Now, with an offer like that, I'll be on the next flight
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by Saint Jade IV » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:00 pm
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by The Blaatschapen » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:06 pm
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:10 pm
Metanih wrote:Well, since we are speaking of men specifically, I can say that the number 3 on his list doesn't apply to me. I don't treat men like objects, because I don't date them. I don't lower my standards, I just look for someone nice, who is kind to me. Ruthless, the word he used, implies intent, which I know I have not done, nor witnessed in my relationships.
by Trollgaard » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:11 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Metanih wrote:Well, since we are speaking of men specifically, I can say that the number 3 on his list doesn't apply to me. I don't treat men like objects, because I don't date them. I don't lower my standards, I just look for someone nice, who is kind to me. Ruthless, the word he used, implies intent, which I know I have not done, nor witnessed in my relationships.
But can you be sure that you don't unconsciously treat women like objects? How can you be certain that you're absolutely free from such objectification?
by The Plutonian Empire » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:17 pm
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by Mike the Progressive » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:22 pm
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by Arkinesia » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:24 pm
Conserative Morality wrote:I've always assumed something about mutual social circles. I'm not particularly interested in the field, personally, but I find it fascinating.
Disappointment Panda wrote:Don't hope for a life without problems. There's no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.
by Metanih » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:31 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Metanih wrote:Well, since we are speaking of men specifically, I can say that the number 3 on his list doesn't apply to me. I don't treat men like objects, because I don't date them. I don't lower my standards, I just look for someone nice, who is kind to me. Ruthless, the word he used, implies intent, which I know I have not done, nor witnessed in my relationships.
But can you be sure that you don't unconsciously treat women like objects? How can you be certain that you're absolutely free from such objectification?
by Arkinesia » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:37 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Metanih wrote:Well, since we are speaking of men specifically, I can say that the number 3 on his list doesn't apply to me. I don't treat men like objects, because I don't date them. I don't lower my standards, I just look for someone nice, who is kind to me. Ruthless, the word he used, implies intent, which I know I have not done, nor witnessed in my relationships.
But can you be sure that you don't unconsciously treat women like objects? How can you be certain that you're absolutely free from such objectification?
Disappointment Panda wrote:Don't hope for a life without problems. There's no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems.
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:37 pm
Metanih wrote:Well, since I am female, it becomes rather odd to treat women as objects.
by Nornalhorst » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:45 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:Metanih wrote:Well, since we are speaking of men specifically, I can say that the number 3 on his list doesn't apply to me. I don't treat men like objects, because I don't date them. I don't lower my standards, I just look for someone nice, who is kind to me. Ruthless, the word he used, implies intent, which I know I have not done, nor witnessed in my relationships.
But can you be sure that you don't unconsciously treat women like objects? How can you be certain that you're absolutely free from such objectification?
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:47 pm
by Metanih » Tue Jan 10, 2012 10:59 pm
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:00 pm
Metanih wrote:I believe that everyone manipulates everyone in some way, even unconsciously.
by Metanih » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:03 pm
by Nornalhorst » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:04 pm
by Nornalhorst » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:08 pm
by Metanih » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:10 pm
Nornalhorst wrote:Anyway so what is the best course of action when it comes to approaching a woman?
I heard of just asking out and flirting with every girl I see and hopefully someone will want to be with me, and I heard the exact opposite as well don't try to get in any relationship just keep doing what I do and maybe one of these years someone will come along.
by The Blaatschapen » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:13 pm
Nornalhorst wrote:Anyway so what is the best course of action when it comes to approaching a woman?
I heard of just asking out and flirting with every girl I see and hopefully someone will want to be with me, and I heard the exact opposite as well don't try to get in any relationship just keep doing what I do and maybe one of these years someone will come along.
by Four-sided Triangles » Tue Jan 10, 2012 11:19 pm
Nornalhorst wrote:Did you know every step you take could potentially be your last? So should we stop walking to minimize the potential for death?
by Cannot think of a name » Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:00 am
Nornalhorst wrote:Anyway so what is the best course of action when it comes to approaching a woman?
I heard of just asking out and flirting with every girl I see and hopefully someone will want to be with me, and I heard the exact opposite as well don't try to get in any relationship just keep doing what I do and maybe one of these years someone will come along.
by Four-sided Triangles » Wed Jan 11, 2012 12:03 am
Cannot think of a name wrote:Have you ever gone fishing? When you first start you're all there...staring at the water thinking 'c'mon c'mon c'mon' and then, the line jerks and you yank the hell out of the rod (Hur!) and come up empty...the longer you have to wait between nibbles the worse you blow it with your exaggerated enthusiasm and you go home fishless thinking that fishing is stupid.
Well, fishing may or may not be stupid, but what I'm getting at here is the over emphasis on the hooking of the fish and ignoring the rest of the process. This is why dudes end up bitching about 'the friend zone' as if being friends with women is some kind of cruel punishment. You're living and dying by every encounter with everything with boobs in your rough age range.
This is why people say 'stop looking,' because you're running around the forest yelling "HERE DEER! HERE DEER! HERE DEER!" and scaring off all the deer. That's right, I switched similes. Whatcha gonna do about it?
Think about it this way...without any bravado, some chick just comes out of nowhere and not only decides within fifteen minutes of meeting you that you're the savior of her soul but not only that, but really anyone who would talk to her for more than 14 minutes would do. You would be a little creeped out by her and certainly not all that flattered.
So the advice would be:
Relax. Spazzes make people nervous.
Start at the beginning. You're not proposing, you're looking for someone to be with. It's a long process that starts with "Can I stand to be in the same room as this person longer than a few minutes" and progresses through "you know who'd be awesome to do this totally fun thing with?" to eventually for some "I want to make babies with this person." If you jump to the end, it's creepy.
Adjust your goals. What you're really doing is meeting people. Finding someone to [romantic goal] with is just leveling up. If you look at it like selecting a mate it becomes too much like buying a car that can reject you.
Take shit in stride. You are being rejected by a single person, not an entire gender. Different people are into different things. You don't want to date every person you meet, they're not really any different.
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