Approaching people

[New Olwe]

I feel really guilty for laughing at that.

We Asperger's cases have odd senses of humor sometimes (or so I'm told). And yes, I found it funny too.

[Tunizcha]

"Hi. I was spying on you using the restroom this morning, and I noticed that..."

[Dyakovo]

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

What's wrong with the last one?

[Neu California]

"Hi. I was spying on you using the restroom this morning, and I noticed that..."

No, I would say something more on the lines of "Hi, I was watching the spycamera I put in the bathroom and noticed that..."

[Dyakovo]

"Hi. I was spying on you using the restroom this morning, and I noticed that..."

No, I would say something more on the lines of "Hi, I was watching the spycamera I put in the bathroom and noticed that..."

See, that's the problem right there...
You don't want to give away the info that you've planted a spycam...

[Neu California]

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

What's wrong with the last one?

Maybe the fact that it sounds really perverted?

See, that's the problem right there...
You don't want to give away the info that you've planted a spycam...

[Smunkeeville]

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

What's wrong with the last one?

That's more of a first date question. Duh.

[Greed and Death]

Some possibilities:

"Hi, did you understand that thing the professor was talking about today? I thought it was confusing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, wasn't that joke the professor told today great? I love profs who can actually be funny while they're lecturing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I missed last week's class and I don't really know anyone here. I was wondering if you could tell me what the lecture was about. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I just wanted to say that that was a really interesting question you asked in class today. I hadn't thought of that before. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, this may sound weird, but you look a LOT like a girl I used to go to elementary school with. You don't have a sister named [made-up name], do you? No? Heh, oh well. Anyway, my name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, your shirt/dress/scarf/hat is really pretty. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I noticed you were carrying [any book you see her carrying]. One of my friends was just reading that the other day - is it good? My name's [name] - what's yours?"

Et cetera. It really doesn't matter what topic of conversation you start with - just ask her a polite question or comment and follow it up with an introduction. If that little conversation goes well, next time you see her, you can jump right in with, "Hi, [her name]! Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to study for the test together?" or something to that effect.

Only issue: I see her before class, not after (and I'm always the fourth one to arrive, so I can't hide behind no. 4)

Eat a snack before class and talk to her after.
Jeez you will never get a girl if you can't put off, shoveling food in your mouth for 5 minutes.
shit if this had been the beginning of the year(and she was a freshmen) she would likely have gone with you to eat lunch.
Women may have lowered their standards in this day and age but like to at least know a prospective guy could put off food for 5 minutes for her.

[Pope Joan]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

[Dyakovo]

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

What's wrong with the last one?

Maybe the fact that it sounds really perverted?

And?

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

What's wrong with the last one?

That's more of a first date question. Duh.

Good point...

[Neu California]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

[Greed and Death]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

That and if it doesn't work you've joined a few clubs and likely have plenty more girls to try and date.

[Fascist Dominion]

I tend to say something like "hey, I've noticed you around, but I don't think I've introduced myself" and take it from there. Just muster up enough courage not to vomit on her and you're golden. Ask more questions than you answer, but make sure they are the right kinds of questions (what are you majoring in?, how do you like this school?, are you from around here?) as opposed to the wrong ones (can I have some of your hair?, did it hurt when you fell from heaven?, have you ever given a blow job in class?)

Maybe he should learn from the lore that is Futurama and ask this: "Did you fall from heaven? 'Cause you got nice cans."

[Fascist Dominion]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

That and if it doesn't work you've joined a few clubs and likely have plenty more girls to try and date.

Yes, because he's the sort of person who wants to be around throngs of people. Great advice.

[Pope Joan]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

Yup, last and current...

my wife of forty years.

[Fascist Dominion]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

Yup, last and current...

my wife of forty years.

Your methods are dated.

[Dyakovo]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

Yup, last and current...

my wife of forty years.

Your methods are dated stalking.

Fixed

[Neu California]

I found out what clubs she was in and joined those. (The Religious Affairs Committee! At that point, I was more interested in affairs than in religion.)

The clubs had informal situations which made talk easier.

I also asked friends about where they had seen her, hangouts, and went there too. After she got to know me at a couple clubs/student activity groups, she welcomed me to her table when I showed up at at her hangouts, the pizza place and the dimly lit smelling-of-weed coffee house.

Is this your approach to your last girlfriend? It sounds vaguely Dutch.

Yup, last and current...

my wife of forty years.

Your methods are dated stalking.

Fixed

And NSG's creepy sense of humor comes out

I'm home!

[Pope Joan]

but...it worked!

[Fascist Dominion]

And NSG's creepy sense of humor comes out

I'm home!

So that's your solution: just pretend you're in NSG.

[Barringtonia]

but...it worked!

Did you ever see the story about the blond singer from ABBA who dated her stalker for a fair few years, he was later convicted, it was quite the odd story.

There we go, god bless Wiki: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Agnetha_Fältskog#Stalking_victim

[Slaytesics]

Dude, i have Aspergers too, just hang out with her make her laugh, and then ask her out, but make sure to not make everything intellectual and thought out.

[Muravyets]

Some possibilities:

"Hi, did you understand that thing the professor was talking about today? I thought it was confusing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, wasn't that joke the professor told today great? I love profs who can actually be funny while they're lecturing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I missed last week's class and I don't really know anyone here. I was wondering if you could tell me what the lecture was about. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I just wanted to say that that was a really interesting question you asked in class today. I hadn't thought of that before. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, this may sound weird, but you look a LOT like a girl I used to go to elementary school with. You don't have a sister named [made-up name], do you? No? Heh, oh well. Anyway, my name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, your shirt/dress/scarf/hat is really pretty. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I noticed you were carrying [any book you see her carrying]. One of my friends was just reading that the other day - is it good? My name's [name] - what's yours?"

Et cetera. It really doesn't matter what topic of conversation you start with - just ask her a polite question or comment and follow it up with an introduction. If that little conversation goes well, next time you see her, you can jump right in with, "Hi, [her name]! Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to study for the test together?" or something to that effect.

Wow. You're good. *takes notes*

I agree with everyone who says start with a friendly "Hi!" If you want to get to know someone, the best way is to talk to them, and you share a class, so you already have a topic.

Also, keep this in mind: Smile! If you have Asperger's you might forget that, but it really makes a difference. A lot of times, it's intimidating to be approached by a guy you don't know, and if he makes it clear that he's feeling friendly and positive, it can make the difference in whether the woman will be receptive or not.

[Dyakovo]

I agree with everyone who says start with a friendly "Hi!"

Even me?

Some possibilities:

"Hi, did you understand that thing the professor was talking about today? I thought it was confusing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, wasn't that joke the professor told today great? I love profs who can actually be funny while they're lecturing. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I missed last week's class and I don't really know anyone here. I was wondering if you could tell me what the lecture was about. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I just wanted to say that that was a really interesting question you asked in class today. I hadn't thought of that before. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, this may sound weird, but you look a LOT like a girl I used to go to elementary school with. You don't have a sister named [made-up name], do you? No? Heh, oh well. Anyway, my name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, your shirt/dress/scarf/hat is really pretty. My name's [name] - what's yours?"

"Hi, I noticed you were carrying [any book you see her carrying]. One of my friends was just reading that the other day - is it good? My name's [name] - what's yours?"

Et cetera. It really doesn't matter what topic of conversation you start with - just ask her a polite question or comment and follow it up with an introduction. If that little conversation goes well, next time you see her, you can jump right in with, "Hi, [her name]! Hey, I was wondering if you wanted to study for the test together?" or something to that effect.

And can't leave out: "Hi, want to fuck?"

[Muravyets]

I agree with everyone who says start with a friendly "Hi!"

Even me?

<snip>

Did you smile when you asked that question? I did specify a FRIENDLY "Hi."