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by Europa Undivided » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:26 pm
by Fahran » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:27 pm
Galloism wrote:Fahran wrote:A decent number of MRA's have pretty nasty attitudes and views of women. It's no coincidence that one of the common scenarios that pops up involves hitting women because "muh equality." And, no, there are better ways to criticize the fact that female perpetrators of domestic violence aren't treated with the same severity by society than fantasizing about hurting women.
Tbh, every social movement has a few of those. "Chopping balls off" is a very common one on the other side.
by Rojava Free State » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:27 pm
Ostroeuropa wrote:Fahran wrote:A decent number of MRA's have pretty nasty attitudes and views of women. It's no coincidence that one of the common scenarios that pops up involves hitting women because "muh equality." And, no, there are better ways to criticize the fact that female perpetrators of domestic violence aren't treated with the same severity by society than fantasizing about hurting women.
Mean words is not the same thing as state violence, i'm sorry to break it to you. It also doesn't rise to the level of actual propaganda when you're comparing words people say in private discussions against articles published by institutions which are meant as official stances and records and so on. The two simply aren't comparable.
Retaliatory violence against women abusers being fantasized about is not bad or an example of how the MRM are bad, it's an expression of frustration. It's also an observation on a gender dynamic. There are better ways, and they also engage in those better ways when they're actually campaigning rather than commiserating.
As for it being a "Common scenario", it's one that is immediately available to men as a course of action that doesn't involve the endless psychological gaslighting of engaging with feminist institutions and their word games/sophistry/denials/DARVO and so on. Ofcourse it's appealing.
Notably, they don't actually say you should do it.
Rojava Free State wrote:Listen yall. I'm only gonna say it once but I want you to remember it. This ain't a world fit for good men. It seems like you gotta be monstrous just to make it. Gotta have a little bit of darkness within you just to survive. You gotta stoop low everyday it seems like. Stoop all the way down to the devil in these times. And then one day you look in the mirror and you realize that you ain't you anymore. You're just another monster, and thanks to your actions, someone else will eventually become as warped and twisted as you. Never forget that the best of us are just the best of a bad lot. Being at the top of a pile of feces doesn't make you anything but shit like the rest. Never forget that.
by Novus America » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:31 pm
Rojava Free State wrote:Novus America wrote:
And the idea that Hispanics make up some single homogeneous group is patently absurd.
A rich white Argentine and a poor Amerindian from Guatemala are both Hispanics, but have very little common cause or even culture.
Rich and poor Argentines tend to be similar in race nonetheless though and the distrust is still there. You think I'm cool with the current government of Puerto Rico just cause we look alike? Hell no
by Ostroeuropa » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:31 pm
Fahran wrote:Rojava Free State wrote:you can stand up for equal rights without demanding superior rights. Third wave mysandrists aren't cool with equality or egalitarianism. They want dominance
I don't want superior rights. Hence why I complained about the discrimination involved in this decision. I'm more concerned that this topic seems to be veering towards criticizing feminism as a whole more so than the specific ideas, tendencies, attitudes, and flaws within feminism that have contributed to neglect and abuse of this sort.
by Novus America » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:33 pm
Samadhi wrote:Novus America wrote:
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Monty_Python
A very influential British comedy group from the 70s.
They’re a bit old is it even funny?
Or is it grandfather funny?
by Ostroeuropa » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:33 pm
Rojava Free State wrote:Ostroeuropa wrote:
Mean words is not the same thing as state violence, i'm sorry to break it to you. It also doesn't rise to the level of actual propaganda when you're comparing words people say in private discussions against articles published by institutions which are meant as official stances and records and so on. The two simply aren't comparable.
Retaliatory violence against women abusers being fantasized about is not bad or an example of how the MRM are bad, it's an expression of frustration. It's also an observation on a gender dynamic. There are better ways, and they also engage in those better ways when they're actually campaigning rather than commiserating.
As for it being a "Common scenario", it's one that is immediately available to men as a course of action that doesn't involve the endless psychological gaslighting of engaging with feminist institutions and their word games/sophistry/denials/DARVO and so on. Ofcourse it's appealing.
Notably, they don't actually say you should do it.
Okay my guy, where is this state violence against men? I don't think things are totally fair for guys but I have yet to see armed soldiers gunning men down for being male.
by Chan Island » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:34 pm
Conserative Morality wrote:"It's not time yet" is a tactic used by reactionaries in every era. "It's not time for democracy, it's not time for capitalism, it's not time for emancipation." Of course it's not time. It's never time, not on its own. You make it time. If you're under fire in the no-man's land of WW1, you start digging a foxhole even if the ideal time would be when you *aren't* being bombarded, because once you wait for it to be 'time', other situations will need your attention, assuming you survive that long. If the fields aren't furrowed, plow them. If the iron is not hot, make it so. If society is not ready, change it.
by Galloism » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:39 pm
by Fahran » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:41 pm
Ostroeuropa wrote:Mean words is not the same thing as state violence, i'm sorry to break it to you. It also doesn't rise to the level of actual propaganda when you're comparing words people say in private discussions against articles published by institutions which are meant as official stances and records and so on. The two simply aren't comparable.
Ostroeuropa wrote:Retaliatory violence against women abusers being fantasized about is not bad or an example of how the MRM are bad, it's an expression of frustration. It's also an observation on a gender dynamic. There are better ways, and they also engage in those better ways when they're actually campaigning rather than commiserating.
Ostroeuropa wrote:As for it being a "Common scenario", it's one that is immediately available to men as a course of action that doesn't involve the endless psychological gaslighting of engaging with feminist institutions and their word games/sophistry/denials/DARVO and so on. Ofcourse it's appealing.
Ostroeuropa wrote:MeanNotably, they don't actually say you should do it.
by Fahran » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:45 pm
Ostroeuropa wrote:The solution is to accept feminists are sexists and to marginalize them.
by Galloism » Wed Oct 02, 2019 4:55 pm
Fahran wrote:I don't think the police qualify as a feminist institution, especially not given the prevalence of men and domestic abusers in that profession. But, yeah, it's not a nice hypothetical and one has to wonder why the hypothetical leaps immediately to hitting and hurting women.
by Chestaan » Wed Oct 02, 2019 5:03 pm
Gormwood wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:A little more background.
https://therealdeal.com/2019/05/14/crit ... s-shelter/
https://qns.com/story/2019/05/24/katz-c ... er-timing/
http://welovewhitestone.com/college-poi ... r-proposal
Naw, College Point embraced the shelter wholeheartedly once they said "No Penii Allowed".
by Ostroeuropa » Wed Oct 02, 2019 5:08 pm
Fahran wrote:Ostroeuropa wrote:Mean words is not the same thing as state violence, i'm sorry to break it to you. It also doesn't rise to the level of actual propaganda when you're comparing words people say in private discussions against articles published by institutions which are meant as official stances and records and so on. The two simply aren't comparable.
MRA's lack power but that does not mean that the policies they're proposing and attitudes they're expressing would not have pernicious consequences for women and, as I've argued in the past, many of the issues you label as state violence against men are not motivated by attitudes that, strictly speaking, fall under the purview of feminism. Treating women with kiddy gloves because we lack moral agency is sexist and patriarchal, and would not have been out of place in pre-modern times. Really, the biggest observable change that comes to mind are the laws surrounding divorce and child custody - which are still based on a rigid understanding of gender norms in many cases.Ostroeuropa wrote:Retaliatory violence against women abusers being fantasized about is not bad or an example of how the MRM are bad, it's an expression of frustration. It's also an observation on a gender dynamic. There are better ways, and they also engage in those better ways when they're actually campaigning rather than commiserating.
People who fantasize about situations in which they can feel morally vindicated in hurting another person are not processing frustration in a healthy manner. They're being hateful, incendiary, and deliberately invoking violence.Ostroeuropa wrote:As for it being a "Common scenario", it's one that is immediately available to men as a course of action that doesn't involve the endless psychological gaslighting of engaging with feminist institutions and their word games/sophistry/denials/DARVO and so on. Ofcourse it's appealing.
I don't think the police qualify as a feminist institution, especially not given the prevalence of men and domestic abusers in that profession. But, yeah, it's not a nice hypothetical and one has to wonder why the hypothetical leaps immediately to hitting and hurting women.Ostroeuropa wrote:MeanNotably, they don't actually say you should do it.
Then why bring it up at all? Especially when it might not even be the relevant issue?
People who fantasize about situations in which they can feel morally vindicated in hurting another person are not processing frustration in a healthy manner. They're being hateful, incendiary, and deliberately invoking violence.
I don't think the police qualify as a feminist institution, especially not given the prevalence of men and domestic abusers in that profession. But, yeah, it's not a nice hypothetical and one has to wonder why the hypothetical leaps immediately to hitting and hurting women.
Then why bring it up at all? Especially when it might not even be the relevant issue?
by Ostroeuropa » Wed Oct 02, 2019 5:44 pm
Chan Island wrote:Really disappointing news. It's necessary for there to be much more support for male victims of domestic violence and abuse.
by Ors Might » Wed Oct 02, 2019 6:11 pm
Ethel mermania wrote:Ors Might wrote:You’re probably right. That’s not what’s upsetting, or at least its not as upsetting. Excluding a not insignificant number of people from seeking shelter because of their sex is abhorrent and is part of a wider issue.
The making it s women's shelter was a sop to the community to alleviate their concerns about the crime caused by having a shelter there.
I am a bit playing devils advocate, (full disclosure: I have dated a girl from college point in the long past). I see both sides but I see the communities point.
by Ors Might » Wed Oct 02, 2019 6:26 pm
by Ethel mermania » Wed Oct 02, 2019 6:48 pm
Ors Might wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:
The making it s women's shelter was a sop to the community to alleviate their concerns about the crime caused by having a shelter there.
I am a bit playing devils advocate, (full disclosure: I have dated a girl from college point in the long past). I see both sides but I see the communities point.
See, if the shelter was just flat out rejected due to worries that a homeless shelter would bring crime, I wouldn’t be angry. I’d be disappointed and somewhat annoyed but not actively pissed off. It’s the fact that the arguments rooted in misandry are apparently what won the day for the city. That the fact it would have been a men’s shelter was even a problem. That’s what I’m furious about.
Community doesn’t want homeless shelter because homeless people have a bad rep? Okay, I disagree with that sentiment but I can understand it. I can neither understand nor agree with what actually caused the change.
by GLDF » Wed Oct 02, 2019 7:27 pm
by Proctopeo » Wed Oct 02, 2019 7:56 pm
GLDF wrote:Okay? The location is clearly awful. Why don't they provide services from the building but keep the homeless somewhere else, because the concerns about where it was seem legitimate. And for gender, can't they section it off if they don't want women with men?
by GLDF » Wed Oct 02, 2019 8:06 pm
Proctopeo wrote:GLDF wrote:Okay? The location is clearly awful. Why don't they provide services from the building but keep the homeless somewhere else, because the concerns about where it was seem legitimate. And for gender, can't they section it off if they don't want women with men?
I think they didn't want homeless men in the community, not the shelter itself. Because of purely sexist reasons.
by Gormwood » Wed Oct 02, 2019 8:21 pm
Meligoland wrote:Ethel mermania wrote:That's what this is about. This is local queens county politics. This is a neighborhood that is latin and korean/chinese that doesnt want people shitting on their streets. Its certainly nimby, but it's not sexist.
how is not sexist? they objected to a shelter for men but not one for women?
this is blatant sexism.
by Gormwood » Wed Oct 02, 2019 8:30 pm
by Gormwood » Wed Oct 02, 2019 8:34 pm
Meligoland wrote:Gormwood wrote:They didn't say they would stop fighting the shelter becausecit won't admit men.
And didn't you already make up your mind on what you assume about me?
this was a compromise between having a shelter or not having one. if "women, but no men" is the compromise then it's pretty fucking clear where they're coming from.
by the way, what's your opinion on this? it's pretty clear you're a sexist, but i'd like to hear you say it in your own words.
by Gormwood » Wed Oct 02, 2019 8:37 pm
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