Dating and Attraction

[Novograd IV]

Playing Dwarf Fortress will teach you that once a tantrum spiral starts, you'd better evacuate everything in a 1 mile radius

but yes, it's an extreme example, but even toned down, you can see there are negative consequences, and if it happens to not be the right person for him? not too fun to deal with the situation.

It's not life threatening. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. If you're basing a relationship with someone you actually care about around sex, you're doing it wrong. Besides, losing is fun! In bed.

Just make sure that the hubby's coffin isn't any better decorated than hers. otherwise she complains about how the lessers have such opulent burial arrangements... actually, even if she has a platinum coffin with masterwork sapphires she still does it... but still...

ANYWAY >.>
I understand what you're saying, but if things ever turn sour (call me a pessimist) then it's ammunition everywhar! and ammunition is something I like to keep away from others (especially seeing as marksdwarves are majorly underpowered, yet goblin archers are majorly overpowered)

[Alaje]

I "dated" a girl in 5th grade but it was more of just lets sit together during reading time lol. And once sixth grade had stared every girl who asked me out I rejected and every girl who I asked out rejected me. So a little advice, don't be too picky.

^ I'm guilty of this too, my expectations are rather high and my social akwardness doesn't help.

[Arumdaum]

just be yourself.

This does NOT work, my ex proves that........

It worked perfectly fine for me.

Umm... be funny I guess. Be a fun guy. Everyone likes fun and funny people.

[1000 Cats]

No, I'm pretty sure you just like cars and girls who like cars. Sweeping general statements are not the way to go in any case.

I do have a Fiance and exp with girls lol cars rep taste and same taste = Win

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

[New England and The Maritimes]

I "dated" a girl in 5th grade but it was more of just lets sit together during reading time lol. And once sixth grade had stared every girl who asked me out I rejected and every girl who I asked out rejected me. So a little advice, don't be too picky.

^ I'm guilty of this too, my expectations are rather high and my social akwardness doesn't help.

Don't bother with standards or whatever. If you like someone, you like them. If someone talks to you, talk back, and say whatever you want. If it's going to work out, it's going to work out. If you decide to get married you'll generally have to, you know, live together, so hiding things or pretending isn't actually helping.

[Esternial]

Or just get drunk and take it.

No.

I was hoping someone else would answer that.

You reaffirmed my faith in humanity ^^

[Chevrolet Corvette]

I do have a Fiance and exp with girls lol cars rep taste and same taste = Win

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

I have a girl xD and getting married this summer too

[Isolated China]

I'm going to try make this as least bloggy as possible but I'm a pretty shy guy, nerdy, not very charismatic, with no understanding of women or really any social skill (I also find it extremely difficult to read body language and social cues so flirting is an alien concept), and zero sexual or relationship experience (well I've managed to go on a couple of "dates" before but they were total failures as the girls were just playing me the entire time, one date the girl tried her best to make it hell, and one other date no one even showed up) of any sort so I was wondering how exactly does someone get a girlfriend?

What makes some people unable to get a "mate" and others highly successful?

Also I was wondering how does someone go about dating and "asking someone out".

What were your dating experiences like?

I'll probably think of more questions as the thread progresses.

1.
It usually depends on how you look. Most girls look for the hottest guy, which gets you a lot of dates, but then it'll start coming down to personality long term. Basically, if you have a great personality, you'll end up with more long-lasting relationships. But for girls mostly, looking pretty cool does earn some points.

2. I have no experience in that region. Mostly, either I stay single or a girl asks me out (Which has only happned twice. What I know is from my sister and friends I talk to)

3.
I've never been on a date. So again, I have no experience.
Anywho, just follow what others have said: Be yourself.
/China-manattemptingtogivedatingadvice

[Buffett and Colbert]

I've always assumed something about mutual social circles. I'm not particularly interested in the field, personally, but I find it fascinating.

You should conduct some field research if your that fascinated.

[Esternial]

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

I have a girl xD and getting married this summer too

Now, why do I find that hard to believe?

Apologies if it's true, cheers mate. Enjoy yer wedding.

[Israslovakahzerbajan]

My first official GF was the school slut.

However I never saw her in such a negative way. If guys have a socially-based morality freecard to act loosley with lots of girls, who's to say girls don't have a freecard to do the opposite? It's only fair.

Well quite..

..but I didn't really mean 'go for the slutty one', more that part of who we choose to chase is predicated by our own concerns about self-image, that choice reflects on you and, too often, it's based on looks over anything else.

I went for her because we lended eachother DVDs...other than that, I would have honestly ignored her and her well-endowed figure. I found our breif social pairing to be acceptable despite peer's disapproval because said peers would comletly ignore her behavior if a man did it.

[Chevrolet Corvette]

I have a girl xD and getting married this summer too

Now, why do I find that hard to believe?

Apologies if it's true, cheers mate. Enjoy yer wedding.

Aye i don't care if anyone believes me

[Alyakia]

What makes some people unable to get a "mate" and others highly successful?

so yeah

clicked on this thread

saw people talking about fucking dwarf fortress

yeah

i don't think this question need any magical insight to get answered

[Conserative Morality]

You should conduct some field research if your that fascinated.

Nah, observation is the way to go. It reveals so much about everyone involved. It's a fascinating study of individual character.

[Ifreann]

I do have a Fiance and exp with girls lol cars rep taste and same taste = Win

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

PROTIP: Opening women up is a little more difficult than popping the bonnet of a car. Ribcages need hinges, evolution!

[Buffett and Colbert]

You should conduct some field research if your that fascinated.

Nah, observation is the way to go. It reveals so much about everyone involved. It's a fascinating study of individual character.

But observation is only the first step in the scientific process!

[Ceannairceach]

Okay, three steps;

1. Find someone you like and get to know them.
2. If you have something in common and feel attracted to them, ask said person out.
3. If they say yes, you're in.

My experiences have been lacking in any good qualities. My last fling(I refuse to call it a relationship) ended with my four-hour-haircut-made hair cut, my self worth damaged and my emotions ravaged. I am currently trying to void out my attraction to people for at least until summer, but sadly, I still maintain some crushes on people I feel are unobtainable.

[1000 Cats]

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

PROTIP: Opening women up is a little more difficult than popping the bonnet of a car. Ribcages need hinges, evolution!

They open more easily in different areas. Just need something to prop them open.

[Esternial]

Because experience with girls is just like experience with cars. Pop open the hood and they're all the same inside. You want a girl, son? I got some for you back here in the shed, ordered from best to worst for your convenience!

PROTIP: Opening women up is a little more difficult than popping the bonnet of a car. Ribcages need hinges, evolution!

Not if you're a surgeon.

[Israslovakahzerbajan]

You should conduct some field research if your that fascinated.

Nah, observation is the way to go. It reveals so much about everyone involved. It's a fascinating study of individual character.

The girl that sat in-front of me in my secondary school has OCD. She has a thing for neatly moving seats.

[Nicodelphia]

When people retract from the dating advise "be yourself," I'm usually lost at their inability to grasp what that means.

By being honest with yourself, you can walk into any situation knowing a) what you want/what you don't want and b) who you are/what you can do.

Talking to a woman isn't about creating a supernatural bond on the first go. You shouldn't dive into a situation expecting that something will come out of it. These things are created through routine.

Talk to a girl, any girl, don't overthink any of them because you'll psyche yourself out. Shyness is natural. Go with what you know and the rest develops like anything else.

[Unilisia]

Simple, losing your virginity does wonder for your self-esteem/confidence.

I know, but it also turned me into a sex maniac.

Fuck that.

Being a nymphomaniac has it's benefits

[New England and The Maritimes]

I know, but it also turned me into a sex maniac.

Fuck that.

Being a nymphomaniac has it's benefits

It's fun, but when you overdo it your penis explodes or you develop a rash.

[Conserative Morality]

But observation is only the first step in the scientific process!

Scientific process is for nerds.

I'm doing this old school style.

Alchimia verum est. Ita. Ita.

[Esternial]

I know, but it also turned me into a sex maniac.

Fuck that.

Being a nymphomaniac has it's benefits

My girlfriend got it from her mother