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by Demonatrix » Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:58 am
by Vellosia » Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:58 am
Femnipotent wrote:Vellosia wrote:You can't choose to be a lesbian - you either are you aren't.
Oh is this one of those nonsensical arguments that goes, "sure you can form romantic relationships only with women for the rest of your life and engage only in lesbian sex, but you're still actually heterosexual?"
Ok sure, if people want to claim that doing this doesn't matter and I'm still a heterosexual, I suppose the claims are ultimately meaningless as it would change nothing.
by Nightkill the Emperor » Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:58 am
Nat: Night's always in some bizarre state somewhere between "intoxicated enough to kill a hair metal lead singer" and "annoying Mormon missionary sober".
Swith: It's because you're so awesome. God himself refreshes the screen before he types just to see if Nightkill has written anything while he was off somewhere else.
by The Yremia Corporate » Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:58 am
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 11:59 am
Lowtovia wrote:theres a philosophical theory that two opposites in the world or the mind are fighting it out to find a equilibrium. You have probably always been a lesbian, but your upbringing taught you it was wrong so you subconsiously pushed it down, but are now accepting it due to the equilibrium being found.
by Free Pangea » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:00 pm
Vote Stewart Alexander for US president in 2012!
by The Yremia Corporate » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:00 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Lowtovia wrote:theres a philosophical theory that two opposites in the world or the mind are fighting it out to find a equilibrium. You have probably always been a lesbian, but your upbringing taught you it was wrong so you subconsiously pushed it down, but are now accepting it due to the equilibrium being found.
And this is the other nonsensical argument, that if I choose to have nothing to do romantically with men that I must have been a lesbian all along. Forget the fact that I was never attracted to women until I chose to be. No, it is much more important to shove things into little boxes and say 'this is this' and 'that is that' and pretend that it's all nature.
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:01 pm
Mourro wrote:
Oh, why do you think sexuality is an ideology? You may want to take care not to over-complicate your natural feelings. You might end up more confused in the end..
by Nature-Spirits » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:01 pm
by Mourro » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:01 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Mourro wrote:I'm not a woman, but I don't think that sexuality is a choice. I think, especially for gay/lesbian/bisexual individuals, it's rather a denial of one's instincts and a fear of potential consequences that force us to make conscious choices in retaliation to our sexuality. But I feel the fact remains that sexuality is natural and no matter how many processes or denials one goes through, the nature of one's sexuality cannot be changed.
Even if is true that the 'nature of one's sexuality cannot be changed', certainly your expression of it can. I do not want to be involved with men even though I was trained to want that. I choose now to only form romantic relationships with women. Somehow that is portrayed as being some sort of awful choice. There are plenty of very unhappy people in relationships with people they are sexually oriented towards, so it is not as though your sexuality guarantees you anything except a propensity to find certain things attractive.
by Esternial » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:01 pm
Free Pangea wrote:Another thing: please don't let people make you feel like you have to be one way or the other just because it's "moral."
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:01 pm
Bitchkitten wrote:I've found that almost all male homosexual men I've met knew they prefered men early in life. But about half the lesbians I've known switched to women after bad experiences with men.
So my personal view is that female homosexuality is less biological than male homosexuality. A good book on this is Sexual Fluidity. Unfortunately I forget the author.
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:02 pm
Blazedtown wrote:
If you've had a tendency to attract the absolute worst men you can, what makes you think that it will be any different with women?
by The Yremia Corporate » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:03 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Mourro wrote:
Oh, why do you think sexuality is an ideology? You may want to take care not to over-complicate your natural feelings. You might end up more confused in the end..
There is so little that is natural about our feelings, growing up in a society as we do that encourages some things and punishes other. We are so socialised that we cannot find what is 'natural' anymore. With this as a given, what does it matter if an individual chooses to socialise herself for a change?
by Gauthier » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:03 pm
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:04 pm
The Yremia Corporate wrote:Actually Lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence, so there goes your bullshit.
by The Yremia Corporate » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:04 pm
by Lowtovia » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:04 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Lowtovia wrote:theres a philosophical theory that two opposites in the world or the mind are fighting it out to find a equilibrium. You have probably always been a lesbian, but your upbringing taught you it was wrong so you subconsiously pushed it down, but are now accepting it due to the equilibrium being found.
And this is the other nonsensical argument, that if I choose to have nothing to do romantically with men that I must have been a lesbian all along. Forget the fact that I was never attracted to women until I chose to be. No, it is much more important to shove things into little boxes and say 'this is this' and 'that is that' and pretend that it's all nature.
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:05 pm
Esternial wrote:You should direct your attention to your partner rather than to the prejudice of others, or at least try to do so.
by The Yremia Corporate » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:05 pm
Femnipotent wrote:The Yremia Corporate wrote:Actually Lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence, so there goes your bullshit.
Yes, so a group of 'Masculinists' have been trying to claim. Ridiculous. Just the sort of gaslighting I referred to in another thread, where men play the victim and pretend that they are being subjected to stunning physical and emotional and sexual violence at the hands of women, and that feminists are hiding it all behind lies about male violence.
by Femnipotent » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:07 pm
Blazedtown wrote:
Because all men are evil and members of the arsonist jaywalker patriarchy.
by Zeth Rekia » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:07 pm
by Mourro » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:07 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Mourro wrote:
Oh, why do you think sexuality is an ideology? You may want to take care not to over-complicate your natural feelings. You might end up more confused in the end..
There is so little that is natural about our feelings, growing up in a society as we do that encourages some things and punishes other. We are so socialised that we cannot find what is 'natural' anymore. With this as a given, what does it matter if an individual chooses to socialise herself for a change?
by Seibertron » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:08 pm
Femnipotent wrote:Esternial wrote:You should direct your attention to your partner rather than to the prejudice of others, or at least try to do so.
You miss the point. I choose to decide what gender my partner will be, and I choose female only. I do not make this choice merely because I was pushed only towards men growing up.
by JustinusCaesar » Fri Nov 11, 2011 12:09 pm
Femnipotent wrote:The Yremia Corporate wrote:Actually Lesbians have the highest rate of domestic violence, so there goes your bullshit.
Yes, so a group of 'Masculinists' have been trying to claim. Ridiculous. Just the sort of gaslighting I referred to in another thread, where men play the victim and pretend that they are being subjected to stunning physical and emotional and sexual violence at the hands of women, and that feminists are hiding it all behind lies about male violence.
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