The Steel Magnolia wrote:Olthar wrote:What "tiny nuances?" What "differences in behavior?" Being gay is nothing more than having an attraction to the same sex. That's it. There's nothing more. There isn't some sort of magical Gay Force that invades the brain and makes people act different. Gay people can have literally any personality type that straight people can. The only difference between the two is their choice of romantic and sexual partners.
Um.
That's really, really not true. You may as well say that being black is nothing more than having darker skin.
Experiences are the things that define social groups. Not their immutable differences, and the experiences of gay characters in any society are different than the experiences of straight cis characters, just as it is in real life.Nailed to the Perch wrote:
How to write a gay relationship:
Write a straight relationship. Now, change all the times you refer to one of the characters in that relationship as "he" or "she" to the other pronoun. If their name is strongly gendered, change it to a different name. Gay relationship written!
How to write a woman:
Just write a person, and then name that person "Susan" or "Marla" or "Nancy" or something. Woman written!
That doesn't mean you can't write outside your identity, but it does mean that you have to make an effort about it. Unless you're doing some far flung utopian society, then there's going to be sexism, there's going to be homophobia, there's going to be racism. And that has an impact on people.
someone's sexuality, someone's gender identity, someone's race; these things matter, you can't just get away with putting in female characters by writing about "Wilma" instead of "Will", and "she" instead of "he."
Or rather, you can, but it's going to be shitty writing. There's a balance, between making a character's identity their entire character and making that identity meaningless. It's not meaningless, and if you think it is, you're not going to write good characters.
Well, yes and no. I'm not saying sexuality, race, or gender don't matter, but rather that they only matter to the extent the author dictates that they matter. If I am writing a story about, I dunno, space pirates fighting aliens on Mars, there is no reason why the fact that space pirate #7 happens to be married to a dude back on Earth rather than a woman back on Earth has to have any particular effect on his personality or characterization. It is not a matter of "well, if he were straight, obviously he would like space-football and go around punching aliens in a manly fashion, but since he's gay, obviously he only likes space-musicals and slapping the aliens across their betentacled faces while shrieking, 'Oh, STAAAAAAHP!'" There isn't any quality all gay people have in common besides "attracted to members of the same gender," and so writing a gay character, in itself, should not present any challenge that writing a straight character does not.
Essentially, it goes back to the whole Smurfette thing. It's not that a character being gay or black or female shouldn't inform their characterization or affect the plot. It's that it should inform their characterization or affect the plot exactly as much as their being straight or white or male should, without one of those being seen as a default status that requires no explanation and one of them necessarily being an Issue that must be addressed and justified.



