Chessmistress wrote:Page wrote:I'm a man-bi-slut!
Hello
I'm a woman bi-slut!
Seriously, maybe for a man it's funny, but it's not so funny for a woman.
Even my actual partner once called me so
, even if she was just joking
It makes me sick. I've heard of people
blaming a woman for being raped because she was bisexual.
I personally don't want to think that rape culture and rape apologists are real and common in the West, and then shit like this happens and I'm just like, stop proving me wrong!! {weep}*
And it doesn't help that there's just no getting away from it. Like you say there's a lot of prejudice even in the lesbian and gay community, this "gold star" bullshit like somebody who touches the opposite sex must be forever tainted. One of my friends has told me a lot of horror stories about dating lesbians I won't go into, but for my part I really only date bi or pan women. Anything else seems to be... emotionally risky. Riskier.
And I'm proud to be a slut. I don't see it as pejorative, rather it's a sign that somebody isn't going to let social pressure dictate how they fulfill themselves. If I find some mutual attraction it's my social life to navigate, and I don't lead anybody on. I tell everybody I'm involved with from the beginning: I'm my own person, I'm not going to be limited and told whom I can see or when, and I won't limit anybody else. I expect to be minimally informed of additional sexual partners as I inform them. Level of detail is optional. Everybody agrees and we're good. And I have a pretty sweet sex life as a result, which has only been getting better. So yeah, I'm a slut. What of it?
*(Wholly aside, I've told my spouse I think my hormones are turning me into a feminist. Part of me is like noooooo I'm egalitarian! Remember all your mother's warnings about feminism! Remember what assholes TERFs are! Noooooooo and yet I end up defending feminist ideas a lot. Often when I don't even want to, if that makes any sense.)