Ashmoria wrote:ya ya
but
for most of us we dont even notice the sexrole stereotypes that we deal with every day. we dont know that they are having an influence on us so how can we try to end them?
surely a worthwhile first step is to try to figure out what is being pushed on you from the outside and what you really like and want to keep.
Right.
It's a good step, for example, for a woman to understand that she is often unhappy about her body. But it can't stop there.
It is another good step to see that media portrayals of women's bodies influence self-perception, often very negatively. That's not enough either.
It is yet another good step to decide that she does not want those portrayals to continue to affect her self-perception. Great work, but keep going!
It is even better to raise awareness about the problem and discuss it with other affected women and with those who produce the portrayals. Okay, and?
But at some point you have to realise that you cannot fully escape it, and that escaping it is necessary to really undo the damage before you can come back fresh, and swinging, and able to work from a position of power.
This is just ONE small issue and yet it is one that has devastating consequences for women. Add in all the other issues women face and it's easy to understand why some of us feel constantly under attack and unable to properly marshal our defences much less be proactive enough to actually accomplish anything lasting.
The women I work with don't have the luxury of engaging in a self-reflective critique of the socio-political pressures surrounding them. They're just trying to get away from the men who have sexually and physically battered them.