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The Two Jerseys wrote:

Torisakia wrote:Relationship? Never heard of that Magic: The Gathering card.

I don't have nor ever had a relationship because I'm awkward, introverted nerd who lacks the necessary confidence to talk to people in order to engage in a emotional and sexual association despite methods of encouragement and proper medication even if I share certain interests and hobbies with said people, and who refuses long distance relationships because I desperately feed on mental and physical social validation from others on a daily basis.

Yet according to some people on here, that's fixable.

Remember, folks: just be yourself, except when you shouldn't be yourself.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Yet according to some people on here, that's fixable.

Remember, folks: just be yourself, except when you shouldn't be yourself.

Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Yet according to some people on here, that's fixable.

Remember, folks: just be yourself, except when you shouldn't be yourself.

Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

The Two Jerseys wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

Try asking the people here who are saying that not having an attractive personality is something that is "fixable".

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Try asking the people here who are saying that not having an attractive personality is something that is "fixable".

Well, I mean it is fixable, it's just not easy.

For instance, my personality now is nothing like I was when I was 16 years old. I'd beat the ass out of my 16 year old self.

When it comes to "fixing" your personality, it takes maturity and time to do so. It's not an overnight thing.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Yet according to some people on here, that's fixable.

Remember, folks: just be yourself, except when you shouldn't be yourself.

Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Well, I mean it is fixable, it's just not easy.

For instance, my personality now is nothing like I was when I was 16 years old. I'd beat the ass out of my 16 year old self.

When it comes to "fixing" your personality, it takes maturity and time to do so. It's not an overnight thing.

For what determines one's personality, it is often neurological, so can't really be fixed, especially if part of a mental illness. I quite like my personality, but only because I am me and incapable of really hating myself; however, I can definitely see why most people wouldn't get along with me.

Ethel mermania wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

Buy the girl shoes, lots of them.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Yet according to some people on here, that's fixable.

Remember, folks: just be yourself, except when you shouldn't be yourself.

Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Well, I mean it is fixable, it's just not easy.

For instance, my personality now is nothing like I was when I was 16 years old. I'd beat the ass out of my 16 year old self.

When it comes to "fixing" your personality, it takes maturity and time to do so. It's not an overnight thing.

For what determines one's personality, it is often neurological, so can't really be fixed, especially if part of a mental illness. I quite like my personality, but only because I am me and incapable of really hating myself; however, I can definitely see why most people wouldn't get along with me.

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Noone has ever said life was easy. Also, no one here has suggested that you're going to hit the relationship of your dreams the first time.

Not now, not ever.

Further, yes, you can fake your way in bed. If all you want is sex then sure, fake it all you want. But if you want a relationship, you will be found out for who you really are, and then what?

Sometimes it takes 2 or 3 tries. And no relationship is perfect. Just people willing to work at it.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

Ethel mermania wrote:
Buy the girl shoes, lots of them.

Well, yes, but how many is enough?

The Two Jerseys wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:For what determines one's personality, it is often neurological, so can't really be fixed, especially if part of a mental illness. I quite like my personality, but only because I am me and incapable of really hating myself; however, I can definitely see why most people wouldn't get along with me.

Exactly. Someone who's inclined to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd is going to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd, there's no changing that. For them to develop a personality that's more "attractive" to women would be living a lie.

The Two Jerseys wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:For what determines one's personality, it is often neurological, so can't really be fixed, especially if part of a mental illness. I quite like my personality, but only because I am me and incapable of really hating myself; however, I can definitely see why most people wouldn't get along with me.

Exactly. Someone who's inclined to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd is going to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd, there's no changing that. For them to develop a personality that's more "attractive" to women would be living a lie.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:For what determines one's personality, it is often neurological, so can't really be fixed, especially if part of a mental illness. I quite like my personality, but only because I am me and incapable of really hating myself; however, I can definitely see why most people wouldn't get along with me.

Most of the time, when it comes to "fixing" it usually means changing certain habits.

I know I have a set personality by now, and that's fine for me, for I do not hate myself either. But I can stand to change some things even though I, personally, like myself even if people think I'm an asshole.

And then there's just the fact some people won't like you no matter what you do. But you don't have to be liked by everyone either.

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:

The Two Jerseys wrote:Exactly. Someone who's inclined to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd is going to be an introverted, socially-awkward nerd, there's no changing that. For them to develop a personality that's more "attractive" to women would be living a lie.

Introverted, socially awkward people get into relationships all the time. You find another introvert like you.

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Most of the time, when it comes to "fixing" it usually means changing certain habits.

I know I have a set personality by now, and that's fine for me, for I do not hate myself either. But I can stand to change some things even though I, personally, like myself even if people think I'm an asshole.

And then there's just the fact some people won't like you no matter what you do. But you don't have to be liked by everyone either.

I quite like my habits. The problem is that those habits consist of being extremely eccentric to the point that people outright make up assumptions about me without even knowing who I am, and staying locked up in my room for long periods of time.

Like Jersey said, if someone is an introverted nerd, there isn't really much you can change about that.

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
Introverted, socially awkward people get into relationships all the time. You find another introvert like you.

I don't like the way this is worded. I'm reminded of Louis C K's comment about how people need to stop peddling the "there's someone for everyone" BS.

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:
Introverted, socially awkward people get into relationships all the time. You find another introvert like you.

I don't like the way this is worded. I'm reminded of Louis C K's comment about how people need to stop peddling the "there's someone for everyone" BS.

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Most of the time, when it comes to "fixing" it usually means changing certain habits.

I know I have a set personality by now, and that's fine for me, for I do not hate myself either. But I can stand to change some things even though I, personally, like myself even if people think I'm an asshole.

And then there's just the fact some people won't like you no matter what you do. But you don't have to be liked by everyone either.

I quite like my habits. The problem is that those habits consist of being extremely eccentric to the point that people outright make up assumptions about me without even knowing who I am, and staying locked up in my room for long periods of time.

Like Jersey said, if someone is an introverted nerd, there isn't really much you can change about that.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:I quite like my habits. The problem is that those habits consist of being extremely eccentric to the point that people outright make up assumptions about me without even knowing who I am, and staying locked up in my room for long periods of time.

Like Jersey said, if someone is an introverted nerd, there isn't really much you can change about that.

Then perhaps you could change those habits a bit?

A good example would be me. I like to sit and listen to people talk. People think I am intimidating because I just sit there and listen most of the time. I've managed to change that a bit to where I generally have a more relaxed posture and get informed in trivial things other people are interested about to make small talk.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:I don't like the way this is worded. I'm reminded of Louis C K's comment about how people need to stop peddling the "there's someone for everyone" BS.

Well, there is someone for everyone, if you know where to look.

Introverted people tend to get along well with other introverts. I am slightly introvert, but I can very much cause a hoot with some of my more extroverted friends, and if we both can make fun of someone we end up making standup comedy on the spot.

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:

United Marxist Nations wrote:I don't like the way this is worded. I'm reminded of Louis C K's comment about how people need to stop peddling the "there's someone for everyone" BS.

Well, there is someone for everyone, if you know where to look.

Introverted people tend to get along well with other introverts. I am slightly introvert, but I can very much cause a hoot with some of my more extroverted friends, and if we both can make fun of someone we end up making standup comedy on the spot.

United Marxist Nations wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Then perhaps you could change those habits a bit?

A good example would be me. I like to sit and listen to people talk. People think I am intimidating because I just sit there and listen most of the time. I've managed to change that a bit to where I generally have a more relaxed posture and get informed in trivial things other people are interested about to make small talk.

As I said, I actually like the habits quite a bit. I just don't like their outcomes.

Nanatsu no Tsuki wrote:

Soldati Senza Confini wrote:
Well, there is someone for everyone, if you know where to look.

Introverted people tend to get along well with other introverts. I am slightly introvert, but I can very much cause a hoot with some of my more extroverted friends, and if we both can make fun of someone we end up making standup comedy on the spot.

I'm a very socially awkward person. I am personally very introverted (sure, some may find that hard to believe). I found someone. My introverted behavior was never an obstacle to dating. I just gravitated to people similar to me. Et voila!