Detachment from Reality

[The Ethereal Crescent]

I completely shut it out of my mind, and then my therapist gets mad.

[Vetalia]

How did you know about CWCville?

Because I am a TRUE AND HONEST fan of Christian Weston Chandler.

[Wilgrove]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

Congrats, you're on your way to developing Dissociative identity disorder, or better known as Split Personality Disorder.

All you need now is a Host Identity, and a Protector Identity.

Have fun!

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

People tend to deal with pain, with their problems, in different ways. Disassociating yourself from your problems isn't really the key. I don't find that healthy. One needs to tackle problems head on.

Of course, to step back and analyze how to proceed isn't bad, but to deal with these problems thinking you're just a spectator, that it isn't happening to you and ''Bob'' is the one dealing with them isn't good either.

I don't do this. I tend to withdraw and get irritated. Eventually, with much gritting of teeth and with a lot of anger, I come back and deal with what pisses me off.

[Aelosia]

I used to do it. Then, eventually as Nana said, you have to face it.

I have been in a pair of serious situations of direct life peril that changed my view. If you see it (the situation), and yourself as an spectator, you remove yourself from the frontline of the problem. I am now too emotionally committed usually as to face situations in that way.

[Nanatsu no Tsuki]

I used to do it. Then, eventually as Nana said, you have to face it.

I have been in a pair of serious situations of direct life peril that changed my view. If you see it (the situation), and yourself as an spectator, you remove yourself from the frontline of the problem. I am now too emotionally committed usually as to face situations in that way.

Indeed. And by doing that, you may very well put your life in peril, or compromise your decisions in such a way as to cause more grief than the original situation does.

[Minnas]

OP, you have serious problems. Asking NSG isn't wise, at all. Get professional help.

[Galloism]

OP, you have serious problems. Asking NSG isn't wise, at all. Get professional help.

I ask NSG everything.

[Minnas]

OP, you have serious problems. Asking NSG isn't wise, at all. Get professional help.

I ask NSG everything.

Then if you ask me what I think, you're losing your grip on reality. Get help.

[Galloism]

OP, you have serious problems. Asking NSG isn't wise, at all. Get professional help.

I ask NSG everything.

Then if you ask me what I think, you're losing your grip on reality. Get help.

Reality is for people who can't handle drugs.

[Minnas]

OP, you have serious problems. Asking NSG isn't wise, at all. Get professional help.

I ask NSG everything.

Then if you ask me what I think, you're losing your grip on reality. Get help.

Reality is for people who can't handle drugs.

Need I remind you of the title of your thread?

[Galloism]

Need I remind you of the title of your thread?

Not really. I'm just a little confused why taking a step back from the situation and viewing it from a relatively objective perspective before proceeding is, in of itself, a need to "get help" so desperately as you seem to assert.

[Minnas]

Need I remind you of the title of your thread?

Not really. I'm just a little confused why taking a step back from the situation and viewing it from a relatively objective perspective before proceeding is, in of itself, a need to "get help" so desperately as you seem to assert.

That's what it seems, to me.

[Galloism]

Need I remind you of the title of your thread?

Not really. I'm just a little confused why taking a step back from the situation and viewing it from a relatively objective perspective before proceeding is, in of itself, a need to "get help" so desperately as you seem to assert.

That's what it seems, to me. And like Wilgrove already posted, you are indeed a Disassociative Personality Disorder sufferer.

No I'm not. A person with Dissociative Identity Disorder has multiple personas that generally have different names and operating characteristics as well as a total lack of ability to remember each others' actions. I have no such thing.

[Minnas]

Need I remind you of the title of your thread?

Not really. I'm just a little confused why taking a step back from the situation and viewing it from a relatively objective perspective before proceeding is, in of itself, a need to "get help" so desperately as you seem to assert.

That's what it seems, to me. And like Wilgrove already posted, you are indeed a Disassociative Personality Disorder sufferer.

No I'm not. A person with Dissociative Identity Disorder has multiple personas that generally have different names and operating characteristics as well as a total lack of ability to remember each others' actions. I have no such thing.

Whatever. Do get professional help.

[Bewilder]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

This is exactly how I deal with things - when the situation has been dealt with in a practical sense, I can take time to try to address it emotionally (not that I always do so) but when things have to be done, decisions made etc, some other "competent" persona does it. Works for me, so I don't worry about it

[Bewilder]

I have many different personalities. They aren't completely separate from each other, so I don't think that you could really call me a schizophrenic. It's unusual. My different personalities respond to different things.

Schizophrenia is not about multiple or split personalities.

[Big Jim P]

What is this "reality" everyone is talking about?

[Lucky Bicycle Works]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

That's a self-interested (and thus, in some sense rational) determination not to make a bad situation worse. You don't know what to do, because your current paradigm doesn't fit the new information ... so quite rightly you reserve judgement.

Whether you take the next step which I would, and get your mate drunk to try to forget that the bad thing ever happened ... depends on whether you really believe that getting drunk makes the problem go away.

I do. Problem goes away, then everyone gets a good night's sleep, then if you've done the drunken revel thing right, problem is forgotten until next getting-drunk time!

I admit, my moral authority is miniscule on this. I'm a rioting mass of problems, with barely enough booze to go 'round.

[Wilgrove]

Me, I just get angry, then drunk, and tomorrow the hang over forces me to forget it.

[Lucky Bicycle Works]

Me, I just get angry, then drunk, and tomorrow the hang over forces me to forget it.

It's not the best way to cope. It's a Cycle, and a short-term one too.

But yeah, it does work. You can be two people: one, who knows the problem but is excused from doing anything about it 'cos they're drunk; and another, who is distantly aware of a problem but doesn't take it seriously because it is only really a problem when they're drunk.

Cycles are good. Parallax. Alcohol is a dumb way to "get some perspective" but it's better than never getting outside yourself at all.

[Dyakovo]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

Darth Elmo, even if other people do it, you're a complete and total nutcase...

To actually answer the question, no I don't do it.

[Charlotte Ryberg]

So I had a conversation today (as most of my threads start), and I came to the shocking revelation that when I hit something that I simply can't deal with, I remove it from what I perceive as "reality" into a hypothetical offshoot of my current existence. Now, I'll explain.

When something happens that is so horrifically bad that I simply cannot deal with it now, I detach it from myself and treat it as a hypothetical situation mentally. I say "now, if X happened to my friend Bob, how would I tell him to proceed?" I then advise myself in such a way, and do so. I then deal with it as if I am Bob, so to speak, and go through the motions of what I would have advised Bob to do.

Upon reflection, I am half a step from creating a secondary personality to deal with the shit I can't really deal with.

Ok, does anybody else do this, or am I a complete and total nutcase?

Don't worry, you're not the only one who advises yourself. I sometimes do too, from past experiences, in my mind. Therefore, it is a way of thinking.

[Desperate Measures]

Eh, you're fine.

Mother! Stop scratching at my leg! Just let me finish. Let me finish writing my post. I'll get you your tender vittles. Yes, the sky is red with the blood of our enemies. Shhh. They can hear you.

[Czardas]

People tend to deal with pain, with their problems, in different ways. Disassociating yourself from your problems isn't really the key. I don't find that healthy. One needs to tackle problems head on.

Of course, to step back and analyze how to proceed isn't bad, but to deal with these problems thinking you're just a spectator, that it isn't happening to you and ''Bob'' is the one dealing with them isn't good either.

Why?