Sex!

[JuNii]

In theory, yes. Some people are better teachers than others. But when virginity is considered to be the ideal state for marriage, then advocating one be a virgin while the other isn't smacks of hypocrisy.

ah. I've never stated that Virginity is an "ideal state for marriage". I've only stated that *I* choose to be a virgin.

Well, then we come back to my OP where I point out that we're obsessed with sex. Even virgins know that sex is supposed to be this amazing, mystical event where the heavens open, doves circle about the bed and cherubs sing...well...angelically. So the first-time fumbling between two virgins is going to fall far short, and it's going to take a long time to overcome that, particularly if they're not good at communicating with each other in the first place. So they know something is wrong, they just won't know what and sooner or later they're going to wonder if it's the person they're with.

communication is important... and not just for Virgins.

A valid point. But virginity can be an added complication, as described above.

So can being the "playa" who sleeps with a different person once a week...

or whatever the frequency is for bed hoppers.

[Kyronea]

I don't think anyone can argue against the statement that humans are obsessed with sex. We're obsessed with having it, fantasizing about it or worrying about who is doing what to whom. It permeates our conversations, our politics, our literature and especially our advertising. So, as I'm sure has been done so many times before, let's get NSG's take on it: where do you stand on sex?

I am an unabashed hedonist. I see no point in repressing sex for religion or morality's sake, but I recognize the need for caution in sex regarding hygenic and emotional pitfalls. I don't see the point in telling two, three or fifty consenting adults who they can or can't have sex with, or how they can engage in it. I think it's a physical, emotional and mental union that can be as frivolous as a cheap thrill and as meaningful as a lasting relationship. I don't think sex can be restricted to any one thing, but can encompass whatever meaning we choose to assign to it.

I am as sex-positive as you can get. I'm also bisexual, and into a variety of kinks. (Many of which I still haven't tried, but I've liked the ones I've tried so far, so that makes me eager to try others when I get the chance.)

Yet at that same time, I try to avoid casual sex, because I like to attach emotional meaning to sex. And of course, I do not cheat: once in a relationship, unless my partner says it's okay to do otherwise, the only one who I'd have sex with is them.

But those are my morals I apply to myself. What other people choose to do is their business.

[KaIashnikov]

You know MARPAT, the Marine Corps camouflage is suppose to play with the eye so people don't see you. Trouble is when I wear it while on liberty everyone sees me! Girls love it, every night on the town I have to swat the bitches away with a cane!

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[Treznor]

I wouldn't ask if I wasn't interested. You are more than just a walking life-support system for a vagina.

Of course, sometimes I am a sitting life-support system for a vagina! Sometimes, I even even a Sleeping Life-Support System For a Vagina, (SLSSFV^tm), or a Running Life-Support System For a Vagina (RLSSFV^tm). Some people have even claimed that I have the capability to turn into one of the rare and exceptional Thinking Life-Support System For a Vagina (TLSSFV^tm).

None of which has any bearing on what you want for yourself and your vagina. No fair dodging the question. What do you like? What do you expect in others, or are you content for them to decide for themselves?

And so far, butt plugs scare the shit out of me.

I see what you did there.

Sorry?

*sits & waits for Czardas' explanation*

I think I'll let Treznor field this one, actually. :3

I shouldn't, but since you asked nicely.

Aelosia, love, butt plugs block the orifice where shit comes from. So while they're in use, you literally can't have the shit scared out of you, because it's...plugged. Yes, the vagaries of the English language just got used against you, which isn't fair because you're not a native English speaker.

[Flameswroth]

Yes, please.

I don't know what it's like.

Myrth.

[Melkor Unchained]

All I know is that whenever I eat something that tastes really good, or watch a kickass movie (anything that's awesome, in general) I will sometimes remark "It's like sex, but I'm having it!"

There's something about me that women do not respond well to. I get along with them fine, I can flirt and all that fun stuff, but pretty much the instant it gets beyond that they seize up and attempt to extract themselves from the situation as soon as they physically can. I remember back in High School I occasionally got all emo like "Christ, what the hell is my problem" and I had a couple friends of mine be all "aww you're a great guy, you'll find someone" etc., but that tune changed pretty quick if I ever expressed an interest in them personally. I get the "lets be friends" thing a lot, and just last month I got stood up witch always feels great. Whenever a friend tries to hook me up, they want the friend.

I'm not a virgin, but it's been long enough that I might as well be again. I'm walking, talking proof that women are actually (try to contain your shock!) telling the truth when they say that looks aren't everything. I'm not a bad looking guy, but that doesn't seem to help at all. I basically stopped trying 4 or 5 years ago.

[The Norse Hordes]

I voted for Rigorous Boundaries.


Sex only after Marriage imo.

It must suck to be so boring.

[The Norse Hordes]

All I know is that whenever I eat something that tastes really good, or watch a kickass movie (anything that's awesome, in general) I will sometimes remark "It's like sex, but I'm having it!"

There's something about me that women do not respond to. I get along with them fine, I can flirt and all that fun stuff, but pretty much the instant it gets beyond that they seize up and attempt to extract themselves from the situation as soon as they physically can. I remember back in High School I occasionally got all emo like "Christ, what the hell is my problem" and I had a couple friends of mine be all "aww you're a great guy, you'll find someone" etc., but that tune changed pretty quick if I ever expressed an interest in them personally. I get the "lets be friends" thing a lot, and just last month I got stood up witch always feels great. Whenever a friend tries to hook me up, they want the friend.

I'm not a virgin, but it's been long enough that I might as well be again. I'm walking, talking proof that women are actually (try to contain your shock!) telling the truth when they say that looks aren't everything. I'm not a bad looking guy, but that doesn't seem to help at all. I basically stopped trying 4 or 5 years ago.

Tell them about your Mod work on NSG. Women love power.

[Melkor Unchained]

I... somehow doubt that would work.

[The Norse Hordes]

I... somehow doubt that would work.

"Is that a banhammer in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?"

[Timesjoke]

Monogamy is unnatural because of sexual urges. As long as we are attracted to multiple people, it will be unnatural for us to limit ourselves to only one. Lust is there so we can act on it. It is a divine gift, which many people waste.

Divine?

From a religious view, sex was a way of our immortal souls to 'connect' and communicate. The sexual act helps us to bind to each other on a level beyond our conscious minds and get past the little day-to-day irritations that derail the average relationship. When we sleep around, we confuse our souls and lose the ability to make that spiriual connection. Sex becomes similar to a bowel movement, any tiolet will do for relief.


By the way, feeling Jealous is also "natural" and part of our being so if humans are "supposed" to be having sex with anyone they can, why do we have the ability to feel Jealous? As someone else pointed out, we get all sorts of feelings and urges that are not good for us, if we lived our lives governed by our urges, now that would be one wild and violent society to be sure.

[Jello Biafra]

I'm not a bad looking guy,

This is true. He's posted pics.

[Lunatic Goofballs]

I intend to have lots of sex as often as possible. Other people are invited to participate, but are not necessarily required to.

[Myrth]

All I know is that whenever I eat something that tastes really good, or watch a kickass movie (anything that's awesome, in general) I will sometimes remark "It's like sex, but I'm having it!"

There's something about me that women do not respond well to. I get along with them fine, I can flirt and all that fun stuff, but pretty much the instant it gets beyond that they seize up and attempt to extract themselves from the situation as soon as they physically can. I remember back in High School I occasionally got all emo like "Christ, what the hell is my problem" and I had a couple friends of mine be all "aww you're a great guy, you'll find someone" etc., but that tune changed pretty quick if I ever expressed an interest in them personally. I get the "lets be friends" thing a lot, and just last month I got stood up witch always feels great. Whenever a friend tries to hook me up, they want the friend.

I'm not a virgin, but it's been long enough that I might as well be again. I'm walking, talking proof that women are actually (try to contain your shock!) telling the truth when they say that looks aren't everything. I'm not a bad looking guy, but that doesn't seem to help at all. I basically stopped trying 4 or 5 years ago.

Women are strange creatures. I can get more by acting like an arrogant dick (essentially the way I acted when I was a mod) than when I actually make an effort to be nice. But on the flipside, the women you'll get that way tend to be ones you wouldn't want to have any form of relationship with.

I... somehow doubt that would work.

Actually, you'd be surprised. I had at least one NSer take her fawning to the next level, as it were |:

[Treznor]

Monogamy is unnatural because of sexual urges. As long as we are attracted to multiple people, it will be unnatural for us to limit ourselves to only one. Lust is there so we can act on it. It is a divine gift, which many people waste.

Divine?

Erf. Did we have to go there?

From a religious view, sex was a way of our immortal souls to 'connect' and communicate. The sexual act helps us to bind to each other on a level beyond our conscious minds and get past the little day-to-day irritations that derail the average relationship. When we sleep around, we confuse our souls and lose the ability to make that spiriual connection. Sex becomes similar to a bowel movement, any tiolet will do for relief.

I guess we did.

Well, shall I point out that sex is considered a sacred act in many religions, so sacred that there were sacred prostitutes to deliver the gift of the gods/goddesses to anyone offering donations? Fertility rights often involved promiscuity in a variety of ancient religions wherein people coupled with whomever they chose regardless of marital status (this could vary, of course). Many societies considered a child out of wedlock to be a blessing from the gods, since it demonstrated the woman was favored enough to be fertile and less of a risk once the marriage was performed.

So no, confusing souls through promiscuity isn't a consistent religious value. It's only a Judeo-Christian bias.

By the way, feeling Jealous is also "natural" and part of our being so if humans are "supposed" to be having sex with anyone they can, why do we have the ability to feel Jealous? As someone else pointed out, we get all sorts of feelings and urges that are not good for us, if we lived our lives governed by our urges, now that would be one wild and violent society to be sure.

Jealousy is a reaction to someone threatening your possession, or something you want as your possession. As a natural instinct, it leaves a great deal to be desired on an interpersonal level. You're essentially treating a fellow human being as a possession instead of a person with the autonomous right to self-determination.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

I don't know whether I should be happy or concerned to be third place in this poll.

Concerned if you've posted pictures of yourself on the forum, happy if you haven't. *nod*

As far as I'm aware, only the mods who were active when I was a GM have seen pictures of me.

I has seen a myth.

It's 'Myrth'.

I know, but to me, you're a myth of NSG.

[Aelosia]

None of which has any bearing on what you want for yourself and your vagina. No fair dodging the question. What do you like? What do you expect in others, or are you content for them to decide for themselves?

Point taken, I was matrixdodging.

I do like sex, however, I lacked a strong female figure in most of my life, so I was oriented by boys, like boys, and FOR boys. Surprisingly enough, or not that much, I tend to run a lot from commitment, sometimes even before anything has happened.

What do I am willing to give? More than usual, sex without complications, sex without attachments or bitching. However, as the boy I was supposed to be, if you touch the right spring, I will be all over you and become obsessed, (which is NOT a good thing). What do I want people to give?, What do I expect? Enjoyment without too much involvement, but then again, I hope that someone I am with touch that fabled spring and makes me fall in love with total, complete and sick involvement. As you might guess, said spring is hidden enough as to not be touched by anyone. (Yeah, it is complex, and frankly nobody understands it no matter how I explain it).

PLUS, my reputation is social circles, given my relatively prodigal use of casual sex, have been "tarnished" a little, so I am already keeping things under control, and outside of things like "work". Yeah, and I know that usually I shouldn't care about things like what others think about me, but even then, peer pressure is influential on how good you develop in other areas than sex, and as I am interested in development in said areas, I am rather closing some doors in that respect. I have lost enough friends, (and complete friends circles, for that matter), because of my irresponsible use of offerings or direct actions regarding sex. Sadly, I have to sum NS to that list.

Regarding on how I feel, gladly, I feel better when giving out pleasure than in the receiving end, so I am more of a giver than of a taker. I feel better when I think I am giving the person I am with the time of their lives, so I make each and every effort towards that end, (although I have limits, of course). Regarding what I expect them to give me, intention and enthusiasm is usually enough, even if tecnique, or skill is not good enough.

I shouldn't, but since you asked nicely.

Aelosia, love, butt plugs block the orifice where shit comes from. So while they're in use, you literally can't have the shit scared out of you, because it's...plugged. Yes, the vagaries of the English language just got used against you, which isn't fair because you're not a native English speaker.

Now I am understand, and I am midly nauseated. I was using the idiom without thinkng about possible puns. It won't happen again.

All I know is that whenever I eat something that tastes really good, or watch a kickass movie (anything that's awesome, in general) I will sometimes remark "It's like sex, but I'm having it!"

There's something about me that women do not respond well to. I get along with them fine, I can flirt and all that fun stuff, but pretty much the instant it gets beyond that they seize up and attempt to extract themselves from the situation as soon as they physically can. I remember back in High School I occasionally got all emo like "Christ, what the hell is my problem" and I had a couple friends of mine be all "aww you're a great guy, you'll find someone" etc., but that tune changed pretty quick if I ever expressed an interest in them personally. I get the "lets be friends" thing a lot, and just last month I got stood up witch always feels great. Whenever a friend tries to hook me up, they want the friend.

I'm not a virgin, but it's been long enough that I might as well be again. I'm walking, talking proof that women are actually (try to contain your shock!) telling the truth when they say that looks aren't everything. I'm not a bad looking guy, but that doesn't seem to help at all. I basically stopped trying 4 or 5 years ago.

There is nothing wrong with you. As you said yourself, you are handsome, relatively fun and quite smart. What I think it is wrong with you, is that you are not trying hard enough, and you are trying towards the wrong people. (Yes, wrong people, me included).

I'm sorry, I am a coward. As you can read on the above part of this post, it was, and it is, truly my fault. I am sorry for what I did, and for what I should had done, and for what I had to do that I didn't do. I know this is a rather simple, ridiculous, perhaps for you hypocrite apology, but I can't really have anything else to say.

[Jello Biafra]

Now I am understand, and I am midly nauseated. I was using the idiom without thinkng about possible puns. It won't happen again.

But it's funnier with the puns.

[Treznor]

None of which has any bearing on what you want for yourself and your vagina. No fair dodging the question. What do you like? What do you expect in others, or are you content for them to decide for themselves?

Point taken, I was matrixdodging.

I do like sex, however, I lacked a strong female figure in most of my life, so I was oriented by boys, like boys, and FOR boys. Surprisingly enough, or not that much, I tend to run a lot from commitment, sometimes even before anything has happened.

What do I am willing to give? More than usual, sex without complications, sex without attachments or bitching. However, as the boy I was supposed to be, if you touch the right spring, I will be all over you and become obsessed, (which is NOT a good thing). What do I want people to give?, What do I expect? Enjoyment without too much involvement, but then again, I hope that someone I am with touch that fabled spring and makes me fall in love with total, complete and sick involvement. As you might guess, said spring is hidden enough as to not be touched by anyone. (Yeah, it is complex, and frankly nobody understands it no matter how I explain it).

PLUS, my reputation is social circles, given my relatively prodigal use of casual sex, have been "tarnished" a little, so I am already keeping things under control, and outside of things like "work". Yeah, and I know that usually I shouldn't care about things like what others think about me, but even then, peer pressure is influential on how good you develop in other areas than sex, and as I am interested in development in said areas, I am rather closing some doors in that respect. I have lost enough friends, (and complete friends circles, for that matter), because of my irresponsible use of offerings or direct actions regarding sex. Sadly, I have to sum NS to that list.

Regarding on how I feel, gladly, I feel better when giving out pleasure than in the receiving end, so I am more of a giver than of a taker. I feel better when I think I am giving the person I am with the time of their lives, so I make each and every effort towards that end, (although I have limits, of course). Regarding what I expect them to give me, intention and enthusiasm is usually enough, even if tecnique, or skill is not good enough.

Well, that was pretty comprehensive. Thank you.

I'm sorry to see that your sexual experiences haven't been as rewarding as they should have been (in my opinion, anyway). No, I'm not going to engage in a pep talk to encourage you to go full steam ahead and damn the torpedos, nor am I going to scold you for immorality, promiscuity or what have you (plus, I'd be a total hypocrite if I did). All I can offer is my sympathy for things not working out the way they ought to, and encouragement for whatever you choose to do.

And, of course, if there's any way I can be of assistance, you always know where to find me.

I shouldn't, but since you asked nicely.

Aelosia, love, butt plugs block the orifice where shit comes from. So while they're in use, you literally can't have the shit scared out of you, because it's...plugged. Yes, the vagaries of the English language just got used against you, which isn't fair because you're not a native English speaker.

Now I am understand, and I am midly nauseated. I was using the idiom without thinkng about possible puns. It won't happen again.

I'm sorry that you were nauseated, it was not my intention. But you know how we are about puns and connotations: anything you say can and will be used against you.

[Rhodmhire]

I voted for Rigorous Boundaries.


Sex only after Marriage imo.

I can only begin to wonder why.

Nah, I love you.

[Baltija]

I voted for Rigorous Boundaries.


Sex only after Marriage imo.

This.

[The Norse Hordes]

I voted for Rigorous Boundaries.


Sex only after Marriage imo.

This.

Your loss buddy. More chicks and fun for the rest of us.

[Buffett and Colbert]

I really can't put it better than Trezzy did.