Would you date a trans person?

[The Emerald Dawn]

Indeed. My ex of 4 years dumped me on Valentines Day at Vday dinner. She said she felt emotionally detached from me and found herself sexually attracted to another. How could I get angry about her telling me the truth. We remain friends. Close friends. She lived with me for two years afterwards without any hostility between us. She told the truth. That's all I could ever ask for.

That's beautiful. There's no reason why people have to feel committed to someone they don't want to be with.

Alimony. Child support. Medical care.

[Luveria]

Of course they shouldn't be.

You've named the wrong person on the quote there.

Something that I can only assume was, for some reason, deliberate, as the post you're actually quoting didn't contain my name at any point.

Fixed. Sleep deprivation.

[The Blaatschapen]

You've named the wrong person on the quote there.

Something that I can only assume was, for some reason, deliberate, as the post you're actually quoting didn't contain my name at any point.

Fixed. Sleep deprivation.

Go to bed. NSG is not worth your health.

[Luveria]

Fixed. Sleep deprivation.

Go to bed. NSG is not worth your health.

It's called insomnia. Not NSG.

[The Truth and Light]

That's beautiful. There's no reason why people have to feel committed to someone they don't want to be with.

Alimony. Child support. Medical care.

... We must abolish marriage.

:b

[United Furry Alliance]

Yea I'd do it but they have to be ok looking and have a suitable personality that could mix with mine.

[Ora Amaris]

No, of course it's not.

In the world of relationships, you can discontinue a romance at any time for any reason, and it's no one's place to judge that.

Welllllllll I dunno, if person A is what everything person B wants except that they're infertile, and rejects them for that, I think that's a bit douchish. In my opinion.
Everyone has their own taste, but I still kinda think that if that's the sole reason, it's kinda shallow.

I dunno, is it wrong for me to think of that as a bit shallow?

[Arglorand]

In the world of relationships, you can discontinue a romance at any time for any reason, and it's no one's place to judge that.

Welllllllll I dunno, if person A is what everything person B wants except that they're infertile, and rejects them for that, I think that's a bit douchish. In my opinion.
Everyone has their own taste, but I still kinda think that if that's the sole reason, it's kinda shallow.

I dunno, is it wrong for me to think of that as a bit shallow?

It's not. IMHO, there are shallow reasons for discontinuing relationships and honestly I'm going to call them out on being shallow. It's a universal right to discontinue a relationship whenever you like, but so is my right to consider them douchebaggish. Everyone, as a person, is free and has a free right to discontinue a relationship whenever they like. However, as people we've also a responsibility for actions we take. And this is just my personal morality, which I'm not forcing or even advocating to anyone else, because I've no actual proof that it's any truer than any of your personal moralities, but I think we ought to take the ethical responsibility for when we cause pain to other people, such as opting to discontinue a relationship on something as trivial as infertility.

[Distruzio]

In the world of relationships, you can discontinue a romance at any time for any reason, and it's no one's place to judge that.

Welllllllll I dunno, if person A is what everything person B wants except that they're infertile, and rejects them for that, I think that's a bit douchish. In my opinion.
Everyone has their own taste, but I still kinda think that if that's the sole reason, it's kinda shallow.

I dunno, is it wrong for me to think of that as a bit shallow?

Nothing wrong with shallowness. Of course I'm biased in that regard. I will date a trans person, but I won't date an ugly person, a fat person, or a stupid person.

[The Truth and Light]

Welllllllll I dunno, if person A is what everything person B wants except that they're infertile, and rejects them for that, I think that's a bit douchish. In my opinion.
Everyone has their own taste, but I still kinda think that if that's the sole reason, it's kinda shallow.

I dunno, is it wrong for me to think of that as a bit shallow?

Nothing wrong with shallowness. Of course I'm biased in that regard. I will date a trans person, but I won't date an ugly person, a fat person, or a stupid person.

SAAAAAME!

[New England and The Maritimes]

Welllllllll I dunno, if person A is what everything person B wants except that they're infertile, and rejects them for that, I think that's a bit douchish. In my opinion.
Everyone has their own taste, but I still kinda think that if that's the sole reason, it's kinda shallow.

I dunno, is it wrong for me to think of that as a bit shallow?

Nothing wrong with shallowness. Of course I'm biased in that regard. I will date a trans person, but I won't date an ugly person, a fat person, or a stupid person.

There's plenty wrong with shallowness. Your preferences don't exist in a vacuum, they were trained into you. I mean, it's your right to be a shallow douche bag, but you can't pretend that hanging a sign on your door that says "NO FAT CHICKZ" does not in fact make you a shallow douche bag. It does. It's just that it's your right to choose to be a shallow douche bag just as much as it's my right to tell you that's a pretty pointlessly narrow way to live your life.

[Distruzio]

Nothing wrong with shallowness. Of course I'm biased in that regard. I will date a trans person, but I won't date an ugly person, a fat person, or a stupid person.

There's plenty wrong with shallowness. Your preferences don't exist in a vacuum, they were trained into you. I mean, it's your right to be a shallow douche bag, but you can't pretend that hanging a sign on your door that says "NO FAT CHICKZ" does not in fact make you a shallow douche bag. It does. It's just that it's your right to choose to be a shallow douche bag just as much as it's my right to tell you that's a pretty pointlessly narrow way to live your life.

Quite right.

[Arglorand]

Nothing wrong with shallowness. Of course I'm biased in that regard. I will date a trans person, but I won't date an ugly person, a fat person, or a stupid person.

There's plenty wrong with shallowness. Your preferences don't exist in a vacuum, they were trained into you. I mean, it's your right to be a shallow douche bag, but you can't pretend that hanging a sign on your door that says "NO FAT CHICKZ" does not in fact make you a shallow douche bag. It does. It's just that it's your right to choose to be a shallow douche bag just as much as it's my right to tell you that's a pretty pointlessly narrow way to live your life.

Now, this I agree with, unreservedly.

No offense intended, Distruzio.

[Meryuma]

Yeeeea, some people don't see it that way.

Made the same question to my dad, I got a "no, they [transexuals] used to be male and I would be thinking about that if I knew, so I would break up with them" and he's pretty liberal as far as I know him. So I don't think it's a demographic issue.

It's a perspective comparably more fair than "Eeeeeew gross", at any rate.

It's the same perspective, just phrased more politely.

[Distruzio]

There's plenty wrong with shallowness. Your preferences don't exist in a vacuum, they were trained into you. I mean, it's your right to be a shallow douche bag, but you can't pretend that hanging a sign on your door that says "NO FAT CHICKZ" does not in fact make you a shallow douche bag. It does. It's just that it's your right to choose to be a shallow douche bag just as much as it's my right to tell you that's a pretty pointlessly narrow way to live your life.

Now, this I agree with, unreservedly.

No offense intended, Distruzio.

None taken. I've no problem being identified as a bigot or an asshole. I am both.

[Soldati Senza Confini]

It's a perspective comparably more fair than "Eeeeeew gross", at any rate.

It's the same perspective, just phrased more politely.

My point is: not everyone who wouldn't date a transexual looks at it as "oh no, I just wouldn't date them because they are not my type".

My dad has nothing against them having relationships and marrying other people, but he wouldn't feel comfortable personally, at any rate, and I think that's perfectly natural. I would not date a woman who for entertainment would put food and common fridge items up her... you know... as that would make me feel uncomfortable personally, but if another person can take it he is more than welcome to try, but I wouldn't discriminate against people shoving things up their body orifices.

[Ora Amaris]

It's the same perspective, just phrased more politely.

My point is: not everyone who wouldn't date a transexual looks at it as "oh no, I just wouldn't date them because they are not my type".

My dad has nothing against them having relationships and marrying other people, but he wouldn't feel comfortable personally, at any rate, and I think that's perfectly natural. I would not date a woman who for entertainment would put food and common fridge items up her... you know... as that would make me feel uncomfortable personally, but if another person can take it he is more than welcome to try, but I wouldn't discriminate against people shoving things up their body orifices.

Yummmmm cucumbers...

[Dracoria]

I know what people intend by it, but when someone mentions sticking food in bodily orifices this is what I think of:

[Fruition (Ancient)]

I know what people intend by it, but when someone mentions sticking food in bodily orifices this is what I think of:

(Image)

First, I thought they were ear wax coming out of those ears.
Now, I know they are bananas sticking in those ears.

[Grenartia]

I know what people intend by it, but when someone mentions sticking food in bodily orifices this is what I think of:

(Image)

I always think of those PETA commercials.

[Australian rePublic]

No

[Jerusalemian]

My point is: not everyone who wouldn't date a transexual looks at it as "oh no, I just wouldn't date them because they are not my type".

My dad has nothing against them having relationships and marrying other people, but he wouldn't feel comfortable personally, at any rate, and I think that's perfectly natural. I would not date a woman who for entertainment would put food and common fridge items up her... you know... as that would make me feel uncomfortable personally, but if another person can take it he is more than welcome to try, but I wouldn't discriminate against people shoving things up their body orifices.

Yummmmm cucumbers...

With horse butter.

[Screensaver]

If the trans merely identified themselves as the opposite gender and didn't change and doesn't plan to change their biological gender (sex) then yes I would date them. If they do possess such a plan or already have changed their sex then no. The reason? Well let me put it this way. If I want to buy a vintage 1966 Dodge Charger then I want a real 1966 Dodge Charger. Not a 2007 Toyota Prius that has simply been modified to look like it was a 1966 Dodge Charger. I want only what is real and original. A person may get a sex change but that doesn't change the fact that they were once the opposite sex and even with today's medical technology a person's sex can only really be superficially changed. Not 100%. Even if that was possible I still wouldn't do it because it will still be fake and not real in my eyes.

[Condunum]

If the trans merely identified themselves as the opposite gender and didn't change and doesn't plan to change their biological gender (sex) then yes I would date them. If they do possess such a plan or already have changed their sex then no. The reason? Well let me put it this way. If I want to buy a vintage 1966 Dodge Charger then I want a real 1966 Dodge Charger. Not a 2007 Toyota Prius that has simply been modified to look like it was a 1966 Dodge Charger. I want only what is real and original. A person may get a sex change but that doesn't change the fact that they were once the opposite sex and even with today's medical technology a person's sex can only really be superficially changed. Not 100%. Even if that was possible I still wouldn't do it because it will still be fake and not real in my eyes.

So, trans people are cars now.

[Agymnum]

If the trans merely identified themselves as the opposite gender and didn't change and doesn't plan to change their biological gender (sex) then yes I would date them. If they do possess such a plan or already have changed their sex then no. The reason? Well let me put it this way. If I want to buy a vintage 1966 Dodge Charger then I want a real 1966 Dodge Charger. Not a 2007 Toyota Prius that has simply been modified to look like it was a 1966 Dodge Charger. I want only what is real and original. A person may get a sex change but that doesn't change the fact that they were once the opposite sex and even with today's medical technology a person's sex can only really be superficially changed. Not 100%. Even if that was possible I still wouldn't do it because it will still be fake and not real in my eyes.

My only question to you would be:

If they told you they were a post-op transsexual after you'd gone on a few dates (i.e. 4 to 5) and you liked them, would you drop them or keep them?