Value of virginity and slut-shaming

[Uieurnthlaal]

I think it is a good idea. However, I see two problems with this: firstly, it is often focused more strongly on women and on men. That gender double standard has to go. True, education that's not just abstinence only is better than education that is, but that's only because this idea isn't commonplace among both genders within the youth population.

[Diopolis]

My problem with slut shaming is that it needs to be applied more evenly; both women and men need to know there are consequences to promiscuity, and the cultural changes that encouraged it need to be undone.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Or, if he fucks around a lot, he's the man.

Or again, gay.

For whatever reason.

Indeed.

[Condunum]

I have. My grandmother, for example, thinks women have to arrive virgins to the marriage bed. And any woman who doesn't, for her, is a slut.

My grandma is the same way, at least for the first part.

It certainly wasn't well known in my neck of the woods.

Well, it is known here. Think about all the major religions that believe you have to wait until marriage, for example.

Uhm...

I speak for many here when I say that isn't true

;-; No. You have to be a lonely virgin with me!

You're well over a year too late for that

[The Orson Empire]

Simple- let people do as they choose. However, people should always be educated in order to avoid sexually-transmitted diseases.

[The Parkus Empire]

Go to church and talk to old people.

That's old people from a different time that's not active slut shaming

No, guys and gals still do it today, it's just looser (no pun intended). Not so much she's a "slut" if she isn't a virgin, just if she's promiscuous or dresses to attract or looks at a lot of guys flirtatiously.

[Temujinn]

I think both slut shaming and chastity shaming need to die.

Let people make their own choices.

Yup.

Boys get shamed for being virgins, girls get shamed for being not.

Derpity derp.

[Galloism]

That research outpost on the western shelf?

So you have nothing?

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2012 ... ts-and-sex

Perhaps that will serve your needs.

[Disserbia]

That's her opinion, that's not really active slut shaming.

Errrr, it is active slut shaming. She tells women who aren't 'chaste' that they're sluts.

That's not really the same as bullying people for their lifestyle, that's an old woman who is from a different time having her own opinions.

[New haven america]

Simple- let people do as they choose.

This^

[Ashmoria]

It is quite common, sadly.

She's pointed out people on the street and tells me not to dress like them too.

oh lord I hope you are very young.

[Olthar]

It is.

I've never encountered it outside of the Internet.

I saw it quite often in high school. I haven't really gone outside since then, but I'm sure it hasn't suddenly disappeared in the past four years.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

I have. My grandmother, for example, thinks women have to arrive virgins to the marriage bed. And any woman who doesn't, for her, is a slut.

My grandma is the same way, at least for the first part.

It certainly wasn't well known in my neck of the woods.

Well, it is known here. Think about all the major religions that believe you have to wait until marriage, for example.

Uhm...

I speak for many here when I say that isn't true

;-; No. You have to be a lonely virgin with me!

She insulted me when I moved in with my now husband. She said only sluts live with a man who isn't their "lawfully wedded husband" .

[Disserbia]

That's old people from a different time that's not active slut shaming

No, guys and gals still do it today, it's just looser (no pun intended). Not so much she's a "slut" if she isn't a virgin, just if she's promiscuous or dresses to attract or looks at a lot of guys flirtatiously.

Yeah and like I said I've yet to see a single serious case of it in person. I'm sure it happens I some places but I think that in the western world it seems to be a highly exaggerated problem.

[New haven america]

I've never encountered it outside of the Internet.

I saw it quite often in high school. I haven't really gone outside since then, but I'm sure it hasn't suddenly disappeared in the past four years.

It happens a lot, still.

[The Serbian Empire]

I think both slut shaming and chastity shaming need to die.

Let people make their own choices.

Yup.

Boys get shamed for being virgins, girls get shamed for being not.

Derpity derp.

There is a problem with being a virgin and male in today's society which didn't exist back in the days of a much more religious world.

[The Parkus Empire]

I think both slut shaming and chastity shaming need to die.

Let people make their own choices.

Yup.

Boys get shamed for being virgins, girls get shamed for being not.

Derpity derp.

Burden of sexual pleasure is often on the male, is why.

[Meryuma]

I kinda wish I didn't personally lose my virginity when and how I did, but that's not for any traditionalist reasons.

[Temujinn]

My problem with slut shaming is that it needs to be applied more evenly; both women and men need to know there are consequences to promiscuity, and the cultural changes that encouraged it need to be undone.

Consequence of promiscuity ... more orgasms.

Stop shaming people for a biological act that is completely natural.

Teach people how to avoid disease, dont make them feel bad for being sexual(or not).

[Disserbia]

So you have nothing?

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2012 ... ts-and-sex

Perhaps that will serve your needs.

Thanks for proving my point

[Rocopurr]

My grandma is the same way, at least for the first part.


Well, it is known here. Think about all the major religions that believe you have to wait until marriage, for example.


;-; No. You have to be a lonely virgin with me!

She insulted me when I moved in with my now husband. She said only sluts live with a man who isn't their "lawfully wedded husband" .

I'm terribly sorry for that. Mine just has all the strong catholic morals and such.

[Condunum]

http://www.insidehighered.com/news/2012 ... ts-and-sex

Perhaps that will serve your needs.

Thanks for proving my point

You don't get out much, do you?

[Haktiva]

There are better things for people to focus on than sex. I could careless about someone else's sex life. I think others should follow that, but that's free will for ya

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

Errrr, it is active slut shaming. She tells women who aren't 'chaste' that they're sluts.

That's not really the same as bullying people for their lifestyle, that's an old woman who is from a different time having her own opinions.

Yes, it is slut shaming. Whatever your ideas, telling women that they're sluts for the way they choose to live, regardless of generation, is active slut shaming. If you don't understand that, that's not my problem..

[Disserbia]

I've never encountered it outside of the Internet.

I saw it quite often in high school. I haven't really gone outside since then, but I'm sure it hasn't suddenly disappeared in the past four years.

Really? I'm glad I didn't go to your school then.