Jello Biafra wrote:Treznor wrote:Isn't one of the biggest reasons for infidelity the fact that you either aren't getting any at home, or what you are getting isn't what you want? Either way: sex.
My understanding is that it usually is a reflection on the relationship itself and not especially the sexual aspect of the relationship.
For instance, if someone in a relationship becomes emotionally distant, their partner might seek that emotional connection in somebody else. Emotional connections for some people are enhanced by sex.
Very true. Bad sex between a couple is usually a symptom for other problems, and those problems often boil down to problems with communication. People who know how to talk to each other tend not to have intimacy problems, and consequently have no trouble communicating and reciprocating sexual desires with each other.
Virgin couples can surmount these problems by being good communicators, but when I picture a couple of virgins fumbling with each other's bodies on their first night of marriage together, I don't often envision them talking each other through it. This is probably one of those stereotypes that needs to die, but given statistics regarding sexual infidelity in the western world, I think there may be a kernel of truth to it. People place such value on "saving themselves for marriage" for whatever reason that they're often afraid to talk about it for fear of offending/disappointing/disgusting their potential partners. Which then leads to more communication problems, dissatisfaction with performance in the marital bed and back where I originally started regarding sex being one of the major reasons cited for divorce.
What you say is true, but I don't believe it invalidates my point.
