Escade wrote:Enfaru - how about it not be a norm to get a sexually explicit picture or any sexual message or content from someone unsolicited at all.
People do not have to "accept" or "tolerate" any form of sexual harassment or harassment at all.
How about - instead of telling people to hide\evade\just click the x button we tell people "don't act as like vile trash and respect other people's personal space and preferences."
However - you do provide the perspective that unless it's punished in unalterable and permanent ways that sexual harassers will not stop even if there victim indicates discomfort or hides because the sick individual will choose another target. That insidious form of harassment is even harder to discuss and has lasting mental emotional and physical trauma. For that you would have to read up on abusive and manipulative relationships and behaviors.
First of all, what you're doing there is advocating the criminalization thought crime. If someone hasn't done something wrong, then we can't penalize them for it. We don't have to accept harassment, there's an ignore button, we can press it at will and we can report such behaviour where it happens on Nationstates to Nationstates moderators. Wham bam deat. So they come back under another name, rinse and repeat. The mods have ways of permanently getting rid of many folks very quickly. It's why the DOS procedure was invented and it is very good at its job.
We can tell people not to act like vile trash all day but in the end it is their choice and to an extent we must respect the right for other people to have a viewpoint other than own otherwise we become nothing more and nothing less than those we would otherwise seek to remove from power. Freedom is a double edged sword, sometimes people are going to do bad stuff and it is about making sure people are aware of the consequences and implementing the consequences appropriately. Crime → Punishment not Punishment → Hope the crime doesn't happen.
NS Moderators do punish harassers in unalterable and permanent ways. It's called DEAT and DOS. Anything else requires legal proceedings.
Forever Frolicking Bunnies wrote:I wonder what it would be like if we used that same logic in our prisons. Here's how I would imagine it going:
Prison Guard: Well sir it's time to let you go. You haven't murdered anyone since we locked you up, and it would be a corruption of justice to keep you locked away in here.
Murderer: Wow, thanks! *walks out, murders prison guard*
Now obviously harassment isn't equivalent to
murder, but you see where I'm getting at.
I hope this isn't the kind of logic you were using and maybe I just misread what you were trying to say, because it's terribly faulty.
While murder is usually an isolated crime, sexual harassment is not. Sexual harassers are rarely one-time offenders. Their off-time is just waiting for their next victim. I prefer to keep the jail cell locked.
I think you have gone on a tangent here and it's not in line with the topic so I'll stop the train. Needless to say I do not agree with your assumptions.
Forever Frolicking Bunnies wrote:Enfaru wrote:If they're not doing anything wrong they should not be penalized for good behaviour they should only be penalized for bad behaviour. If a "skilled" abuser takes two years to commence actually abusing someone, then it should take two years in order to ban them... If a person abuses once and takes two years, then does exactly the same in two years time under a different account then they should receive a worse punishment than before. However they should not be punished for not abusing. That's just corruption of justice.
The analogy was to show how if you applied that "well it was just an isolated incident" rationale, it doesn't work.
His logic is nonsensical. How else do you punish a sexual harasser in a moderate way without long-term repercussions? How would that even work? His point, if I'm reading it correctly (it was poorly laid out imo), is that such long punishments are unjust because they technically only harassed someone once. This logic is flawed because 1) most sexual harassers are not one-time offenders, which I touched on, and 2) it implies that the punishment should be directly related to the amount of time that person actively acted as a harasser, which also makes zero sense. It is illogical to assume that someone who had seriously harmed another player(s) will not do it again because they haven't in awhile. By placing unreasonable faith in a player who has sexually harassed players, you put yourself and everyone else at risk, like trusting that murderer to not kill you the second your back is turned.
Do tell me if I misread whatever logic Enfaru was attempting to use and I will gladly make a more applicable analogy
Using my own quote. How else do you punish a sexual harasser in a moderate way without long-term repercussions...
"If a person abuses once and takes two years, then does exactly the same in two years time under a different account then they should receive a worse punishment than before."
In other words, the punishment should also be in proportion to the offence. 1 Dick Pic = 1 Deat. 2 Dick Pic = 1 x Police Referral and DOS. Assuming it happens on NS otherwise it's not the responsibility of NS to moderate other sites.
What I am saying is if you are Deated because of a Dick Pic, you should have your account Suspended, but be able to return. In other words a sentence has been given and served. Two years later the player issues another Dick Pic, I'd argue that a Deat should be considered never mind just a suspension. If you're saying that there should be an immediate and permanent ban because one person called another "Darling" and they didn't like it, well we'll agree to disagree.
The argument that most sexual harassers are not one-time offenders implies that they have already been referred to Moderators and dealt with effectively. Otherwise as far as NS is concerned, they are indeed first time offenders. You're more than welcome to file a police report if you think the punishment handed down by NS is insufficient.
Once a criminal always a criminal? Yes, lets throw away all the rehabilitation programs and Prison -> Work programs. Once they've stolen once, you never know they might rob a bank next, can't let them out ever again just in case. I am wholeheartedly of the idea of second chances just in case we got the first decision wrong in some way, and I much prefer the idea that after being punished the person will change their behaviour. (I wonder how many parents have the same view point of their children and how many teachers, police(wo)men, probation officers, judges... ) Looks like you have no concept of the phrase, "Sorry my bad, won't do it again" and actually not doing it again.