Are you happy with your physical appearance?

[Nailed to the Perch]

Yeah, well, you're a walrus.

...in a "physical appearance" thread.

Thanks. Love you too....

I didn't say you weren't a very handsome walrus!

[Greater Mackonia]

Couldn't really care less, if you are also including (as I have seen many people include) mental appearance then I could get rid of my paranoia, cynicism and odd sleeping patterns.

[Of the Free Socialist Territories]

Yeah, well, you're a walrus.

Does that make you the Eggman?

Goo goo goo g'joob...

[The Emerald Dawn]

Yeah, well, you're a walrus.

...in a "physical appearance" thread.

Thanks. Love you too....

Look at it this way, at least people don't think you're retarded because you look like a walrus.

[Chestaan]

It is if you're a guy...

No it's quite the opposite if you're a guy.

I guess some people like that look.

[Neo Art]

...in a "physical appearance" thread.

Thanks. Love you too....

I didn't say you weren't a very handsome walrus!

chicks dig the moustache.

[Demonic Equalibrium]

I could use a few more tattoo's. The 35 I have right now just don't seem like enough!

[Nailed to the Perch]

Yeah, well, you're a walrus.

Does that make you the Eggman?

Goo goo goo g'joob...

Elf, tree, eggman, hellbeast, parrot...I have many faces.

And if NA fills a few of them with that sushi dinner he owes me, I will make a point of declaring to all of NSG that he is the handsomest of all possible walruses.

[Neo Art]

And then someone mentions that you'd have to have ten sizes higher before you would be obese, and it's basically like they're dismissing the entirety of your mental inner workings. Then there's the shallow "Hollywood Fat" standards that cause people who fit into a size two to think that they're actually ginormous. Then there's people who think you're just fishing for compliments, and aren't willing to understand that mentally it's the same thing as depression. You can't just "think happy thoughts" and have it go away. Clapping doesn't bring the fairy back to life sometimes.

Ayuuuup.

Having the diagnosis helps some. Therapy helps some. Having a partner who makes it clear in a variety of ways that he thinks I'm pretty and not a hideous hellbeast helps, too. Between the three of those things, most days, I can at least go about my life without feeling like I need to lock myself in the house and prevent anyone from looking at me ever again, so that's something, at least.

So, like, this has been "a thing" that, admittedly, has taken me some time to get used to. It's a bit odd, admittedly, as someone who has a fairly normal body image, to hear her go "I'm so fat", and all the while I'm trying to wrap my head around this little slip of a woman calling herself fat. So, ya know, it's tough, sometimes, having a partner who doesn't see herself the way you do, and sometimes all you do is just want to point her at a mirror and go "LOOK! This is what I see, and you're gorgeous".

Except it doesn't work, because pointing someone with BDD to their own reflection and going "this is what I see" isn't consolation. It's a nightmare. And I can't really understand it. I don't get it. But, ya know, that's ok, it's not for me to get. It's not my cross to carry and I know that trying to fight the issue isn't going to work, because it's like showing someone the color red and yelling at them that it's blue. It doesn't work.

I just make sure that every day I tell her that she's beautiful.

[The Emerald Dawn]

Ayuuuup.

Having the diagnosis helps some. Therapy helps some. Having a partner who makes it clear in a variety of ways that he thinks I'm pretty and not a hideous hellbeast helps, too. Between the three of those things, most days, I can at least go about my life without feeling like I need to lock myself in the house and prevent anyone from looking at me ever again, so that's something, at least.

So, like, this has been "a thing" that, admittedly, has taken me some time to get used to. It's a bit odd, admittedly, as someone who has a fairly normal body image, to hear her go "I'm so fat", and all the while I'm trying to wrap my head around this little slip of a woman calling herself fat. So, ya know, it's tough, sometimes, having a partner who doesn't see herself the way you do, and sometimes all you do is just want to point her at a mirror and go "LOOK! This is what I see, and you're gorgeous".

Except it doesn't work, because pointing someone with BDD to their own reflection and going "this is what I see" isn't consolation. It's a nightmare. And I can't really understand it. I don't get it. But, ya know, that's ok, it's not for me to get. It's not my cross to carry and I know that trying to fight the issue isn't going to work, because it's like showing someone the color red and yelling at them that it's blue. It doesn't work.

I just make sure that every day I tell her that she's beautiful.

My father painted a portrait of my mother. He gave it to her on their 10th anniversary. He said he painted it as precisely as he could, and that's how he saw her. He just didn't include her face, so that she couldn't associate directly the "reflection". Somehow it helped her. But each case is unique so...yeah, I'll shut up.

[Distruzio]

I could use a few more tattoo's. The 35 I have right now just don't seem like enough!

3 does the job for me.

[Meryuma]

Yes. I put "completely happy" but really I do have a couple things I would change, it's just they're really minor. I used to feel like I was too thin but I'm happy with my current weight.

No, but I'm working very hard to get to where I want to be with my weight training and kickboxing. My own confidence concerning my physical appearance has always been one of my biggest weaknesses.

Do you do muai thai? that is what I did, not anymore, I still stretch and train though :/

I'd like to hit puberty before I'm 20. Other than that, yeah.

You have to exericise, man! Start lifting weights, running laps, etc. You'll see a change fast. Physical exercise stimulates puberty and is needed to have it.

I've seen The Joseon Dynasty and he looks fine.

[Neo Art]

So, like, this has been "a thing" that, admittedly, has taken me some time to get used to. It's a bit odd, admittedly, as someone who has a fairly normal body image, to hear her go "I'm so fat", and all the while I'm trying to wrap my head around this little slip of a woman calling herself fat. So, ya know, it's tough, sometimes, having a partner who doesn't see herself the way you do, and sometimes all you do is just want to point her at a mirror and go "LOOK! This is what I see, and you're gorgeous".

Except it doesn't work, because pointing someone with BDD to their own reflection and going "this is what I see" isn't consolation. It's a nightmare. And I can't really understand it. I don't get it. But, ya know, that's ok, it's not for me to get. It's not my cross to carry and I know that trying to fight the issue isn't going to work, because it's like showing someone the color red and yelling at them that it's blue. It doesn't work.

I just make sure that every day I tell her that she's beautiful.

My father painted a portrait of my mother. He gave it to her on their 10th anniversary. He said he painted it as precisely as he could, and that's how he saw her. He just didn't include her face, so that she couldn't associate directly the "reflection". Somehow it helped her. But each case is unique so...yeah, I'll shut up.

an interesting idea, unfortunately if I presented NTTP with something I painted, and told her it looks "just like her" I fear I'd only make matters worse.

"IS THAT MY NOSE OR AM I EATING CORN ON THE COB??"

[Nervbraiain]

I could do with a haircut.

Me too, while whenever I ask for someone's honest opinion about my appearance I've told I'm kind of a butter face.

[New Nassrau]

Not tan enough, need to be more fit, lose some belly fat, need a clear face, need less oily hair... oh the list goes on...

[Gallowfield]

I wish I had better skin. I like my body, though

[Ayreonia]

Not tan enough, need to be more fit, lose some belly fat, need a clear face, need less oily hair... oh the list goes on...

Sounds like problems you can solve.

[Vietnam]

I wish I had better skin. I like my body, though

Oh right, forgot about that. >.<

[Fulflood]

Another inch would be nice. That is all.

[Vietnam]

Another inch would be nice. That is all.

Same. :/

Then at least I'd be at or at least close to the average height of the Japanese dude and so I wouldn't be considered short or something there if I end up moving there in the future.

[The Emerald Dawn]

Another inch would be nice. That is all.

Not sure if phallic.

[Vietnam]

Another inch would be nice. That is all.

Not sure if phallic.

Ohmygah pahaha just realized that.

[Dousmilia]

I'm mostly okay with my appearance, but I would like to put on a bit of weight. Can't see that happening any time soon though.

[Fulflood]

Another inch would be nice. That is all.

Not sure if phallic.

No I meant height (to 5'9"). Whoops.

[The Emerald Dawn]

Not sure if phallic.

No I meant height (to 5'9"). Whoops.

I'm just saying.

It's one of those things, I mean [sarcasm] what guy wouldn't want another inch, AMIRITE? [/sarcasm]