Girlfriends' dads

[Tsaraine]

That's patently ridiculous.

No, it isn't.

Let's not derail this into yet another discussion of your sexuality, 4ST. Please.

Additionally, a refutation really requires more to it than "Is not!" - though Trotskylvania's own refutation is no more clean in this regard than your refutation of his refutation. In future, please tell us why you disagree with a given statement, folks.

~ Tsar the Mod.

[The Black Forrest]

Because there are still some points of honor left to men?

After I proposed to my wife, I asked my father-in-law for permission to marry my wife. It is a point of honor, still held by some of us, surrounded by those, who far too often, have forgotten honor.

I hardly consider the continued observance of a reactionary tradition harkening to the days when a daughter was the property of her father to be in anyway "honorable".

She lives at home she is technically property. But that is beside the point.

The girl has basically given permission. It's a big thing to the father to see his "little girl" be married to somebody else. You hope you raised her right to pick to decent guy and the fact he still asks is honorable.

[Four-sided Triangles]

Let's not derail this into yet another discussion of your sexuality, 4ST. Please.

Additionally, a refutation really requires more to it than "Is not!" - though Trotskylvania's own refutation is no more clean in this regard than your refutation of his refutation. In future, please tell us why you disagree with a given statement, folks.

~ Tsar the Mod.

Mod edit: Enough, we are not going to do this.

[Unilisia]

It took my father 5 years to warm up to my hubby. At first he was like "oh noes my babeh gunnah get corrupted" and I was like "fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu teen rebellion" then it was all like "fuuuuuuuuuuuuuu I'm moving' out" and then he was like "fuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuck alright compromise" and now everything is alright.

I'm paraphrasing.

[Natapoc]

That was my first thought, too.

It shouldn't surprise you that there are Nazi women. SOMEONE has to give birth to the next generation of Aryan Übermenschen! I do love the idea of Nazi men having themselves surgically modified so they could become pregnant, but I don't think they would go for it... It wouldn't do to have Hitler pregnant at a public appearance! He has his image to think of.

What about the next generation of Aryan ÜberFrau? Only you can achieve Rush Limbaughs dream of a world filled with feminazis!

[The Black Forrest]

I never thought I would need to ask permission to date, marry now... I did ask my father-in-law, but I was also well aware that 1. there's a cultural difference to deal with, and 2. my father-in-law is also a bit old fashioned.

Sadly, I lack daughters right now. I wanted to get myself a nice katana to sit and polish when she brings home her first boyfriend to tilt it juuuuuuuuuust right to catch the light when welcoming the young man to our home and telling them to have a nice time, just mind the curfew.

My granddad used to clean his hunting rifles when the boys came around. Never looked at them; just asked when she would home......

[Unilisia]

I never thought I would need to ask permission to date, marry now... I did ask my father-in-law, but I was also well aware that 1. there's a cultural difference to deal with, and 2. my father-in-law is also a bit old fashioned.

Sadly, I lack daughters right now. I wanted to get myself a nice katana to sit and polish when she brings home her first boyfriend to tilt it juuuuuuuuuust right to catch the light when welcoming the young man to our home and telling them to have a nice time, just mind the curfew.

My granddad used to clean his hunting rifles when the boys came around. Never looked at them; just asked when she would home......

My father took out his wood ax and stared at my hubby o:

[Trotskylvania]

I hardly consider the continued observance of a reactionary tradition harkening to the days when a daughter was the property of her father to be in anyway "honorable".

She lives at home she is technically property. But that is beside the point.

The girl has basically given permission. It's a big thing to the father to see his "little girl" be married to somebody else. You hope you raised her right to pick to decent guy and the fact he still asks is honorable.

It is not his life to live. He has no right to participate in this decision without the daughter inviting his opinion. For the father to expect them to ask for his approval of his "little girl's" mate is to deny the personhood of his daughter.

[Nazi Flower Power]

It shouldn't surprise you that there are Nazi women. SOMEONE has to give birth to the next generation of Aryan Übermenschen! I do love the idea of Nazi men having themselves surgically modified so they could become pregnant, but I don't think they would go for it... It wouldn't do to have Hitler pregnant at a public appearance! He has his image to think of.

What about the next generation of Aryan ÜberFrau? Only you can achieve Rush Limbaughs dream of a world filled with feminazis!

Yes, of course. We wouldn't want to disappoint Rush Limbaugh!

[The Black Forrest]

She lives at home she is technically property. But that is beside the point.

The girl has basically given permission. It's a big thing to the father to see his "little girl" be married to somebody else. You hope you raised her right to pick to decent guy and the fact he still asks is honorable.

It is not his life to live. He has no right to participate in this decision without the daughter inviting his opinion. For the father to expect them to ask for his approval of his "little girl's" mate is to deny the personhood of his daughter.

*shrugs* That's your opinion.

It's different for everybody.

[Greed and Death]

Why do so many guys still think that it's up to a girl's father to decide if you are allowed to date her?

I've had a couple of different guys that were interested in me, but then got absurdly nervous about the possibility that my dad might not approve. None of them has ever been concerned that my mom might have a problem with them.

It's really not helpful to be so paranoid. If you're dating a girl and she's worried about what her dad thinks, then you have a reason to be concerned; but otherwise you're just making things more nerve-wracking than they need to be. If it seems like a guy is more concerned about my dad's opinion than mine, that causes problems in the relationship.

Ladies, do your dads chase away would-be boyfriends, or did they chase away would-be boyfriends when you were younger?

I asked the father but i never viewed it as actually asking, I always thought it was more of a courtesy thing. I ask him if i can date his daughter to let him know he might want to knock before going into his daughter's room if he gets off early from work.

Also, it is a guy thing we can tell and feel annoyed when another male presence has been our home. Once we know who the presence is and why they are it is less of an issue.

[Four-sided Triangles]

For the father to expect them to ask for his approval of his "little girl's" mate is to deny the personhood of his daughter.

Screw that! My perfect, cybernetically enhanced, genetically modified clone children are MY CREATIONS and therefore they belong to me.

[Korintar]

Well, as a guy, I think it is appropriate to be on good terms with one's lover's/lovers' parents. I hope that both my parents approve of any girl I date, as well as, the girl's parents approve of me. My ex sought the approval of my parents to date me, and I, of hers. From what I gather, her parents thought I was wonderful, but her mother would've quickly hated my guts the moment she found out her little girl was dating a socialist, and her father would've left the room for a beer- he would want to stay out of it... and my ex would've joined her dad!



Anyhow, my parents approved of her, but she was never comfortable around them. If you can't accept my parents and you can't accept my faith, then you, obviously, can't accept me!

[United Dependencies]

That was my first thought, too.

It shouldn't surprise you that there are Nazi women. SOMEONE has to give birth to the next generation of Aryan Übermenschen! I do love the idea of Nazi men having themselves surgically modified so they could become pregnant, but I don't think they would go for it... It wouldn't do to have Hitler pregnant at a public appearance! He has his image to think of.

Sorry. I just tend to assume.

[The UK in Exile]

My granddad used to clean his hunting rifles when the boys came around. Never looked at them; just asked when she would home......

My father took out his wood ax and stared at my hubby o:

ha! its funny because their implying that their going to murder someone!

[NERVUN]

MODS AT WORK

Seriously, it's getting annoying that this is the third time action has to be taken to stop this from being threadjack'ed into talking about 4ST's viewpoints regarding sexuality.

Let's not go there again because next time I'm not going to just split off posts, I'll start in on posters.

[Genivaria]

Why do so many guys still think that it's up to a girl's father to decide if you are allowed to date her?

I've had a couple of different guys that were interested in me, but then got absurdly nervous about the possibility that my dad might not approve. None of them has ever been concerned that my mom might have a problem with them.

It's really not helpful to be so paranoid. If you're dating a girl and she's worried about what her dad thinks, then you have a reason to be concerned; but otherwise you're just making things more nerve-wracking than they need to be. If it seems like a guy is more concerned about my dad's opinion than mine, that causes problems in the relationship.

Ladies, do your dads chase away would-be boyfriends, or did they chase away would-be boyfriends when you were younger?

I actually have to agree with the OP on this one.
To be fair I do think that the PARENTS (not just the father) should have a say who their daughter dates when she is still a minor.
But if she is an adult then it's neither one of their businesses.

If my daughter is 18 and wants to go to a party with some friends, I'd give her a taser as a late birthday present and say "have a good time"

[Karolyland]

If I end up being the one to propose to my girlfriend, I kind of want to ask her parents for their blessing. Not permission, just blessing. The thing is, while her step-dad seems fairly cool with me (tolerant at least), she's had next to no contact with her dad and I'm sure her mom hates me because not only is she my girlfriend, but I'm her girlfriend. I've corrupted her little girl, or something.

[Leos]

my girlfriend has some old fashioned parents so they don't ^exactly like me

[Genivaria]

If I end up being the one to propose to my girlfriend, I kind of want to ask her parents for their blessing. Not permission, just blessing. The thing is, while her step-dad seems fairly cool with me (tolerant at least), she's had next to no contact with her dad and I'm sure her mom hates me because not only is she my girlfriend, but I'm her girlfriend. I've corrupted her little girl, or something.

If she doesn't get over it. Elope. Don't let bigots get in your way.

[Demphor]

Well, I'm a guy, I have a girlfriend, and I've asked her if it was cool. Since i've proved to be a trustworthy, protective guy, I guess it would be okay.

If you have a girlfriend who freaks out over little things a lot, asking questions that about her families consent wouldn't be the best thing. If the girl has better things to be mad about, you can ask, but it might annoy her, just pick the right time to ask.

Edit: Bloody spelling mistakes.

[Karolyland]

If I end up being the one to propose to my girlfriend, I kind of want to ask her parents for their blessing. Not permission, just blessing. The thing is, while her step-dad seems fairly cool with me (tolerant at least), she's had next to no contact with her dad and I'm sure her mom hates me because not only is she my girlfriend, but I'm her girlfriend. I've corrupted her little girl, or something.

If she doesn't get over it. Elope. Don't let bigots get in your way.

Well at this point I do want to marry her and I don't need her parent's blessing to do it. I'm in love with her, not her family.

[The UK in Exile]

If she doesn't get over it. Elope. Don't let bigots get in your way.

Well at this point I do want to marry her and I don't need her parent's blessing to do it. I'm in love with her, not her family.

kind of a package deal though.

[Genivaria]

Well at this point I do want to marry her and I don't need her parent's blessing to do it. I'm in love with her, not her family.

kind of a package deal though.

Not always.

[Karolyland]

Well at this point I do want to marry her and I don't need her parent's blessing to do it. I'm in love with her, not her family.

kind of a package deal though.

Well yes. She has to have relations with her family, and by extension so do I. I'm more than willing in order to be married to her.