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before I force my opinion about this topic let's look at some of the arguments from both sides
first pro-Spank
When a child misbehaves, explaining what they did wrong and why it
was wrong (in an age-appropriate way) is one essential part of
teaching proper behavior. Following through with punishment for the
misbehavior is the other, equally essential, part. Whatever methods of
punishment are used, it must be given calmly rather than out of anger
or frustration. Following those rules, spanking is simply one of the
most effective punishment methods for most children.
-Jamie from Yahoo Answers
I am going to respond to this at the risk of being slaughtered by all the
anti-spanking people but it's all a matter of how you go about it.
I do not think spanking qualifies as abuse. And if you don't want Bible I
won't give you any (although there are some very good chapters on the
subject.) I think hitting your child, yelling at him/her, and walking away
is not the way to go about it. That could cause confusion about
whether or not it's ok to hit etc. If my child misbehaves, I will take him
to the bathroom or another secluded spot and spank him once or twice
and explain to him that he has done wrong. I do not believe in hitting a
child in front of anyone else and making him feel humiliated. But I will
also sit with him and tell him I love you afterward and give him a hug
and make sure he understands that I am not still mad at him...he just
needs to change his behavior. If I am too angry to spank him properly
without yelling, I'll tell him to wait in the bathroom while I cool down. I
think the "abuse" theory comes in when people just hit there child
wherever they can reach (which I will not do) and sit and yell at their
child while they cry and walk away angry. If you can spank your child,
and still show them love afterward, I think it makes a world of
difference.
Granted I wouldn't spank for every little offense and I think there are
other punishments that can change your child's behavior...I am not
against any of those. I have seen this spank/love method work for
many a child and they are all respectful well behaved children (though
not perfect of course) and all of them are extremely close with their
parents and siblings. There is definitely no lack of love or permanent
psychological damage or anything like that.
Anyway, point is that spanking can really help your child see where he
is wrong where other punishments may be ignored. And I don't see
anything wrong with it as long as it is done with love instead of anger.
-? From Yahoo Answers
Timid, approval-seeking kids are usually good with a time-out. But there
are some children who like to push their limits. Those are the children
who may require a pop. Knowing your child is the key to nailing down the
most effective forms of discipline. While some studies have shown the
negative effects of spanking, today’s disrespectful youth have shown
what happens when necessary spanking is forgone. Controlled,
purposeful spanking is not abuse. Impulsive spanking out of anger and
frustration is abusive. Believe it or not, it is not unrealistic to teach a child
to obey the first time—tough but not impossible.
If you’re not spanking and you have a child who is testing you time and
time again, you may want to consider picking out a switch before he (or
she) ends up on Beyond Scared Straight
- madamenoire.com
and now anti-spanking
http://www.phdinparenting.com/blog/2008 ... urces.html enough said
My opinion? I have to agree with Jamie. As long as you spank out of love and disipline and not anger the.kid should be fine as long as you dont spank for every little thing.
So it is your turn. Make your argument and state your position.
And please try to be civil(YEA RIGHT)
