a bit about a person, as could their hairstyle or makeup, so would it be safe to judge?

Not necessarily. Snyder (1987) identified people he called “high self-monitors,” who “are social chameleons who can fashion public images tailored to the dictates of a wide variety of situations.” What they wear depends on the particular image they’re trying to project, and actually says nothing about them. For example, a study by Hutchinson (1999) on male-female nightclub behavior says that women categorize men through personal appearance and try to get clues from clothing, but the women participants in the study reported that this can sometimes be misleading, because you’re only seeing what they want you to see, not necessarily anything that provides details on who they actually are as a person. Oftentimes image you get from the clothes they wear is very different from the person they actually are. “Carefully selected items ... help convey just the right image for any social occasion. ... High self-monitors are particularly concerned with their outer appearances. They are aware of the messages projected by clothing and personal effects, and they choose the items of front according to their strategic value in controlling the images they project in social situations” (Snyder 1987). You know many people look at one’s clothing to form ideas of what kind of person they are; so with that in mind, you know the game and are skilled at playing the game. Simple as that. Doesn’t necessarily mean there’s any information about the person to be obtained.

And what about dating? Should looks matter then? I think looks are pretty important. It's shallow to date a person solely on their looks (*lusts after Taylor Lautner anyway*) but looks do start things for me, at least. What about you?

Let's be frank. Most people are looking for sex anyway, so in that case looks are the end all, be all. Nothing else matters when you're going to kick them to the curb afterwards. But should you actually be looking for a potential relationship, then there are quite a few things that come before looks. I've had women interested in me who would be considered physically attractive, yet their personality was akin to nails on a chalkboard. For me, that far outweighed how good she looked.

If you care about a person, they'll be attractive to you anyway. A 1995 study showed that men perceived as having good personalities were rated more physically attractive and more desirable as partners than men who didn't. Though I must confess, that while I'm certainly not one to doubt empirical research, I'm rather skeptical about that result seeing how many women I know are involved with/married to complete jerks.

Looks do not start things for me, as beauty (physical) is only skin deep and eventually fades. I want to know whether you're the kind of person I'd even be interested in potentially dating beforehand so it's not a waste of both of our time. For a job opening, an employer will interview you first to determine whether you're the type of employee they're looking for. I've encountered too many physically attractive women who were actually ugly people. Perhaps it's because they realize how much importance is given to physical attractiveness in our society that they don't worry about personality as that won't be the hook that draws people in. Sometimes I'm annoyed when women want to get with me simply because they find me physically attractive, while knowing absolutely nothing about what kind of person I am. I could be a serial killer for all they know. It just irks me how much attention is given to the superficial.

[UnhealthyTruthseeker]

I have no interest in reproduction or any of its facsimiles. If I avoided associating with those who aren't beautiful, and instead only associated with the extremely attractive, the shear boredom due to lack of intelligent discussion and the exposure to trivial bullshit on a continuous basis would make me kill myself.

[Zananda]

It does at first because you have to have a physical attraction first..then initially the personality comes out which can make a person ugly or beautiful.

[Goldsaver]

If I can look at your face without gagging, and you aren't fat enough to be able to kill me by sitting on me, you're good enough for me.

[Robarya]

For friends, looks doesn't matter in the slightest. But when it comes to a partner, she has to be sexually attractive for me, or it won't work out. The primary purpose for a relationship is basically to have sex after all. It may be shallow, but that's how things work out.

If someone has a partner they don't consider sexually attractive at all, I would be very interested in knowing why they keep him or her.

[UnhealthyTruthseeker]

If I can look at your face without gagging, and you aren't fat enough to be able to kill me by sitting on me, you're good enough for me.

But wouldn't you want to gag, or are you not into that kinky stuff?

[Maraque]

Looks matter a little bit; if you're not attracted to them in some form, how would that work out? I don't put too much emphasis on looks - I look at personality and character first and foremost, and if they're also visually appealing that's just a plus. A good personality makes a person more attractive to me.

Clothes and makeup doesn't matter. You simply cannot sufficiently judge a person based on their style of dress. You'd assume a lot about me based on mine; I do wear what would typically be called "thug," but there's a difference; they're the proper size and fit, and my pants do not hang below my ass. It's an unfair characterization to assume anything about me because I choose to dress in a style typically associated with thugishness.

How someone acts is a huge identifier. If they're actin' a fool, then they're most likely a fool.

[O5vx]

Well, to me persionally, i would consider the look of the persion and how she take care of herself before going out with the persion, but the most important thing would be her characteristic, is it compatable with mine.

[O5vx]

Well, to me persionally, i would consider the look of the persion and how she take care of herself before going out with the persion, but the most important thing would be her characteristic, is it compatable with mine.

[Hydesland]

With friendship, not at all. To go on a date with? I won't date someone I don't find attractive.

[UnhealthyTruthseeker]

I refrain from associating with people who would be considered "ugly". I do not have fat friends, for example.

Attractive people tend to be boring, because they don't have to have an actual personality. I can't stand being around overly popular people. It's even more boring than a fucking Catholic mass.

[Smunkeeville]

Yes and no. Mostly one more than the other.