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by Cannot think of a name » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:00 pm
Northern Dominus wrote:If that's skimpy in your estimation then you need to get out more...Agymnum wrote:
Exposing shoulders and chest above stomach at the same time. In essence, I'll take it as not skimpy if it's not a swimsuit or a glorified bra.
And I stand by my first assertion: just because something is advertised does not give anybody the license to make somebody uncomfortable by leering, period. A glance or a lingering gaze, perhaps, but anything beyond that hell no.
by Zaras » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:00 pm
Agymnum wrote:Seriously, though, I don't necessarily leer at people. I just disapprove mentally. I'm not going to go out of my way to make a woman uncomfortable on her choice of dress - that wastes my time and hers - but I sure as hell am not gonna praise her for her choice in fashion.
Bythyrona wrote:Zaras wrote:Democratic People's Republic of Glorious Misty Mountain Hop.
The bat in the middle commemmorates their crushing victory in the bloody Battle of Evermore, where the Communists were saved at the last minute by General "Black Dog" Bonham of the Rock 'n Roll Brigade detonating a levee armed with only four sticks and flooding the enemy encampment. He later retired with honours and went to live in California for the rest of his life before ascending to heaven.
Best post I've seen on NS since I've been here. :clap:
by Agymnum » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:01 pm
Zaras wrote:Agymnum wrote:Seriously, though, I don't necessarily leer at people. I just disapprove mentally. I'm not going to go out of my way to make a woman uncomfortable on her choice of dress - that wastes my time and hers - but I sure as hell am not gonna praise her for her choice in fashion.
Because somebody made you lord of everything that's appropriate in fashion?
by Northern Dominus » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:05 pm
Oh yes curse those insidious gay designers like Dolce and Gabbana, it's a conspiracy you know, what with the compliments I get when wearing a suit designed by them or that shirt designed by Karl Lagerfield, or any outfit that is put together by my gay friend/stylist when I have a date.
by Firdausia » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:09 pm
Nadkor wrote:Firdausia wrote:If you don't want people to stare you probably shouldn't wear something that will draw attention.
This is a mind-bogglingly stupid statement.
I don't wear particularly revealing clothing very often, despite the fact that there are plenty of times when I might like to because of one of the reasons I noted previously, because people staring and leering makes me feel very uncomfortable and intimidated. I am not okay that I have to restrict my choice of clothing because some people can't keep their eyes to themselves.
I object to people making statements such as yours that reinforce the idea that it's fine for people to leer and stare at people in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable and intimidated, reinforcing the idea that a woman's body is some kind of public property to be poured over and that if she doesn't want people to treat her body as such she should have to cover it up.
Frankly, it's only a small step from "if she didn't want to get felt up she shouldn't have worn a skirt that short", and it's pathetic.
by Jinos » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:10 pm
Zaras wrote:Agymnum wrote:
This. If you expose your breasts and posterior, you obviously want people to look at it. Well, unless maybe you have no other clothes (in which case, I question why all your clothes are so skimpy).
Nice of a guy like you to tell us what all women think, because you're an expert on that, eh?
by Hardened Pyrokinetics » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:11 pm
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by Nadkor » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:14 pm
Firdausia wrote:Nadkor wrote:
This is a mind-bogglingly stupid statement.
I don't wear particularly revealing clothing very often, despite the fact that there are plenty of times when I might like to because of one of the reasons I noted previously, because people staring and leering makes me feel very uncomfortable and intimidated. I am not okay that I have to restrict my choice of clothing because some people can't keep their eyes to themselves.
I object to people making statements such as yours that reinforce the idea that it's fine for people to leer and stare at people in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable and intimidated, reinforcing the idea that a woman's body is some kind of public property to be poured over and that if she doesn't want people to treat her body as such she should have to cover it up.
Frankly, it's only a small step from "if she didn't want to get felt up she shouldn't have worn a skirt that short", and it's pathetic.
It's the same with anything though! If you don't want a certain outcome, then you do all that's in your power to reduce the chances of it happening. I like I said, you have to weigh it out.
If you don't want someone to criticize your views, you don't say anything.
If you don't want people to eyeball you, you don't go out with your tits on display.
It's pretty simple.
by Geilinor » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:16 pm
by Firdausia » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:17 pm
Nadkor wrote:Firdausia wrote:
It's the same with anything though! If you don't want a certain outcome, then you do all that's in your power to reduce the chances of it happening. I like I said, you have to weigh it out.
If you don't want someone to criticize your views, you don't say anything.
If you don't want people to eyeball you, you don't go out with your tits on display.
It's pretty simple.
And if you don't want to get raped you don't go out and get drunk and flirt with guys while wearing skimpy clothes, of course.
by Des-Bal » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:19 pm
Cekoviu wrote:DES-BAL: Introverted, blunt, focused, utilitarian. Hard to read; not verbose online or likely in real life. Places little emphasis on interpersonal relationships, particularly with online strangers for whom the investment would outweigh the returns.
Desired perception: Logical, intellectual
Public perception: Neutral-positive - blunt, cold, logical, skilled at debating
Mindset: Logos
by Geilinor » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:20 pm
Zaras wrote:Agymnum wrote:
This. If you expose your breasts and posterior, you obviously want people to look at it. Well, unless maybe you have no other clothes (in which case, I question why all your clothes are so skimpy).
Nice of a guy like you to tell us what all women think, because you're an expert on that, eh?
by Des-Bal » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:22 pm
Geilinor wrote:If you don't want it to be looked at, don't let it show. Makes sense to me.
Cekoviu wrote:DES-BAL: Introverted, blunt, focused, utilitarian. Hard to read; not verbose online or likely in real life. Places little emphasis on interpersonal relationships, particularly with online strangers for whom the investment would outweigh the returns.
Desired perception: Logical, intellectual
Public perception: Neutral-positive - blunt, cold, logical, skilled at debating
Mindset: Logos
by Northern Dominus » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:22 pm
Except you made the implication that women who get raped for wearing "skimpy" or "flirty" cothing deserved to be raped, in a not-so-roundabout fashion of course.Firdausia wrote:Nadkor wrote:
And if you don't want to get raped you don't go out and get drunk and flirt with guys while wearing skimpy clothes, of course.
There's a big difference, rape is a crime, looking at someone isn't. I don't mind people looking at me, but I sure would have a problem with someone trying to rape me.
by Des-Bal » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:24 pm
Northern Dominus wrote:Except you made the implication that women who get raped for wearing "skimpy" or "flirty" cothing deserved to be raped, in a not-so-roundabout fashion of course.
Cekoviu wrote:DES-BAL: Introverted, blunt, focused, utilitarian. Hard to read; not verbose online or likely in real life. Places little emphasis on interpersonal relationships, particularly with online strangers for whom the investment would outweigh the returns.
Desired perception: Logical, intellectual
Public perception: Neutral-positive - blunt, cold, logical, skilled at debating
Mindset: Logos
by Wilketoria » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:26 pm
by Nadkor » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:28 pm
Firdausia wrote:Nadkor wrote:
And if you don't want to get raped you don't go out and get drunk and flirt with guys while wearing skimpy clothes, of course.
There's a big difference, rape is a crime, looking at someone isn't. I don't mind people looking at me, but I sure would have a problem with someone trying to rape me.
by Firdausia » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:30 pm
Northern Dominus wrote:Except you made the implication that women who get raped for wearing "skimpy" or "flirty" clothing deserved to be raped, in a not-so-roundabout fashion of course.Firdausia wrote:
There's a big difference, rape is a crime, looking at someone isn't. I don't mind people looking at me, but I sure would have a problem with someone trying to rape me.
by Christmahanikwanzikah » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:30 pm
by Cannot think of a name » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:32 pm
Firdausia wrote:Nadkor wrote:
This is a mind-bogglingly stupid statement.
I don't wear particularly revealing clothing very often, despite the fact that there are plenty of times when I might like to because of one of the reasons I noted previously, because people staring and leering makes me feel very uncomfortable and intimidated. I am not okay that I have to restrict my choice of clothing because some people can't keep their eyes to themselves.
I object to people making statements such as yours that reinforce the idea that it's fine for people to leer and stare at people in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable and intimidated, reinforcing the idea that a woman's body is some kind of public property to be poured over and that if she doesn't want people to treat her body as such she should have to cover it up.
Frankly, it's only a small step from "if she didn't want to get felt up she shouldn't have worn a skirt that short", and it's pathetic.
It's the same with anything though! If you don't want a certain outcome, then you do all that's in your power to reduce the chances of it happening. I like I said, you have to weigh it out.
If you don't want someone to criticize your views, you don't say anything.
If you don't want people to eyeball you, you don't go out with your tits on display.
It's pretty simple.
by Firdausia » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:39 pm
Cannot think of a name wrote:Firdausia wrote:
It's the same with anything though! If you don't want a certain outcome, then you do all that's in your power to reduce the chances of it happening. I like I said, you have to weigh it out.
If you don't want someone to criticize your views, you don't say anything.
If you don't want people to eyeball you, you don't go out with your tits on display.
It's pretty simple.
Do you know who Porter Stewart is? He was an associate justice of the United States Supreme Court. Not remarkable, but relevant in this way...
During his tenure a decency case came before the court, as they would during that time (look up Lenny Bruce...). When he wrote his decision on the pornographic content of a particular movie he said that "hardcore pornography" is a hard thing to define but that he'd "know it when he saw it." (he actually said the film wasn't, but the "know it when I see it" standard is what matters here)
This is an untenable position. What standard should a woman have to comply to before her outfit meets the standard that she can go outside without inviting discomfort? How do we apply a standard that Porter Stewart even had to go back on in a later decision?
Further, how much agency do we give the stereotypical whistling construction worker over what a woman decides what is and is not 'decent'? There is the rub, because I do not have to consider women's opinions of what I wear unless I'm dressing for women. Why shouldn't women have that same agency over their clothing as men do?
The 'well, hey, you dressed to sexy so I get to stare...' is too ambiguous a standard. And yes, if I was an attractive dude dressed stylishly there is a possibility that some women would behave inappropriately and even make me uncomfortable, but not afraid, and that's an important difference.
by Des-Bal » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:39 pm
Nadkor wrote:There's not a big difference. You're using the same bullshit reasoning that rapists and would-be rapists use. It's bollocks. Utter bollocks.
Like I said: you are reinforcing the idea that a woman's body is public property to be poured over and that if she doesn't want people to treat her body as such she should have to cover it up.
My body is not public property, whatever clothing I choose to wear.
Cekoviu wrote:DES-BAL: Introverted, blunt, focused, utilitarian. Hard to read; not verbose online or likely in real life. Places little emphasis on interpersonal relationships, particularly with online strangers for whom the investment would outweigh the returns.
Desired perception: Logical, intellectual
Public perception: Neutral-positive - blunt, cold, logical, skilled at debating
Mindset: Logos
by Cannot think of a name » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:41 pm
Firdausia wrote:Cannot think of a name wrote:Do you know who Porter Stewart is? He was an associate justice of the United States Supreme Court. Not remarkable, but relevant in this way...
During his tenure a decency case came before the court, as they would during that time (look up Lenny Bruce...). When he wrote his decision on the pornographic content of a particular movie he said that "hardcore pornography" is a hard thing to define but that he'd "know it when he saw it." (he actually said the film wasn't, but the "know it when I see it" standard is what matters here)
This is an untenable position. What standard should a woman have to comply to before her outfit meets the standard that she can go outside without inviting discomfort? How do we apply a standard that Porter Stewart even had to go back on in a later decision?
Further, how much agency do we give the stereotypical whistling construction worker over what a woman decides what is and is not 'decent'? There is the rub, because I do not have to consider women's opinions of what I wear unless I'm dressing for women. Why shouldn't women have that same agency over their clothing as men do?
The 'well, hey, you dressed to sexy so I get to stare...' is too ambiguous a standard. And yes, if I was an attractive dude dressed stylishly there is a possibility that some women would behave inappropriately and even make me uncomfortable, but not afraid, and that's an important difference.
Ok, then you're accepting the fact that no matter how you dress there is a chance someone will look or comment on you.
Firdausia wrote:The thing is, that wearing certain things invites more/longer looks and more frequent commenting, wouldn't you agree?
by Euronion » Wed Aug 15, 2012 5:43 pm
Zaras wrote:Agymnum wrote:Seriously, though, I don't necessarily leer at people. I just disapprove mentally. I'm not going to go out of my way to make a woman uncomfortable on her choice of dress - that wastes my time and hers - but I sure as hell am not gonna praise her for her choice in fashion.
Because somebody made you lord of everything that's appropriate in fashion?
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