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Inside The Mind Of A Highschooler... (Advice please?)

Postby Natair » Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:34 pm

I am getting really sick of getting stuck in the friendzone, and I need some help.
I'm going back to school in a couple weeks, and I am determined to ask this one girl out. I'm not asking for advice on that, though.

No matter which gender, I treat people alike, although I am a bit nicer to girls. Is it this nice-guy thing that's screwing me up?
By nice I mean I'm there when they need someone, I'll put out the occasional compliment (though I take it easy with that so I don't seem to be some freak.) And hell, I've stayed up until midnight just letting them vent before.
Last time I was like that I got screwed over big time, and now I'm stuck in the friendzone. How do I a avoid it with this person?
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Postby Aeronos » Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:39 pm

Take advice from another girl: if a girl has friendzones, she's not worth even the thought of the effort ;)
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Postby Bombadil » Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:42 pm

Say 'I like you and I want to date you'.

Your position will then be clear.

Also, video it, youtube it and post the link here so we can advise you further.
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Postby Silent Majority » Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:48 pm

Ask them on a date, or otherwise make your intentions clear. You may get turned down, and you'll probably feel like shit if you do, but you might get lucky.
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Postby Vitaphone Racing » Mon Jul 30, 2012 8:51 pm

Protip: If you end up in the friendzone, it's usually an indication that they don't have feelings for you. Don't go out of your way to change it; you can't create feelings that aren't there.

But keep trying, there is somebody out there for everyone. Occaisionally, there are two somebodies for every someone. That's called getting lucky.
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Postby The Zanzibar Republic » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:10 pm

Typically what you have to do is make a point of demonstrating your romantic intentions early on.

Simple. Not easy.

Also, keep in mind that the "friend-zone" thing is overblown. I've known a number of guys (myself included) who just assumed that they were in it, only to discover that the girl would have been perfectly willing to go out with them if they had only asked, and indeed had assumed that they were not interested.
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Postby Ceannairceach » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:13 pm

Vitaphone Racing wrote:But keep trying, there is somebody out there for everyone. Occaisionally, there are two somebodies for every someone. That's called getting lucky.

Also, bisexual. *nod*

Edit: But seriously, if you feel that you are stuck in a "Friendzone", an idea that I abhor as an urban myth, then simply make your intentions as clear as a summer sky with them. Simply "I really like you and I want to go on a date", in a more refined and perhaps thought out manner, but you get the idea. If they say no, then that's not the type of person you should be looking to date. If they refuse to speak to you again, that's not the type of person you should have as a friend. Chances are they'll say yes, or kindly turn you down in favor of friendship. Have confidence, and fuck conformity.
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Postby Forster Keys » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:15 pm

I know right? You listen to all their shit for so long and still they refuse to have sex with you?

But seriously, just take it easy, be honest, chill out and take it as it comes. That's what I do. Not that it works... Reality is subjective.

Just disregard this post.
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Postby Wisconsin9 » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:35 pm

Natair wrote:I am getting really sick of getting stuck in the friendzone, and I need some help.
I'm going back to school in a couple weeks, and I am determined to ask this one girl out. I'm not asking for advice on that, though.

No matter which gender, I treat people alike, although I am a bit nicer to girls. Is it this nice-guy thing that's screwing me up?
By nice I mean I'm there when they need someone, I'll put out the occasional compliment (though I take it easy with that so I don't seem to be some freak.) And hell, I've stayed up until midnight just letting them vent before.
Last time I was like that I got screwed over big time, and now I'm stuck in the friendzone. How do I a avoid it with this person?

Oh man do I feel you. Sort of. Never really had the "stay up until midnight" thing. I'm still not entirely sure where I am...
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Postby Black Flag Union » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:37 pm

Natair wrote:I am getting really sick of getting stuck in the friendzone, and I need some help.
I'm going back to school in a couple weeks, and I am determined to ask this one girl out. I'm not asking for advice on that, though.

No matter which gender, I treat people alike, although I am a bit nicer to girls. Is it this nice-guy thing that's screwing me up?
By nice I mean I'm there when they need someone, I'll put out the occasional compliment (though I take it easy with that so I don't seem to be some freak.) And hell, I've stayed up until midnight just letting them vent before.
Last time I was like that I got screwed over big time, and now I'm stuck in the friendzone. How do I a avoid it with this person?

What kind of relationship are you seeking first off. My advice will differ significantly depending on what exactly you seek.

In general however, you can't stop the friend zone. Just stay friends and if a relationship develops, one will develop. The friend zone isn't absolute all the time.

And if your really worried about always getting friend zoned, spice up your appearance a bit, perhaps become more confident. There are many things you can do to make yourself stand out in a good way.
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Postby Raeyh » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:39 pm

Natair wrote:I am getting really sick of getting stuck in the friendzone, and I need some help.


Then get into a relationship where the only thing the other person is seeking is also courtship and stop trying to hook up with your friends.
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Postby Nightkill the Emperor » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:40 pm

Kill every other person who could be a competitor.
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Postby Erryeah » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:40 pm

Inside the mind of a highschooler??

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Postby Erryeah » Mon Jul 30, 2012 9:45 pm

No, but really...what do you really want from this person? That is the focus of your obsession for the moment?

Really?
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Postby Maltempata » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:00 pm

Silent Majority wrote:Ask them on a date, or otherwise make your intentions clear. You may get turned down, and you'll probably feel like shit if you do, but you might get lucky.


Yup. Take a risk. It shows courage. Courage and risk taking are attractive. They improve the probabilities for a favorable outcome.

Whatever the outcome, you can feel good about yourself. Who admires a wimp? Not even you.
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Postby Luziyca » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:02 pm

Get a blog. Girls will swarm over you that you'd regret having a blog in the first place.
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Postby Cannot think of a name » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:18 pm

I hear complaining about 'the friend zone' is considered pretty sexy.
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Postby Swith Witherward » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:32 pm

Ask her if she's tired of being in your friend zone, because you'd like to see if she's interested in being something more meaningful to you than "just some friend". If she isn't interested but is a good person, she'll be polite and decline. If she's bitchy about it or wants to drop you from her social life, then she wasn't worth your time and you've lost nothing but dead weight.
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Postby The UK in Exile » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:42 pm

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Postby Cannot think of a name » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:55 pm

The UK in Exile wrote:could be worse, could be.....


.....the DAAAAANNNNGGGEEEEERRR ZOOOONNNNEEE!

Did they ever put in that highway to there?
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Postby Reploid Productions » Mon Jul 30, 2012 10:56 pm

A blog would be a far better place for this sort of advice than the general forum of a national simulator game.

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