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What is your longest relationship?

Poll ended at Fri Mar 08, 2013 6:09 pm

1 day-1 week
16
16%
1-4 Weeks
8
8%
1-2 Months
3
3%
3-5 Months
12
12%
6-8 Months
6
6%
9 Months-1 Year
7
7%
1-2 Years
17
17%
3-5 Years
17
17%
5-10 Years
9
9%
10+ Years
8
8%
 
Total votes : 103

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Postby Jormengand » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:09 pm

greed and death wrote:
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:My current relationship. Going on 3 and a half years.

Gallo forgot the half year; you'd better throw something at him.

*Throws semicolon, apostrophe and d at G&D*

How do you like it, huh?
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Postby Natair » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:09 pm

The Tiger Kingdom wrote:Never been in one. Most girls don't appeal to me that much - especially back in high school, that I just got out of.
I currently have a desperate crush on a girl in some of my classes who has a boyfriend already. She's pretty amazing.
And you know what's the worst part?
I think she might kinda like me too. Which gives me just enough hope to avoid crying myself to sleep, but not enough to actually, you know, give me a real chance anytime soon.
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I don't really get the whole "relationship" thing that well, really.

I have the same situation while I'm in high school D:
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Postby Meritocratic States » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:17 pm

My longest? Hm... it was in my final year in high school, lasted for 3 weeks, it was nothing special really. It was mutual breakup in the end.

Now that I think of it, I am finding myself attracted to a woman in my College lately. I don't know, I'll give it some thought.
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Postby The Constitutional Land of Freedom » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:18 pm

Longest relationship isn't really applicable for me, as even if you did count the awesome friendship as a full out relationship, it's my first, and it has not ended.

I guess my main tip for showing her that you care would be trying to figure out her love language and then going from there. Ever heard of the five love languages? These are what I'm referring to. If you don't know what I'm talking about, they're love languages (words of affirmation, receiving gifts, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service) that everyone kinda has built in, and if you "speak" to them in their main love language(s), it will display your great love for her.

Anyway, http://www.5lovelanguages.com/ you can learn a bit more about them, and take a quiz thingy for both yours and someone else's love language. Hope that helps!

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Postby Rocopurr » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:18 pm

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Postby Greed and Death » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:20 pm

Jormengand wrote:
greed and death wrote:Gallo forgot the half year; you'd better throw something at him.

*Throws semicolon, apostrophe and d at G&D*

How do you like it, huh?

Feels like effective marriage counseling.
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Postby The Batorys » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:21 pm

Stronbollia wrote:I would like to take a little break from the world of politics and like to connect with all of you on a personal level for a little bit.I am currently in a relationship thats about the month and a half right now. The longest relationship I've ever had was 1 year. To stabilize my relationships I am very nice to the girl, supportive, caring, etc. But I have problems being dominant and have trouble at times showing how I truly feel for her. I am curious to see what your guys longest relationship was and what strategies do you use to keep it stable?


What you need isn't dominance, it's confidence. It's not a contest of wills, it's a cooperation between partners.

It sounds trite, but communication and trust are pretty much the keys, in my experiences. And confidence. Not arrogance, not attempts to control, but respect yourself. As for showing her how you feel, even if stuff doesn't go the way you planned, making the effort is really important.

Also, remember, every woman is different, because, well, you know... people are different. That's why it's so hard to give general, sure-fire advice for relationships. What works with one partner might not work with another.


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Postby Jormengand » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:21 pm

greed and death wrote:
Jormengand wrote:*Throws semicolon, apostrophe and d at G&D*

How do you like it, huh?

Feels like effective marriage counseling.

*Throws s*

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Postby Lordieth » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:24 pm

Relationships are for functional people.

Plenty of relationships, all of them failures in one way or another. My last breakup left me so bitter than I haven't dared to enter another relationship since. Passing one chance after another does kind of fill me with an ever increasing sense of regret, but on the plus side at least I'm safe in the knowledge that a relationship can't go wrong if I'm not in one.

Apart from the bitter regret thing, I'm quite content and happy on my own. I enjoy my own company. That's probably a bad thing, but If I can keep a slim grip on reality then it's not doing any harm, really.
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Postby Veblenia » Thu Nov 29, 2012 3:41 pm

My longest relationship was eight years, three of which we were married. Honestly, that was the one that taught me 'stability' was way overrated; we should have gone our separate ways long before, but fear of being alone kept that zombie marriage shambling along.
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Postby Nanatsu no Tsuki » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:02 pm

greed and death wrote:
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:My current relationship. Going on 3 and a half years.

Gallo forgot the half year; you'd better throw something at him.


He has a terrible problem keeping track of time. :p
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Postby Mavorpen » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:09 pm

I don't know.
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Postby Christmahanikwanzikah » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:13 pm

I haven't been in one, I likely won't for quite a while, and I seem to have (again) developed a crush on this girl that's one of my best friends.

I am so screwed. And not literally.

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Postby Volnotova » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:21 pm

None.

I do have a crush on someone(and have had for a long time).

I my self feel unable to get into a (romantic) relationship. All the guys I met just don't seem to cut it(in comparison to him), and I just can't get my self to get into a relationship with a girl either because I am unable to get over him.

I haven't seen him in over 6 years, and I miss him terribly...
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Postby Greed and Death » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:31 pm

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
greed and death wrote:Gallo forgot the half year; you'd better throw something at him.


He has a terrible problem keeping track of time. :p

I take it since your the only one to respond and you in a good mood you threw something at him and he is now unconscious ?

You know he will keep forgetting things if you keep throwing things at him.
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Postby Nanatsu no Tsuki » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:32 pm

greed and death wrote:
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
He has a terrible problem keeping track of time. :p

I take it since your the only one to respond and you in a good mood you threw something at him and he is now unconscious ?

You know he will keep forgetting things if you keep throwing things at him.


I'm not in the habit of abusing my partner, Greedy. ;)
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Postby Galloism » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:33 pm

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
greed and death wrote:I take it since your the only one to respond and you in a good mood you threw something at him and he is now unconscious ?

You know he will keep forgetting things if you keep throwing things at him.


I'm not in the habit of abusing my partner, Greedy. ;)

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Postby New England and The Maritimes » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:33 pm

Christmahanikwanzikah wrote:I haven't been in one, I likely won't for quite a while, and I seem to have (again) developed a crush on this girl that's one of my best friends.

I am so screwed. And not literally.

Seems like a similar problem to mine, but I develop false feelings because I'm desperate for some kind of contact and then go crazy over it. Doesn't work out well.
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Postby Nanatsu no Tsuki » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:34 pm

Galloism wrote:
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
I'm not in the habit of abusing my partner, Greedy. ;)

Much.


Would you consider me poking your belly button abuse? :p
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Postby Greed and Death » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:38 pm

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
Galloism wrote:Much.


Would you consider me poking your belly button abuse? :p

See you both are in need of Greed and Death's marriage counseling services.
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Postby Tiltjuice » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:39 pm

New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Christmahanikwanzikah wrote:I haven't been in one, I likely won't for quite a while, and I seem to have (again) developed a crush on this girl that's one of my best friends.

I am so screwed. And not literally.

Seems like a similar problem to mine, but I develop false feelings because I'm desperate for some kind of contact and then go crazy over it. Doesn't work out well.

I used to have that problem. It sucks.
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Postby Christmahanikwanzikah » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:46 pm

New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Christmahanikwanzikah wrote:I haven't been in one, I likely won't for quite a while, and I seem to have (again) developed a crush on this girl that's one of my best friends.

I am so screwed. And not literally.

Seems like a similar problem to mine, but I develop false feelings because I'm desperate for some kind of contact and then go crazy over it. Doesn't work out well.


We talk regularly now. I didn't even think this would happen... she moved way away, and I figured, "Welp, we're probably going to be drifting apart." Nope. I didn't figure not talking to her after a week or two would make me miss her, but here we are. And it seems (from the face value of what she says) she misses me too.

But I've already gotten the "like a brother" thing. That's been there for a while now. There were even times where I didn't even want to be around her at all, that's how things got between us on my end.

And yet, here we go again.

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Postby Galloism » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:46 pm

greed and death wrote:
Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
Would you consider me poking your belly button abuse? :p

See you both are in need of Greed and Death's marriage counseling services.

Isn't that like having a blind seeing eye dog?
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Postby Greed and Death » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:50 pm

Galloism wrote:
greed and death wrote:See you both are in need of Greed and Death's marriage counseling services.

Isn't that like having a blind seeing eye dog?

No it is more like being strapped to a chair having electrodes strapped to your naughty bits by an 18 year old assistant of mine and me giving your spouse the button to run on the juice. Who may well be upset that you got excited by the 18 year old assistant.
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Postby Ethel mermania » Thu Nov 29, 2012 6:52 pm

Dyakovo wrote:
Stronbollia wrote:I would like to take a little break from the world of politics and like to connect with all of you on a personal level for a little bit.I am currently in a relationship thats about the month and a half right now. The longest relationship I've ever had was 1 year. To stabilize my relationships I am very nice to the girl, supportive, caring, etc. But I have problems being dominant and have trouble at times showing how I truly feel for her. I am curious to see what your guys longest relationship was and what strategies do you use to keep it stable?

My longest relationship is 21 years and counting...


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