Rape Thread [SAFE SPACE - Mod Enforced]

[Condunum]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

I'm so sorry you experienced that Condunum, it's fucking despicable to be put in a situation like that.

Thank you for sharing with us.

I had to get it out somewhere.

[The Republic of Lanos]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

[Yaltabaoth]

I'm so sorry you experienced that Condunum, it's fucking despicable to be put in a situation like that.

Thank you for sharing with us.

I had to get it out somewhere.

As much as I wish this thread wasn't necessary, I'm really glad it exists and has been able to provide a place for people to talk about their experiences.
You're not alone Condunum. We have your back.

[Condunum]

I had to get it out somewhere.

As much as I wish this thread wasn't necessary, I'm really glad it exists and has been able to provide a place for people to talk about their experiences.
You're not alone Condunum. We have your back.

Thank you, that really does mean a lot to me.

[The Steel Magnolia]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

I'm really sorry Condunum. You have my deepest sympathies, and I'm so so sorry you had to go through that.

Were the world a better place...

[Northern Dominus]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

I'm really sorry Condunum. You have my deepest sympathies, and I'm so so sorry you had to go through that.

Were the world a better place...

It's not...

But only because too many of us are content to fall into trite tired behavior. Most humans are too content to go "that's awful", and then leave it at that, rather than maybe volunteer for RAINN or forcefully petition the DA's office to not throw out the case of a rapist or let it slide.

[Corrian]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

Anyway, I have meant to say this for a while, but I think I need to thank this thread as well. Reading some of the discussions, I honestly think this thread has helped me with what may be more "appropriate" conversation around people who have gone through this. Things I shouldn't say to make matters worse, and other things I shouldn't do to make things feel worse too. I would never mean any bad intentions by anything I would of said if I interacted with someone who went through this, but I know I would of probably said some of the things that may not be the best for me to say. And I'd probably feel really bad about it, too. So I thank this thread in general for making it better for me to talk to people who have gone through rape, and such, though for the sake that it sucks for people to have to go through that, I really hope I won't meet anyone who has had to deal with that. But if I do, and they talk to me about it, I feel like I can better react to it without asking all the wrong questions, and maybe I can just find some way to make them feel better, even if it is merely a hug of comfort or something like that.

Honestly, with this thread and a few other things I have been reading lately, rape has gone to even higher levels on my priority of stuff that seriously has to be payed more attention to, and stamped out the best we can stamp it out. We may be in the most peaceful generation as a whole, but there are still a whole lot of screwed up things in the world that we need to work towards improving for the betterment of the world as a whole. And I will try to do my part when I can....

[Saiwania]

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

While female on male rape is rarer, it is every bit as destructive. My condolences that you ended up having to go through this horrendous experience.

[Freelanderness]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

That's awful. Never feel like you can't speak up about it. (But do be cognisant of your audience). In time, the worst part will be trying to keep everything inside (ime). My advice is to find a good friend, even if they're online or in another city, and find a confidant in them. Ofc, my inbox is always open. Stay strong friend.

[Condunum]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

That's awful. Never feel like you can't speak up about it. (But do be cognisant of your audience). In time, the worst part will be trying to keep everything inside (ime). My advice is to find a good friend, even if they're online or in another city, and find a confidant in them. Ofc, my inbox is always open. Stay strong friend.

Thanks for the support

[Reploid Productions]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

While getting it prosecuted on account of the pot use may not be tenable, I would still recommend talking to a therapist of some variety. Client confidentiality and such, you can at least start trying to work through the ordeal safely. If you go looking for a support group (which would probably also be a good idea,) you can just leave it at the fact you were intoxicated without specifying the substance involved. Regardless of the drug in use, the fact remains that you were in an altered mental state, could not extricate yourself safely from the situation, and were coerced into non-consensual sex. Ultimately, it may even be worth getting dinged for the pot use by the courts to air this girl's predatory dirty laundry.

[The Republic of Lanos]

It shouldn't matter if you were high, drunk, or wasted on whatever. Rape is still rape even if you were out of it.

[Individuality-ness]

It shouldn't matter if you were high, drunk, or wasted on whatever. Rape is still rape even if you were out of it.

And it really should never matter -- whether you're of a certain gender or whether you were sober/high, nonconsensual sex is rape. Except that should he press charges, the defense is going to say that Condy's an untrustworthy witness because drugs and drug use, hurr durr. Plus, lack of a rape kit and lack of respect for male victims of rape compounds the problem.

[New England and The Maritimes]

People are threatening to rape a 14 year old friend of mine and posting harassing comments about it toward her. I'm mobilizing the facebook feminist community to help me get them removed, but it makes me sick to think it's even possible that people do this.

If they weren't hiding on the internet I'd be on probation for assault right now, as I'd have taken them out. I'm so pissed off.

[The Republic of Lanos]

People are threatening to rape a 14 year old friend of mine and posting harassing comments about it toward her. I'm mobilizing the facebook feminist community to help me get them removed, but it makes me sick to think it's even possible that people do this.

If they weren't hiding on the internet I'd be on probation for assault right now, as I'd have taken them out. I'm so pissed off.

[Condunum]

People are threatening to rape a 14 year old friend of mine and posting harassing comments about it toward her. I'm mobilizing the facebook feminist community to help me get them removed, but it makes me sick to think it's even possible that people do this.

If they weren't hiding on the internet I'd be on probation for assault right now, as I'd have taken them out. I'm so pissed off.

Good old nemmy, always being the knight in shining armor ^_^

[Rereumrari]

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

While female on male rape is rarer, it is every bit as destructive. My condolences that you ended up having to go through this horrendous experience.

Yeah, I really don't think what she did to him was anywhere near as destructive as what he could have done to her. What he is describing isn't even really rape, it's more along the lines of blackmail. He claims he didnt have a choice, but there was always another way home. He just chose the easiest way to get home.

[Individuality-ness]

While female on male rape is rarer, it is every bit as destructive. My condolences that you ended up having to go through this horrendous experience.

Yeah, I really don't think what she did to him was anywhere near as destructive as what he could have done to her. What he is describing isn't even really rape, it's more along the lines of blackmail. He claims he didnt have a choice, but there was always another way home. He just chose the easiest way to get home.

We. Are NOT. Going. There. This. Is. A. Safe. Space.

[Nightkill the Emperor]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

[Condunum]

While female on male rape is rarer, it is every bit as destructive. My condolences that you ended up having to go through this horrendous experience.

Yeah, I really don't think what she did to him was anywhere near as destructive as what he could have done to her. What he is describing isn't even really rape, it's more along the lines of blackmail. He claims he didnt have a choice, but there was always another way home. He just chose the easiest way to get home.

Seriously? Fuck you.

[Tiltjuice]

Disgusting. What are the rules for ejection from a thread in NSG?

[Neutraligon]

I heard a conversation that pissed me off so much today. While I was at a restaurant today there was a group sitting behind me. One of the people asked another person in the group if there were any funny rape stories from his job. I swear I almost wanted to yell at them. The person, who is apparently a lawyer, started talking about this case where he was the lawyer of the defendant.I couldn't hear the actual story, but this just really pissed me off.

[Condunum]

I'm hoping that this isn't too old to be a gravedig, I just figured this was the right place to share.

About... A month ago, I was raped. I was raped by a girl who I thought was a very good friend of mine, but I know I can't do anything about it. All I can really say is that I went to her house, we got high (and that's why I can't speak up) and then she told me I can either have sex with her or get the fuck out. Wouldn't have been a problem, but she was paying for the gas money for me to get home. So I had to comply. And now, this is the first time I've spoken up about it.

It makes me feel good to know you guys on this site are so supportive.

Disgusting. What are the rules for ejection from a thread in NSG?

There basically aren't any. You can get a strong suggestion from the mods to stay off a topic if you can't behave on it.

[The Steel Magnolia]

While female on male rape is rarer, it is every bit as destructive. My condolences that you ended up having to go through this horrendous experience.

Yeah, I really don't think what she did to him was anywhere near as destructive as what he could have done to her. What he is describing isn't even really rape, it's more along the lines of blackmail. He claims he didnt have a choice, but there was always another way home. He just chose the easiest way to get home.

For fuck's sake.

I'm really sorry you need to deal with this shit on top of everything else, Condunum.

[Individuality-ness]

I heard a conversation that pissed me off so much today. While I was at a restaurant today there was a group sitting behind me. One of the people asked another person in the group if there were any funny rape stories from his job. I swear I almost wanted to yell at them. The person, who is apparently a lawyer, started talking about this case where he was the lawyer of the defendant.I couldn't hear the actual story, but this just really pissed me off.

Wow...