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by GreaterPacificNations » Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:54 pm
by Dakini » Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:55 pm
Isolated China wrote:Dakini wrote:Yeah, that's the life of a 15 year old.
Seriously though, don't worry about it. You have your whole life to date and have fun. Just relax and do your own thing because you enjoy it. Spend your teenage years trying new things and developing into an interesting adult.
Also, nothing turns people off like desperation. So just go about your life, hang out with your friends, do activities you enjoy. If they're social activities you might meet someone interesting who you hit it off with, but if your goal is primarily to have fun and enjoy yourself (or learn something new) then it won't matter if you do meet someone special or not.
Well, I'm more almost 14. In about a month I'll be 14. But true. Already tried dating once. Didn't work out so well. Turns out she lied about liking me, made up something to break up, then changed her phone number and stopped talking to me. Then went out with her friend, who happened to be in a class me and her had together.
Anyways, I'm guessing you've passed through such stage?
by Threlizdun » Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:57 pm
I actually don't know what affect that would have had on our friendship, as I had basically been telling her goodbye. She was severely depressed, and while I tried to help her she simply got angry at me for that. She was constantly telling me about all the problems she had, was degenerating, began to treat everyone around her poorly, and eventually got into drug use, so I concluded that my feelings prevented me from being able to stand around and watch her destroy herself. Later I became friends with her again, but she started essentially manipulating my emotions and finally got back into drugs again, so I told her to get out of my life. We have made up and split up multiple times since then. What feelings I used to have for her are all gone luckily. I actually had to force them out of myself because I was depressed. The only reason we are still friends is because we have almost the exact same interests, sense of humor, several classes together, and share common friends, so as we can't avoid each other, we both concluded it would be better to just avoid topics that made us angry and just talk about other things.
by Maraque » Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:58 pm
by Newmoonrising » Thu Oct 13, 2011 7:59 pm
GreaterPacificNations wrote:I fell hard into infatuation with a girl when I was 16. Obviously that didn't end well. After that I was well known for getting carried away in romantic fancies of idealised love with each girlfriend- yet paradoxically would tire of it quickly and dump them. Probably some teenager defence mechanism or something.
The first time I'd say I properly fell in reciprocated love I was 19. She meant the world to me. We clutched each other, shut our eyes, and for a moment the entire world fell from beneath our feet and we existed amongst the starts. That moment ended 4 years later when we got divorced (Don't even ask how we got married).
The world was grey and lifeless, winter reigned, and I had all but resigned myself to a embittered cynical life, forsaken of love. After about 2 years, by hurt had numbed away into a kind of peaceful ache- and I had engaged the world again accepting of the premise enjoyment might still be had if love was a sham. Then I fell in love. Laugh if you will. 2 weeks later we were practically living together. 2 months later we had sold everything we owned and purchased 1 way tickets to europe. 1 year later we had lived in Rome, the hills of Lazio, Lancashire, Manchester, and Amsterdam.
Life is love and love is grand.
by The Merchant Republics » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:00 pm
AETEN II wrote:So far, notta. I never have ever felt the feeling and I'm 17. I'll likely go on my first date durring college, seeing how there is not a single female in the school I would ever think of dating. Conservatives, e.e.
by Chaos Crescent » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:00 pm
by New England and The Maritimes » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:02 pm
Soviet Haaregrad wrote:Some people's opinions are based on rational observations, others base theirs on imaginative thinking. The reality-based community ought not to waste it's time refuting delusions.
by GreaterPacificNations » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:07 pm
I'm writing a Steampunk Fantasy novel with Spaghetti western themes and elements of cosmic horror.Newmoonrising wrote:GreaterPacificNations wrote:I fell hard into infatuation with a girl when I was 16. Obviously that didn't end well. After that I was well known for getting carried away in romantic fancies of idealised love with each girlfriend- yet paradoxically would tire of it quickly and dump them. Probably some teenager defence mechanism or something.
The first time I'd say I properly fell in reciprocated love I was 19. She meant the world to me. We clutched each other, shut our eyes, and for a moment the entire world fell from beneath our feet and we existed amongst the starts. That moment ended 4 years later when we got divorced (Don't even ask how we got married).
The world was grey and lifeless, winter reigned, and I had all but resigned myself to a embittered cynical life, forsaken of love. After about 2 years, by hurt had numbed away into a kind of peaceful ache- and I had engaged the world again accepting of the premise enjoyment might still be had if love was a sham. Then I fell in love. Laugh if you will. 2 weeks later we were practically living together. 2 months later we had sold everything we owned and purchased 1 way tickets to europe. 1 year later we had lived in Rome, the hills of Lazio, Lancashire, Manchester, and Amsterdam.
Life is love and love is grand.
Writing a romance novel?
by Ethel mermania » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:08 pm
Isolated China wrote:Derscon wrote:
^^ Everything Dakini says is true.
1. Still owned by the family
2. "bare minimum?"
3. There we go. This is a legitimate reason to think life sucks.
But there are literally hundreds of millions of people worse off than you who live not just neutral, but happy lives. At least you've got some scars to back up your cynicism, though.
Yup. And others that if I mentioned, I'm fairly sure I'd start up a blog on Nationstates. And by bare minimum, I mean enough not to die. But just not enough to be feeled and not be hungry sometimes.
Anyways, I just think it sucks cause of the way people act. Some people can be soooo irritating.Dakini wrote:Yeah, that's the life of a 15 year old.
Seriously though, don't worry about it. You have your whole life to date and have fun. Just relax and do your own thing because you enjoy it. Spend your teenage years trying new things and developing into an interesting adult.
Also, nothing turns people off like desperation. So just go about your life, hang out with your friends, do activities you enjoy. If they're social activities you might meet someone interesting who you hit it off with, but if your goal is primarily to have fun and enjoy yourself (or learn something new) then it won't matter if you do meet someone special or not.
Well, I'm more almost 14. In about a month I'll be 14. But true. Already tried dating once. Didn't work out so well. Turns out she lied about liking me, made up something to break up, then changed her phone number and stopped talking to me. Then went out with her friend, who happened to be in a class me and her had together.
Anyways, I'm guessing you've passed through such stage?
by Newmoonrising » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:09 pm
by The Congregationists » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:13 pm
Four-sided Triangles wrote:I'm erotophobic, I hate to be touched, and I have a fear of intimacy. It's never happening to me.
by GreaterPacificNations » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:13 pm
by AETEN II » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:22 pm
Saurisisia wrote:AETEN II wrote:So far, notta. I never have ever felt the feeling and I'm 17. I'll likely go on my first date durring college, seeing how there is not a single female in the school I would ever think of dating. Conservatives, e.e.
Pretty sure there is a simple solution to that: do not bring up politics. Ever.
"Quod Vult, Valde Valt"
Excuse me, sir. Seeing as how the V.P. is such a V.I.P., shouldn't we keep the P.C. on the Q.T.? 'Cause if it leaks to the V.C. he could end up M.I.A., and then we'd all be put out in K.P.
Nationstatelandsville wrote:"Why'd the chicken cross the street?"
"Because your dad's a whore."
"...He died a week ago."
"Of syphilis, I bet."
by Idealismania » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:23 pm
by Saurisisia » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:32 pm
AETEN II wrote:Saurisisia wrote:Pretty sure there is a simple solution to that: do not bring up politics. Ever.
I could never date with a female whose views are a complete opposite of mine. I strongly believe in the civil rights of all groups and the support of scientific views by the government, not religious.
Also, that is what they believe in, I never said they carred about anything besides their makeup and the latest celebrity news and school gosip. I typically enter class talking about, HOLY SHIT, didja here about how Iran had a plan to assasinate the saudi ambassador to America? This might even be a catalyst for A FUTURE WAR! While they enter talking about who looks cutest and who's dating whom or who said something hilarious at lunch.
The ideal mate for me would be a girl who cared about the world news that's IMPORTANT, believed in civil rights, and was well educated in any subject so that I could have undless, deep, meaningful conversations with her.
by AETEN II » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:39 pm
Saurisisia wrote:AETEN II wrote:I could never date with a female whose views are a complete opposite of mine. I strongly believe in the civil rights of all groups and the support of scientific views by the government, not religious.
Also, that is what they believe in, I never said they carred about anything besides their makeup and the latest celebrity news and school gosip. I typically enter class talking about, HOLY SHIT, didja here about how Iran had a plan to assasinate the saudi ambassador to America? This might even be a catalyst for A FUTURE WAR! While they enter talking about who looks cutest and who's dating whom or who said something hilarious at lunch.
The ideal mate for me would be a girl who cared about the world news that's IMPORTANT, believed in civil rights, and was well educated in any subject so that I could have undless, deep, meaningful conversations with her.
I personally subscribe to the view "all men are created equal" and as for religion/science? Well, I'm not into science all that much beyond my knowledge of Dinosaurs and other Reptiles, so it's basically meh. I also care about world news too, though I hear most of it on the internet or through overhearing local news.
"Quod Vult, Valde Valt"
Excuse me, sir. Seeing as how the V.P. is such a V.I.P., shouldn't we keep the P.C. on the Q.T.? 'Cause if it leaks to the V.C. he could end up M.I.A., and then we'd all be put out in K.P.
Nationstatelandsville wrote:"Why'd the chicken cross the street?"
"Because your dad's a whore."
"...He died a week ago."
"Of syphilis, I bet."
by Trotskylvania » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:46 pm
Your Friendly Neighborhood Ultra - The Left Wing of the Impossible
Putting the '-sadism' in PosadismKarl Marx, Wage Labour and Capital
Anton Pannekoek, World Revolution and Communist Tactics
Amadeo Bordiga, Dialogue With Stalin
Nikolai Bukharin, The ABC of Communism
Gilles Dauvé, When Insurrections Die"The hell of capitalism is the firm, not the fact that the firm has a boss."- Bordiga
by New England and The Maritimes » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:48 pm
Trotskylvania wrote:I was 17, almost 18. Her name was Kristeena. We'd met two years before, when both of us stupidly volunteered to do policy debate on the speech team. We soon became good friends, and for a while, we became almost inseparable. Somehow along the line, I fell in love.
She didn't. What was worst, though, was the fact she kinda went a little crazy around the same time, for reasons I promised never to tell anyone, and because I was enamored and so deeply self-conscious, I wasn't the friend I should have been to her. I was too caught up in being jealous, and so we grew apart. Eventually, we weren't even on speaking terms, which if you are the state finals of policy debate, is generally a bad place to be.
Not to say she was entirely blameless. She handled her problems in very much the wrong way, and she ended up hurting me as much as I hurt her. But I failed her, and it took me a long time to realize that.
But, after years apart, we're starting to put our broken friendship back together, which is nice and omg my life has become a Lifetime movie...
Soviet Haaregrad wrote:Some people's opinions are based on rational observations, others base theirs on imaginative thinking. The reality-based community ought not to waste it's time refuting delusions.
by Trotskylvania » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:50 pm
New England and The Maritimes wrote:Trotskylvania wrote:I was 17, almost 18. Her name was Kristeena. We'd met two years before, when both of us stupidly volunteered to do policy debate on the speech team. We soon became good friends, and for a while, we became almost inseparable. Somehow along the line, I fell in love.
She didn't. What was worst, though, was the fact she kinda went a little crazy around the same time, for reasons I promised never to tell anyone, and because I was enamored and so deeply self-conscious, I wasn't the friend I should have been to her. I was too caught up in being jealous, and so we grew apart. Eventually, we weren't even on speaking terms, which if you are the state finals of policy debate, is generally a bad place to be.
Not to say she was entirely blameless. She handled her problems in very much the wrong way, and she ended up hurting me as much as I hurt her. But I failed her, and it took me a long time to realize that.
But, after years apart, we're starting to put our broken friendship back together, which is nice and omg my life has become a Lifetime movie...
It's called Oxygen now.
Your Friendly Neighborhood Ultra - The Left Wing of the Impossible
Putting the '-sadism' in PosadismKarl Marx, Wage Labour and Capital
Anton Pannekoek, World Revolution and Communist Tactics
Amadeo Bordiga, Dialogue With Stalin
Nikolai Bukharin, The ABC of Communism
Gilles Dauvé, When Insurrections Die"The hell of capitalism is the firm, not the fact that the firm has a boss."- Bordiga
by New England and The Maritimes » Thu Oct 13, 2011 8:51 pm
Soviet Haaregrad wrote:Some people's opinions are based on rational observations, others base theirs on imaginative thinking. The reality-based community ought not to waste it's time refuting delusions.
by Trotskylvania » Thu Oct 13, 2011 9:01 pm
New England and The Maritimes wrote:Trotskylvania wrote:That just establishes how old I am.
Nah, I grew up with the "Lifetime movies" thing, too. It was a pretty recent change. Anyway, the worst part that I know from experience is the "I fell in love, she didn't" bit. It's why I've never really been able to come out with it to someone.
Your Friendly Neighborhood Ultra - The Left Wing of the Impossible
Putting the '-sadism' in PosadismKarl Marx, Wage Labour and Capital
Anton Pannekoek, World Revolution and Communist Tactics
Amadeo Bordiga, Dialogue With Stalin
Nikolai Bukharin, The ABC of Communism
Gilles Dauvé, When Insurrections Die"The hell of capitalism is the firm, not the fact that the firm has a boss."- Bordiga
by 1000 Cats » Thu Oct 13, 2011 9:18 pm
The United City-States wrote:1000 Cats wrote:Oh, it is. It's been well over a decade since, and my romantic life is quite healthy indeed. I did have a little bit of a breakdown when I realized that a potentially very important chunk of my autobiographical memory was blank, but I've since learned to not worry about it. Thank you for your consideration.
Yeah, when I read this, I got emotional too. I'm really sorry man, I hate to hear that happen to you, I hate that that happens to anybody. It's good to hear you're coping; if I was in your situation..... don't even want to go there. I'm sorry that happened.
Norstal wrote:You are a hatiater: one who radiates hate.
Meryuma wrote:No one is more of a cat person than 1000 Cats!
FST wrote:Any sexual desires which can be satiated within a healthy and consensual way should be freed from shame. Bizarre kinks and fetishes are acceptable and nothing to be ashamed of as long as they are acted out in a context where everyone consents and no one is hurt.
by The Merchant Republics » Thu Oct 13, 2011 9:18 pm
Trotskylvania wrote:New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Nah, I grew up with the "Lifetime movies" thing, too. It was a pretty recent change. Anyway, the worst part that I know from experience is the "I fell in love, she didn't" bit. It's why I've never really been able to come out with it to someone.
Yeah. I must admit, it bewilders me. There are times where it seems like a miracle that anyone ever has a requited love.
I've only ever experienced it once, and she was a lesbian I met on the internet. So still doomed from the start, but just by biology.
by New England and The Maritimes » Thu Oct 13, 2011 9:30 pm
Trotskylvania wrote:New England and The Maritimes wrote:
Nah, I grew up with the "Lifetime movies" thing, too. It was a pretty recent change. Anyway, the worst part that I know from experience is the "I fell in love, she didn't" bit. It's why I've never really been able to come out with it to someone.
Yeah. I must admit, it bewilders me. There are times where it seems like a miracle that anyone ever has a requited love.
I've only ever experienced it once, and she was a lesbian I met on the internet. So still doomed from the start, but just by biology.
Soviet Haaregrad wrote:Some people's opinions are based on rational observations, others base theirs on imaginative thinking. The reality-based community ought not to waste it's time refuting delusions.
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