He's good looking...but I'm not gay...

[Zweite Alaje]

I never comment on another man's looks, simply because I don't really care.

Yeah, I'm like that most of the time. Sometimes I'm baffled at how some of my female friends think the fugliest dudes are attractive. IDK, maybe cuz I'm straight.

[The United Colonies of Earth]

Partially due to remnant homophobia, I cannot ever tell a dude what he looks like.
In addition, most of the superlatives for appearance I use are generally applied to women (as I use them).

[Constaniana]

Well, I might say Christian Bale is handsome, or that one of my friends looks good in the shirt they're wearing, but I'm not going to seriously say "OH YEAH HIS BUTT IS SO TIGHT AND SEXY MMM!"

[Reggae Magmia]

I never comment on another man's looks, simply because I don't really care.

Yeah, I'm like that most of the time. Sometimes I'm baffled at how some of my female friends think the fugliest dudes are attractive. IDK, maybe cuz I'm straight.

It is rather odd, very odd actually.

Ex. Justin Bieber...I mean, REALLY?!

[Galla-]

Inspired by this post, and the part that is bolded...

Altough China named him Sexiest Man Alive, i'm not gay but he isn't that bad looking

...I always laugh when I see that certain men feel the need to put a glaring disclaimer of "I'm not gay" when discussing another man's looks. You'd think in this day and age that people would be able to move past such insecurities, but obviously it's still a very prevalent in society.

So, fellow men who happen to be straight: do you feel insecure if asked to comment on another guy's looks? Or do you worry frantically if you see a decent looking fellow and think, "Hey he's pretty good looking"? I myself couldn't care less, and if they have a good fashion sense and take care of themselves: more power to them!

What sayest you? All opinions from across the sexual spectrum of course, welcome!

Why do people always need to be a certain sexual orientation to someone to be able to comment on such things as the beauty inherent in their sex?

Check your privilege bro.

[Smartass alcoholics]

Because, of course, it would be terrible for anyone to believe you might be interested in men.

Well, it could lead to some very awkward situations.

Indeed. I do quite poorly in awkward situations, unless its in a chatroom (If this wasn't enough evidence, that is)

[DesAnges]

Inspired by this post, and the part that is bolded...



...I always laugh when I see that certain men feel the need to put a glaring disclaimer of "I'm not gay" when discussing another man's looks. You'd think in this day and age that people would be able to move past such insecurities, but obviously it's still a very prevalent in society.

So, fellow men who happen to be straight: do you feel insecure if asked to comment on another guy's looks? Or do you worry frantically if you see a decent looking fellow and think, "Hey he's pretty good looking"? I myself couldn't care less, and if they have a good fashion sense and take care of themselves: more power to them!

What sayest you? All opinions from across the sexual spectrum of course, welcome!

Why do people always need to be a certain sexual orientation to someone to be able to comment on such things as the beauty inherent in their sex?

Check your privilege bro.

That is what OP is saying, that he thinks it is silly that that is still the state of social affairs.

[Tmutarakhan]

Yeah, I'm like that most of the time. Sometimes I'm baffled at how some of my female friends think the fugliest dudes are attractive. IDK, maybe cuz I'm straight.

It is rather odd, very odd actually.

Ex. Justin Bieber...I mean, REALLY?!

Only to a certain segment of mostly teenage girls. To me, he looks annoying. I prefer someone a bit more craggy and scruffy: Conserative Morality posted a nice pic of himself, for example.

[Cetacea]

Inspired by this post, and the part that is bolded...

Altough China named him Sexiest Man Alive, i'm not gay but he isn't that bad looking

...I always laugh when I see that certain men feel the need to put a glaring disclaimer of "I'm not gay" when discussing another man's looks. You'd think in this day and age that people would be able to move past such insecurities, but obviously it's still a very prevalent in society.

So, fellow men who happen to be straight: do you feel insecure if asked to comment on another guy's looks? Or do you worry frantically if you see a decent looking fellow and think, "Hey he's pretty good looking"? I myself couldn't care less, and if they have a good fashion sense and take care of themselves: more power to them!

What sayest you? All opinions from across the sexual spectrum of course, welcome!

in response to such comments I love to reply "YEAH I'M NOT GAY EITHER BUT I WOULD SO DO HIM"

of course I enjoy the full spectrum of prettiness including both pretty boys and pretty girls, everyone has something attractive about them (with a few it just takes longer to notice what it is:)

I am told that Angelina Jolie and Kim Kardashian are especially attractive women, though as a gay man I would not have known that without being told, as I do not find the looks of either one to stand out in particular.

they're not especially attractive really

[Lancaster of Wessex]

Why do people always need to be a certain sexual orientation to someone to be able to comment on such things as the beauty inherent in their sex?

Check your privilege bro.

That's my point - I'm saying you don't have to be. I'm just puzzled over why some feel the need to put up the whole "oh so and so is decent looking...BUT I'm not gay!!" barrier when discussing another man's looks, whether to himself (in their own mind) or when talking with friends, etc. I understand why they do it, I myself just don't happen to see the need.

No privilege to check, sir. ;P

[Conserative Morality]

Only to a certain segment of mostly teenage girls. To me, he looks annoying. I prefer someone a bit more craggy and scruffy: Conserative Morality posted a nice pic of himself, for example.

Aw, thanks.

[Yumyumsuppertime]

It's entirely possible for one man to realize that another man is good-looking without feeling any sort of sexual charge from it. However, since these matters are inherently subjective, I can't really use the term "objective" in this case.

[Galla-]

Why do people always need to be a certain sexual orientation to someone to be able to comment on such things as the beauty inherent in their sex?

Check your privilege bro.

That's my point - I'm saying you don't have to be. I'm just puzzled over why some feel the need to put up the whole "oh so and so is decent looking...BUT I'm not gay!!" barrier when discussing another man's looks, whether to himself (in their own mind) or when talking with friends, etc. I understand why they do it, I myself just don't happen to see the need.

No privilege to check, sir. ;P

The privilege line was a joke, I was agreeing w/ OP through the rhetorical question. v:

[Genivaria]

I can acknowledge that Gerard Butler is a good looking man, it doesn't mean I'm attracted to men.
Didn't your dad/uncle/brother/friend/son ever tell you that you look good in a suit before?

Frankly I think we need to stop being so damn scared of showing affection to other males as well, we've built up this culture where its considered 'unmanly' to show any kind of emotion, not only is this stupid its also unhealthy.

You know what I do when I see a male family member that I'm close to? I shake his hand and then pull him in for a hug.
I always say that handshakes are for job interviews, and meeting your girlfriends dad, family shouldn't be afraid of showing affection.

[Page]

I'm bi but anyone who would say Kim-Jong Un is even remotely attractive, even with beer-goggles, has earned my total contempt. And I sure as hell ain't hooking up with a dude with standards that low.

[Wolfine]

I'm on the rainbow side of the fence and I compliment females on how pretty they are all the time. (More than guys actually :L) So yeah.


All I read was "He's good looking..." and was secretly hoping this thread was about cannibals.

[Tulija]

It's a natural reaction, whether it be in jest or due to the banter that comes from saying it. I suppose it's similar to disclaiming whenever someone claims respect for something controversial "I don't like Hitler but he was a strong leader" or something like that, is done to restate the already known fact that your friend isn't a neo-nazi.

[Citigroup]

It's not their sex as much as it is their features. The reason actors/actresses are known for their attractiveness is because they have very symmetrical (typically softer) features. Hence, it may not be based on sexuality as it is features/looks. This happens to both men and women, so this whole "no homo" thing is stupid and quite immature.

[Genivaria]

I'm on the rainbow side of the fence and I compliment females on how pretty they are all the time. (More than guys actually :L) So yeah.


All I read was "He's good looking..." and was secretly hoping this thread was about cannibals.

Thanks I needed that laugh.

[Wolfine]

It's not their sex as much as it is their features. The reason actors/actresses are known for their attractiveness is because they have very symmetrical (typically softer) features. Hence, it may not be based on sexuality as it is features/looks. This happens to both men and women, so this whole "no homo" thing is stupid and quite immature.

I like to replace the 'n' in no homo with an 's'.

[Cetacea]

You know what I do when I see a male family member that I'm close to? I shake his hand and then pull him in for a hug.
I always say that handshakes are for job interviews, and meeting your girlfriends dad, family shouldn't be afraid of showing affection.

Yeah I stopped kissing my father when I was about 10 because it wasn't 'manly'
But when I got nephews and my own son I made a point of kissing them even after the edge of 10, my son is 12 and my Nephews are now in their 20's but everytime I see them it is with a hug and a kiss.

[Citigroup]

It's not their sex as much as it is their features. The reason actors/actresses are known for their attractiveness is because they have very symmetrical (typically softer) features. Hence, it may not be based on sexuality as it is features/looks. This happens to both men and women, so this whole "no homo" thing is stupid and quite immature.

I like to replace the 'n' in no homo with an 's'.

Oh please, grow up.

No harsh feelings though

[Tmutarakhan]

It's a natural reaction, whether it be in jest or due to the banter that comes from saying it. I suppose it's similar to disclaiming whenever someone claims respect for something controversial "I don't like Hitler but he was a strong leader" or something like that, is done to restate the already known fact that your friend isn't a neo-nazi.

Whenever anybody says "I don't like Hitler but..." a lot of people (including myself) immediately assume that he really does like Hitler. It is the same sort of effect that "Some of my best friends are black" has. "...but I'm not gay..." elicits a similar reaction sometimes.

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I never comment on another man's looks, simply because I don't really care.

Yeah, I'm like that most of the time. Sometimes I'm baffled at how some of my female friends think the fugliest dudes are attractive. IDK, maybe cuz I'm straight.

It is not because you're straight. It is because straight females often have baffling tastes.

Example: General Petraeus, he looks like a dork and when he's not in uniform he wears his pants half way up his belly. Only a woman would want to jump that, though he can get the range of women from his floppy dog ear wife to Paula Broadwell who is good except for a huge fucking forehead.

[Fluffy Coyotes]

Is there such a thing as straight male opinions on attractiveness in and of itself? What does it mean for a guy to find another guy attractive if he isn't gay or bi?

That said, the use of such disclaimers is ridiculous. If someone jumps to conclusions about what you mean that's their problem.