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PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 10:49 pm
by Meryuma
Suidwes-Afrika wrote:Personally, I don't believe anyone can "fall in love" with a member of the opposite sex until they are of adult age (17, 18, or over).


So much marginalization packed into such a short amount of space...

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 10:52 pm
by Suidwes-Afrika
New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Suidwes-Afrika wrote:Personally, I don't believe anyone can "fall in love" with a member of the opposite sex until they are of adult age (17, 18, or over). Anything before that and it's mostly what I would define as "infatuation". People are too young to understand true love, in the context of romance.


Horse shit. I doubt you could even define love, let alone decide what age you're allowed to have it. Anyway, I would say most people under 30 and a lot of people older than that are obviously going to have a hard time discerning love from infatuation, because it takes experience with both to really understand what they are.


Speaking from my personal experience and the experiences of close friends and family members alone. Of course, there are many unique aspects and elements which one need consider, but can you truly imagine a mere child comprehending in full what it truly means to love? Note that I am referring to love only in a romantic context.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:05 pm
by Mexican Liberation
I knew this girl since kindergarten,We were friends she wanted to be my friend,she had a crush on me,I always neglected her (because I was too young to understand) and felt that she was trying to annoy me.Then in the 3rd grade,I went to another school,we became separated,and I never found a girl like her again.It was until the 5th grade that I understood what I did wrong.I understood that she was trying to be my friend,that she loved me,but I neglected it and took it the wrong way.I regret that.In the 6th grade I allegedly met her again,or it could have been a similar girl with the same name,we started talking,time was running short,I was in a hurry,and I left.On the way home I thought about it,and regret for being in a hurry,I should have stayed to talk.Haven't seen her since that day.At least now I know that both of our schools are right next to each other.My one final chance :lol: ,better hurry up before June though.

Of course there are some other girls who have secret crushes on me.
I know some,and others are complete strangers
That's why I always keep my hopes up :)

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:12 pm
by Sarkiath
Well, if you define "love" loosely, then I'd say around 15-16 (which made it difficult to vote, btw. I settled on 13-15, though). Just some girl I knew in school. We never dated or anything. I remember convincing our teacher that I needed to move across the room in order to see the board more clearly, lol, when really it was just to sit closer to her. I don't think I ever actually talked to her though. :/ Ironically, I saw her a lot more the year after that when she started dating a friend of mine. Anyway, that was my little crush. If you don't count crushes, infatuations, and other random things like that, then I'd say I've yet to "fall in love". I'm 23, btw...that seems relevant.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:13 pm
by Albicia
I was nine when I fell in love with gone with the wind.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:33 pm
by Aethrys
Nope, had a few crushes, but I have a very firm arms length policy with everyone to avoid painful attachments now. (not that I really need it, it's largely just me catching myself thinking about someone rather than having to push others away, and squashing any feelings I think I might have immediately by reminding myself that A: I have no redeeming qualities whatsoever, and B: in a few months I won't be seeing anyone I currently know ever again.) I've almost gotten myself to the point that I'm emotionally dead internally, (externally I don't think I've expressed emotion in about five years.) I still have a few weak feelings I have to suppress every now and then, but I have hope that in a few years I'll just be trained out of it entirely. If it turns out I can't manage it, oh well. I've made enough progress that I can live with the annoyance, I guess.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:41 pm
by Azakhia
I was about 11, living in Puerto Rico.

Estrellita Catala Rivera. Wow, never really thought I would remember that after 40 years.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:43 pm
by Coffee Cakes
Lordieth wrote:Does the Super Nintendo count? What a beauty.


^This. but I was 6 at the time, so I dunno if that counts.

More seriously, I'd say 16-ish. This smoking hot girl in my history class that had looks and brains.
She's down in Florida now, and I haven't said a darn thing to her, even on FB, in like 5 months...
It's a bummer, too... she was one of my best friends in high school.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:46 pm
by Bombadil
Azakhia wrote:I was about 11, living in Puerto Rico.

Estrellita Catala Rivera. Wow, never really thought I would remember that after 40 years.


A fellow will remember a lot of things you wouldn't think he'd remember. You take me. One day, back in 1896, I was crossing over to Jersey on the ferry, and as we pulled out, there was another ferry pulling in, and on it there was a girl waiting to get off. A white dress she had on. She was carrying a white parasol. I only saw her for one second. She didn't see me at all, but I'll bet a month hasn't gone by since that I haven't thought of that girl.

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:48 pm
by Liberatarians
First time really in love? I was 13 years I thought, 2 years ago. With a girl from school. It didn't run into something unfortinalty, and I haven't seen her for around 1 year when I moved from school to another school. It kinda went like this, I said a friend I liked a girl, and he asked which class, so I answered in which class she was, and he said he knew someone. So we had a talk with that guy he knew.

''Hey mate''
''Hey''
''Yeah this is *insert my name*, he likes a girl from your class.''
*I look shocked, a lot of people draw attention to the conversation*
'''Do you know her?'' I ask
''Yeah, I know everyone from my class, how does she look like?''
''Well, uuuh, she quite small, she's *insert random race here* and yeah. She's tanned and she looks gorgeous.''
''Oh, that is *insert random name here*, she stands behind you.''
*Looks behind*
''Oh...hey....uh.....''
'*I walk away with friend*

A couple of days later on a school party

I see the girl again, and a friend (female) of her comes walking to me
''Yeah she talks about you for like 2 weeks non-stop, you should speak to her''
*So I walk with her friend to her*
''So *insert girls' name here*, you should tell him, otherwise I gonna tell him''
*Girl shuts friends' mouth, girl smiles to me*

AND THEN, I DID THE MOST STUPID THING I DID IN MY LIFE:

I WALKED AWAY

PostPosted: Thu Oct 13, 2011 11:54 pm
by Meryuma
Suidwes-Afrika wrote:
New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Horse shit. I doubt you could even define love, let alone decide what age you're allowed to have it. Anyway, I would say most people under 30 and a lot of people older than that are obviously going to have a hard time discerning love from infatuation, because it takes experience with both to really understand what they are.


Speaking from my personal experience and the experiences of close friends and family members alone. Of course, there are many unique aspects and elements which one need consider, but can you truly imagine a mere child comprehending in full what it truly means to love? Note that I am referring to love only in a romantic context.


Don't project. Furthermore, what about a 17 year old or an 18 year old is automatically more mature in any given sense than a 16 year old? Baruch Spinoza was in college studying law at 15, and had a knowledge of Greek, Latin and mathematics at the same age. Paris Hilton is 30 and doesn't have a clue about anything. I've met a 14 year old who can get into bars and a 17 year old who looks like he's 14. There are 16 year olds who have survived life-threatening illnesses and 16 year olds who haven't gone through anything worse than their girlfriends breaking up with them. All the evidence is stacked against you.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 1:48 am
by Nyoronet
18. A girl named Caroline... She destroyed me though. :/

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:00 am
by Trotskylvania
Nyoronet wrote:18. A girl named Caroline... She destroyed me though. :/

Know that feeling, though it wasn't the first love that did that. I've found though, it's blessing if viewed right. Being reduced to rubble makes rebuilding yourself into something better easier.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:10 am
by Kingdom of Gilead
I was 18 years old when I fell for this girl at my school. Her name was Christina and we became great friends but I didn't have the courage to ask her out. One day I actually did build up enough courage to attempt to ask her but I chickened out at the last minute and ended up just shooting the shit with her for a few minutes.. and I'll regret that decision for the rest of my life because she passed away that night in a car accident. If only I had asked her out, she'd be alive today. Fuck.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:11 am
by Aestherra
I've been with my man for 6 1/2 years, together since 14, engaged right before my 16th birthday, love at 1st sight, we had liked each other since 11 but were too shy to say anything, we're age 20, been living with together for 2 1/2 years, never broke up, never had any huge problems, our relationship couldn't be better, he's went through hell for me, our love is beyond unfathomable, we couldn't be happier, & we just got married a week ago. :D

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:14 am
by Qazox
age of first "crush"-- 7 on my 2nd grade teacher. Who would be about 57 now.. but if I could go back in time at the age i'm at now (34) to then, she'd be 30... so it could work. Dammit where's my time machine?

Age of first "love crush"-- 12. With a girl whose name i no longer remember, but after she kissed me once.. i knew I was hetro.

Age of first "true love"-- still waiting.. :(

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:16 am
by DaWoad
Lazssia wrote:
Dakini wrote:Madam is fine.

Look at the poll, if you will. Look how many people didn't find their first loves until after 15.

You'll do fine.

Not so sure. I'm not particularly smart, funny, nor handsome. Dating me would probably be some form of cruel community service.

I feel the same way 'bout myself. Several girlfriends have felt differently *shrugs* you'll do okay man

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:17 am
by DaWoad
Aestherra wrote:I've been with my man for 6 1/2 years, together since 14, engaged right before my 16th birthday, love at 1st sight, we had liked each other since 11 but were too shy to say anything, we're age 20, been living with together for 2 1/2 years, never broke up, never had any huge problems, our relationship couldn't be better, he's went through hell for me, our love is beyond unfathomable, we couldn't be happier, & we just got married a week ago. :D

congrats! and good luck to the both of you.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:22 am
by Lucantis
Ceannairceach wrote:Around the age of seven or so, I believe. To a young girl named Kylie. I didn't see her again until I was twelve or so, and I didn't much like what I saw.


By any chance was her last name "Haderle"? Or something?

Threlizdun wrote:I was 14. Words of the wise, make sure the person you love is actually attracted to your gender before you say anything.


:rofl: Wow.




My first love was when I was around 6........................... Like Threlizdun said when he first posted (the guy I quoted), "Make sure the person you love is actually attracted to your gender before saying anything."

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:24 am
by Lucantis
Aestherra wrote:I've been with my man for 6 1/2 years, together since 14, engaged right before my 16th birthday, love at 1st sight, we had liked each other since 11 but were too shy to say anything, we're age 20, been living with together for 2 1/2 years, never broke up, never had any huge problems, our relationship couldn't be better, he's went through hell for me, our love is beyond unfathomable, we couldn't be happier, & we just got married a week ago. :D


Good luck!

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:27 am
by Nyoronet
Trotskylvania wrote:
Nyoronet wrote:18. A girl named Caroline... She destroyed me though. :/

Know that feeling, though it wasn't the first love that did that. I've found though, it's blessing if viewed right. Being reduced to rubble makes rebuilding yourself into something better easier.


I've never managed to rebuild myself >.>

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:28 am
by DaWoad
Meryuma wrote:
Suidwes-Afrika wrote:
Speaking from my personal experience and the experiences of close friends and family members alone. Of course, there are many unique aspects and elements which one need consider, but can you truly imagine a mere child comprehending in full what it truly means to love? Note that I am referring to love only in a romantic context.


Don't project. Furthermore, what about a 17 year old or an 18 year old is automatically more mature in any given sense than a 16 year old? Baruch Spinoza was in college studying law at 15, and had a knowledge of Greek, Latin and mathematics at the same age. Paris Hilton is 30 and doesn't have a clue about anything. I've met a 14 year old who can get into bars and a 17 year old who looks like he's 14. There are 16 year olds who have survived life-threatening illnesses and 16 year olds who haven't gone through anything worse than their girlfriends breaking up with them. All the evidence is stacked against you.

as an average there are physical developments in the brains of 18 year olds that are not present in 16 year olds.
also as an average, 18 year olds have a degree of independence that makes coercion less likely along with some experience in differentiating between crush, lust, and love.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:28 am
by Holy Marsh
Met her when I was 16, married her when I was 20.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:34 am
by Trotskylvania
Nyoronet wrote:
Trotskylvania wrote:Know that feeling, though it wasn't the first love that did that. I've found though, it's blessing if viewed right. Being reduced to rubble makes rebuilding yourself into something better easier.


I've never managed to rebuild myself >.>

Don't give up.

PostPosted: Fri Oct 14, 2011 2:40 am
by Steel and Fire
Never happened, probably never going to happen.

Because I love everyone equally :D