Nailed to the Perch wrote:Sarkhaan wrote:
When did I become a misogynist?
I don't see a name change as a concession: I see it as aligning the language with the broader aims of a movement in its 3rd form. It isn't placating, and actually, many outwardly support the goals of the movement, but shy away from the term. Why is this happening? How can feminism be strengthened? How, after nearly a century, can we still be claiming "It's an education issue!", and refuse to even consider a change? Why is it assumed that any change must be on a misogynist's terms?
Because, fundamentally, the reason "feminist" is a dirty word in some circles is because misogynists have made a deliberate and concerted effort to turn "feminist" into a dirty word. There is nothing inherent to the word that makes it problematic - the name simply acknowledges, as you acknowledge, that the balance of power between men and women is still tilted hard in one direction (which does not, obviously, mean, that everything is always hunky-dory on the other side). I cannot see any "rebranding" of feminism as doing anything other than at best accomplishing nothing and at worst, and more likely, being taken as a concession that "yes, feminism really HAS gone too far!" I do not doubt for a fraction of an instant that, if somehow a global "rebranding" succeeded and all feminists started referring to ourselves as "gender equalists" or something, we would quickly start being called "gendernazis" (or maybe "equanazis," who knows), and the exact same bullshit characterization of feminists as man-hating bra-burning harpies would just turn into "those gender-equanazis are all man-hating bra-burning harpies." The only difference is that those people would get to add, "they basically admitted they hated men when they tried to fool us by taking 'fem' out of the name!" I can't see a way in which that could possibly help.
Did I mention I love you? Thank you for actually typing this in a clear, level-headed way that doesn't resort to crass assumptions.
I can appreciate that the system is horrendously skewed against women and for men. I have no delusions about this. And I can totally see those issues coming into play...however, to me, it is similar to the difference between "global warming" and "global climate change", similar to the difference between "gay marriage" and "marriage equality", and similar to the difference between "black pride" and "civil rights". The former, in all three cases, capture a sense of the problem and a sense of the solution, but don't actually hit all of the problems. Global warming ignores that some places will get colder. Gay marriage ignores those who don't have a gender, or are transgender. Black pride ignores Latinos, Asians, Pacific Islanders, etc.
In the same way, feminism points out the many problems for women, but does not highlight all of the repercussions. The more accurate term also generally gains more support, even with most people still utilizing the less accurate term. Why? Because it better explains what is going on and why.
I do see admitting faults in the past strengthening a movement. I am waiting for the day HRC issues a public apology to trans folks. Feminism did go through a man-hating phase, and some members still subscribe to that theory. Hiding it away will alienate people who discover it on their own. Being upfront about it and showing "Hey! You're right! We got some things wrong, too! Let's see if we can fix it together" offers a much better chance for change.